I'm not your service dog

is that trans man in a womens’ only space or is it a lesbian bar that they’re hanging out with friends at.

is that trans man in a womens’ only space that excludes trans women or is it somewhere they’re forced to be, and forced to misgender themselves to exist in, like the girls’ locker rooms in high school.

“Trans men if you’re seeing some horrible people wishing rape and murder on you online just please remember to be kind to trans women it’s not all trans women it’s really just a psyop. You’re big strong men you exist to defend people who are actually marginalized. I know you’re angry and upset because you’re so emotional but you really have to remember that trans women and trans fems are all your allies and friends, the racist ones and the ones calling you a theyfab and a pooner and the n word are all just psyops and please stop expressing your frustration and especially do not call these people incels or misogynists because that would be misgendering”

I don't think going back into the closet is a privilege for any trans person and you as a trans person should know that.

Also if detransitioning and pretending to be cis is a privilege than wouldn't trans women actually be privileged over trans men in that regard? You know, since if a trans woman detransitions then she will gain the conditional male privilege of being perceived as a cis man?

But oh no, detransitioning is only a privilege for trans men because they aren't real trannies like trans women

Struggling with your femininity can be a transfeminine experience.

Struggling with your masculinity can be a transmasculine experience.

Struggling with your masculinity can be a transfeminine experience.

the author of the original "john birthday" comment blocked me 😔 but luckily 👆 i have an alt acc

ts is frying me

ok time to get serious

"its not a trans term its also for cis guys" but i have never, NEVER seen these people use "birthday boy" on cis guys even once. it has always been used by them to talk about trans guys only.

also, entitled to what lol. attention? representation? human rights? damn im sorry how entitled of us

"us calling you this derogatory term used to belittle you and infantilise you isnt even a real issue just suck it up and let us insult you"

It pains me to inform you all that we have found @transfaguette He unfortunately has passed on. Thank you to everybody who aided us, reposted, and had conversations with us to help find him. I wish I had better news to share.

He’s at rest now.

Please take care of yourselves and each other. You are loved, you are cared for, you are so much more important than you could ever realize.

Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-TALK

I never met him, I got here after his note, I never got the chance to meet him; but he is the reason I am who I am now.

I saw his note, and it shattered me, and I saw other transmasc people being bullied, and I couldn't just leave it, I can't let this happen again. I can't lose anybody knowing I could have done something. So now I'm fighting, because I could have been there for him, cause I can be there for others like him, because I will never forget I didn't grow fast enough to help.

Through him, through what he inspired me to do, through how he inspired me to grow, I met more transmasc people, as well as nonbinary and xenogender people. Through him, I realized that my gender and identity don't end at femininity, and I've grown as a person because of it, and I'm genuinely a happier and better person because of him.

I owe my identity to him, I owe my current activism to him, and I will damn well never forget him.

I never met him, I never spoke to him, but he changed my life, and I've been hoping beyond all hope that he was still alive so I could tell him that. I'm grateful for him. I'm grateful he lived. I hope there's something, anything, out there for him.

I'm going to hold your hand as I say this to you. Those same expectations are placed on trans men. Trans men are also expected to be mothers and wives. Trans men also face misogyny and are harmed by it, in the same ways cisgender women are.

It reads like a lot of people think of trans men as Cis Dudes With Pussies when the vast majority of trans men are living (or have lived) many of the same experiences as cis women, and should be included in these conversations.

“you can’t call it transmisandry, misandry isn’t real and is an MRA talking point”

ok, my experience with transandrophobia—

“you’re not experiencing oppression for being a man, you’re just experiencing misogyny and transphobia (but you can’t call it transmisogyny, that doesn’t apply to you)”

ok, my experience with isomisogyny—

“you don’t experience misogyny, you’re a man, and you can’t call it your own special brand of misogyny anyways, you don’t have it worse than anyone else”

ok, my experience with anti-transmasculinity—

“transmasculinity is rewarded, as is all expressions of masculinity in this society. You’re transitioning into privilege”

ok, my experience with transandromisia—

“you don’t experience oppression, look at all these stupid words you made up to make yourself feel special you little birthday boy tMRA”