On the topic of sexual fluidity and conversion therapy, I wanted to reblog this post but I canât because liberal-lesbophobia blocked me because Iâm a lesbian so Iâll just sum it up: some conservative Christian conversion therapists are now abandoning the term âconversion therapyâ (because, as they explain, the term âhas been demonizedâ) and rebranding it as âsexual fluidity exploration in therapyâ.
Go on the goodreads page of that book written by a bi woman where the main character starts out as a lesbian and ends up with a guy, filter for 5 star reviews (most of them written by bi women) and search for the word âfluidâ.
In the first 2 pages of reviews (and not counting the bookâs blurb about ~the fluidity of love), I found 15 different people using the âsexuality is fluidâ argument (usually in all caps) to defend the book. Thatâs why I called it a conversion therapy propaganda book.
Read the document written by the conversion therapists and notice the arguments that sound absolutely identical to what trans & bi women tell lesbians on a daily basis.
Iâll get you started:Â âThe [term sexual fluidity exploration] accurately conveys that the therapist is not being coercive but merely assisting individuals in a client-centered examination of their sexual attractions.â
(âNobodyâs forcing you to date transwomen, weâre just asking you to examineâŚâ)
What they have to say about category change is also interesting: talking about sexual fluidity exploration rather than conversion therapy is better because it âdoes not imply that categorical change is the goal [âŚ] nor does it imply that change which is less than categorical in nature cannot be meaningful and satisfying to clientsâ. Which is exactly the way that bi woman who defended the book yesterday argued - the lesbian character does not become straight, therefore itâs not conversion therapy.
Their rebranding efforts are really successful. Although mostly with people who were eager to support them in the first place.
And of course when they say âScientifically, the fluidity of sexual orientation (and, for our purposes, especially same-sex attractions) for many women and men is now beyond questionâ, they quote Lisa Diamond to support their claim. Diamond, whose study shows that lesbian sexuality is not fluid at all. In fact the main thing her study shows is that bi women love to call themselves lesbians (âOther women with nonexclusive attractions would routinely change their identity labels in accordance with their current romantic partner or social network. If they were seriously involved with a woman, they identified as lesbian. If they were seriously involved with a man, they identified as bisexual or heterosexual, all the while acknowledging that they remained attracted to both sexes.â) and that itâs incredibly harmful to actual lesbians because bi womenâs lies about their orientation will then be happily quoted by conversion therapists to convince their lesbian patients that they too can and should learn to love dick.
Conclusion: bi women, stop pretending sexuality is fluid, it hurts lesbians. Stop calling yourselves gay/lesbian, it hurts lesbians. But you know that, donât you?
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