my lair

Sam: You almost killed me.

I saw Megamind.

Titan: This town isn’t big enough for two supervillains! Megamind: Oh, you’re a villain all right, just not a super one. Titan: Oh yeah? What’s the difference? Megamind: Presentation!

SOMETHING IMPORTANT THAT EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW

DANIELLE PANABAKER recently, along with other Arrowverse actresses, began a women’s collective called Shethority. This is great. This is a good thing. I support this.

HOWEVER, in The Flash 4x02, there is a B-plot that is, without a doubt, some sexist shit, and Danielle Panabaker, Carlos Valdes, Jessica Camacho, and many if not all other cast and crew on The Flash have been complicit in it. In lieu of the founding of Shethority, it leaves an even worse taste in my mouth regarding Ms Panabaker.

The story basically goes that, because of being busy, Cisco (Valdes) has to cancel a date with his gf Cynthia/Gypsy (Camacho). At first she seems OK with this, and says as much, but then Caitlin (Panabaker) says that no, she isn’t OK with it even if she said she was. Why? BECAUSE WOMAN ALWAYS SAY THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT THEY ACTUALLY MEAN.

THIS IS SEXIST. This is horrible. This is outdated. This is a clichéd trope. This has no basis in fact. And in lieu of the Harvey Weinstein crap that’s happening, it sends a broader message about consent and about taking women seriously. If women say the opposite of what they mean, well a “no” is actually a “yes”, right? If women say the opposite of what they mean, they’re actually lying when they say they were sexually harassed or assaulted, right? If women say the opposite of what they mean, it’s actually THEIR fault for being unclear, right?

This is disgusting and shouldn’t be on any TV show in 2017, and I think that the cast and crew should apologise for letting this kind of absolute garbage be featured on their very popular and influential TV show.

It bothered me as well that the writers added this in the most recent episode of the Flash. 

Like OP says, using the “Women mean something different than what they say”-trope has been used so many times in movies, tv shows,… It raises unnecessary drama and miscommunication that no one needs (honestly, when it comes to The Flash, the team needs to communicate better in general (looks at Caitlin not telling the others she still has her powers)).

A while back, I read something about how women often say that they’re okay with something when they aren’t just to not make a big deal out of it and that they do it because, if they say they’re upset about something or they don’t agree with something, they’re being overly dramatic or a bitch. So instead of wanting to be that person, women decide to let certain things slide just to not get the stamp of drama queen/ bitch.

In the case of Gypsy/Cynthia, it bothered me because we know that she’s a strong woman. We’ve seen on numerous occassions that she’s not afraid to give her opinion about something or to stand up for something she believes in. I’m guessing the writers want to show us that she’s starting to change from someone who’s mainly focused on her job as a collector to someone with more emotional depth. I like this change (and I love her and Cisco together), but it sort of gives off a vibe (no pun intended) that she (and women in general) can’t be both emotional and stand up for what they believe in.

For over SIX MONTHS, she had to harden herself and be strong for the sake of the team. And when he finally came back, Iris felt relieved that she can finally let go of her frustrations and work her way around her confusing emotions with the ONE PERSON THAT ACTUALLY MATTERS.

But look at what happened to her character? She was even more unfairly hated by the general audience, even some of them wishing for her to die. Y'all complain that Barry is depressing as hell in the last season AND WHAT'S THE REASON BEHIND THAT? Her death.

Snowbert in Every Episode: 03x09 The Present