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So I’m aware I haven’t really posted anything in a while but I hope this reaches someone. My brother’s name is Efren. Growing up he used to tease and make fun of me, but among all the teasing he also helped raise me along with our mom. When he was little he wanted to be an architect. But his is the story that a lot of Mexican American working class families face: either take the opportunities available to you to attain your dreams, or curtail those in order to take care of your family. He chose his family. After graduating high school he turned down full ride scholarships in order to stay and work to help pay the bills. It was just him, my mom, and me. After a couple of years we got stable enough economically that he was able to go to college, but after graduation we fell on hard times again and instead of finding work in his field or applying to architecture school like he always dreamed, he decided to stick around and help us again. It’s because of his choice to help our family that I was able to go to college too, something that for a time I didn’t think was possible. It’s because of him that I was able to apply to and get accepted into a PhD program in the hopes of becoming a professor. It’s because of him that my mom has a house to call her own. My mom and I owe him everything. Yesterday, he was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL). He’s uninsured. I’m a student, our mom works in childcare. There’s a high success rate for remission if he gets treatment, but we can’t afford it. He’s all me and my mom have, and we can’t lose him. He chose family growing up, and it’s my turn to choose him. Please, any donation helps. I just want him to come home.

I know times are tough with covid and everything so if anyone could please just spare a dollar or a reblog thatd be great. I can’t lose him.

paypal.com/Yulenni

cash.me/$pastandfuturequeen

venmo: @Yulenni

(For a transmasc version of this post, click here)

Some of this could also be useful for other feminine people or transneutral people who were camab as well! And of course feel free to add to this post if you have more good links and/or information to share.

& the obligatory disclaimer: transfeminine people can present however they want. There’s absolutely no obligation to do the stuff listed here!

Chest:

Optical Illusions

Bra Sizing

Buying a Bra as a Trans Woman

For flat-chested people

A post about bras

Non-fetish options

Using Socks

Bra inserts: one, two

How To Stuff Your Bra

“Chicken cutlet” bra inserts + Where to buy

GenderMender

TheBreastFormStore + Size Fitting Guide

Amoena

For swimming: one, two, three

Tucking:

What the fuck is a tuck?

How safe is it to tuck?

Advice for tucking

Pain and related issues

Wikihow: How to Tuck

How does Chrissi tuck? Video

Underwear

DIY Gaff

Hair:

Hairstyle Guide

Pinterest hair inspiration: one, two, three, four, five

How to Take Care of Black Girls’ Hair

Egg Treatment

Wig Info

The Do’s & Don’t For Wigs

Wig Buyer Guide

Hair Extensions

Hair Extensions Video

Short hair: one, two, three, four

Voice:

Voice Analyzer App

Eva Voice App

Voice Training with Singing

Voice Traning for Trans Girls Video

Voice Training Regimen

Free Trans Voice Resources

Trans Voice Subreddit

Nails & Makeup:

How To Nail Polish Video

Makeup For Beginners Video

Feminizing Makeup For Trans Women Video

Makeup Tutorials For Black Girls

Hiding Facial Hair Videos: Part 1 and Part 2

How to Cover 5 o’clock Shadow Video

Clothes:

Thrift Stores

Shoes

Dresses

Dressing Like a Grown Ass Trans Woman

Dressing for Broad Shoulders

Tall Girl Resources

Discrete

Butch / tomboy

Sizing: one, two, three

Swimwear

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Androgynous Presentation

HRT Masterpost

Low Dose Testosterone HRT

Top Surgery Masterpost

Breast Augmentation Masterpost

Chest Binding Masterpost

Tucking Masterpost

Transmasc Lower Surgery Masterpost

Transfem Lower Surgery Masterpost

Feminizing Voice Masterpost

Masculinizing Voice Masterpost

Coming Out Masterpost

Gender Questioning Masterpost

Nonbinary Terminology Masterpost

Pronouns Masterpost

Coping with Misgendering Masterpost

Masterpost for Trans Allies

Choosing a New Name for Yourself Masterpost

Writing Trans Characters Masterpost

Transgender Pregnancy & Fertility Masterpost

Being Trans Without Dysphoria Masterpost

Born in Flames (Lizzie Borden, 1983)