The Forgotten Blog

My family taught me to judge people, constantly. Judge their clothes, their hair, their habits, who they love, how they live, how they worship. My mother and sister think it’s funny to judge the clothing of people they see in public. One of the things that made me stop talking to my father is that he took a picture of a random woman’s tattooed shoulder at a minor league baseball game, without her consent, so he could post it on his Facebook and theorize with his Boomer friends as to what the “meaning” of her ♀️ tattoo meant, including a long side conversation about her “hip to shoulder ratio” and whether or not he thought she was “really female.”

I have to reiterate that what this woman did in order to be treated this way by my father is sit a few rows in front of him at a baseball game with a visible tattoo on the back of her shoulder.

My family taught me to judge people constantly for things that don’t hurt me. I came to the world as a young adult wired for conflict and wired to have a bad time and wired not to get along with people. It took me literally decades and lots of therapy and nearly dying to unwind the judgment for others that my family baked into me. And that judgment made me really miserable, actually! It ruined friendships and screwed up working enviroments and made it hard for me to see the things people do in a neutral or positive light, bc this desire to judge people in order to feel superior to them on the most marginal of points doesn’t easily turn off in your brain. You see everyone as an opponent, always finding flaws rather than points of commonality.

Teach your kids to leave people the fuck alone about the things other people do that don’t hurt your kids. Teach your kids to say “I don’t understand it, but it’s not hurting me, and so I’m glad for them.”

“Quantum physics is this incredible sect of of physics, which basically…

With like, Newtonian physics — I think of it as heteronormative physics — where its basically ‘What are the fixed universal principles that govern the world? If I do A, will B happen? What are the formulas that’ll tell us anywhere in the universe, “What will happen if I input this?”’

Quantum physics is equally a “real” sect of physics that basically looks at subatomic particles — so the very smallest things in our universe, not the macro things — and they contradict basically everything that Newtonian physics shows us. So, the most famous experiment is the Double Slit Experiment, where you fire an electron and it should go through the left or right hole. And then every now and then, it goes through both at the same time. And we don’t really know why. And sometimes, the same subatomic particle is in different locations at the same times.

Suki: “you dont know that, maybe red is aang’s color”

Sokka: “you think the motherfucker who was planning to genocide the entire world with fire has a *blue aura*??”

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