hello! we are The Clementine Grove, or just Grove for short. we are a traumagenic CDD system who only accepted its plurality recently. we still have a lot of learning & self-discovery to do! we are bodily an adult. here we will be building up a collection of system stuff, & also the system userboxes we’ve made!
we do not have a dni as such, but we do not want any syscourse being brought here. we also reserve the right to block anyone being bigoted/threatening who is making us or others feel unsafe.
we aren’t sure who’ll post here most (if at all) but quite a few of us have taken an interest in this account to some degree, so expect a fair few of us to appear occasionally.
we are verryyy new to tumblr so bear with us please! ♡
it’s likely we won’t do sign-offs all the time, and we aren’t all comfortable with sharing anything about us except our pronouns/an emoji we like.
our userboxes will be tagged with #clemboxes (and other system related userbox tags too) to hopefully make them easier to find :-)
we will be using the language we are most comfortable with for userboxes (which is system/alter)- but feel free to request them with alternative language! we also don’t care if you edit the userboxes yourselves/repost them elsewhere/take inspiration from them/etc. all we ask is that you don’t claim to have made our userboxes yourselves! aside from that, we don’t care about crediting really. it’s appreciated but not needed :-) /g
on a personal note re: how to refer to us and such/general info: our host(s) are trans men, so when referring to them specifically or the body we exist in, please use he/him. Outside of that, it/its or they/them for the system in general. Specific alters do have preferences other than he/it/they, but that’s a lot of explaining, so if you’re unsure, then the above pronouns are fine. as a system we have various diagnoses including autism, OCD, severe chronic/recurring depression (that’s a tricky one lol), several anxiety disorders, etc etc blah blah. boring long list, you get it. we are nonverbal (we use AAC, namely our phone, & we understand VERY simple BSL/makaton) and we are higher support needs. you may see us posting about our physical disabilities sometimes too. Basically, we have very limited energy & capability to post frequently/consistently- please bear with us!
-> personal blogs for specific alters:
@inky-voiding (🪦)
@jelly-caramel-boy (🍮)
(Will update list when/if others want to share theirs or make their own lol)
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Not been using this blog much, so here's a little system update 🩷
• We've learned about over 20 parts.
• We still deal with amnesia a lot. But it's become less scary now that we understand why we miss huge chunks of memory. It still sucks! But we aren't as terrified now.
• We aren't as stand offish with eachother now. We kinda know who we are in relation to eachother and the system (or we're getting there, anyways).
• Being plural doesn't feel scary and entirely medicalised now. Before, a lot of our horror was related to psychiatric frameworks and the very linear "healing" pathways. Now we feel a lot less stressed after learning more about Madness and anti-psychiatry.
• We aren't as fussed over psych labels now. We fit a DID dx, but honestly we don't plan on pursuing it. The way psych diagnoses have been used to harm us outweigh any "benefit" to formal diagnosis.
• We're open about being plural with every peer in our life that knows us well/at all. It's not some dark secret. That's been very healing for us.
• We're getting better at compromise! It's still a bit of a back and forth, and sometimes we still go rogue and make decisions based on just one part's desires, but that's not as drastic right now.
• We have no interest in fusion. We've never been a singlet. We're okay as we are, and that's just... okay 🤷
Generally, we're doing better. Stepping back from psych appointments and shit CBT has helped so much hahah. We're medicated for a lot of different things and been otherwise left alone, which has been lovely. A lot less saneism gets thrown our way nowadays!
So. Two years later, it got better. Things had to change a lot. But we're getting there.
These are going on our instagram (@ cleme.core) later but you guys are getting them here first 🙂↕️. Second part is mostly silly ones- it’ll be in a reblog 🤍.
Second part as promised 🤍. Had fun with these hahah. Instagram friendly versions will go up in a few hours hopefully! Free to use as always. Credit not needed but is very appreciated!
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These are going on our instagram (@ cleme.core) later but you guys are getting them here first 🙂↕️. Second part is mostly silly ones- it’ll be in a reblog 🤍.
i think a lot of younger systems would be better off if they took a minute to stop stressing about roles or consciousness labels or headspaces or origins and just treat members of their system like random guys. that one headmate you can't tell the role of? they like hot chocolate with marshmallows and listening to the rain. you too. you need to be a random guy. being a random guy is good for everyone.
I think that it's really important for people to realize that being disabled is traumatic. genuinely. your body and brain feel like they are breaking down and wrong. you are in constant heavy stress from stuff like chronic pain. most disabled people i know have a somewhat regular emotional break down from the trauma of it all. and we are expected to just smile through it by society, to not be in the way, to not be an issue.
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Realising we are a system has put into context so many things. But the thing we are realising today is that our behaviour did make sense. It may have been impulsive, reckless, and frankly self-endangering; but it made sense. We’ve spent so long thinking we do things for no purpose other than to create further chaos. But no- we’ve just been reacting in the ways our traumatised little brain saw fit. We have been continuing to act in the ways we learned would keep us safe in an unkind world.
Maybe a simple, basic realisation to have at this point, but honestly…? It’s a relief to have even a vague understanding of our own behaviour.
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It's been a while since I've seen a post like this, so... Here's some tips for figuring out who's fronting if you're having trouble!
Try calling yourself by the names of selves you suspect you might be until one of them clicks and feels right. (Or get someone else to do this to you.)
Set up a personality quiz with your system – with different alters as the results – and take it!
Consider how you'd feel if you were told you absolutely were not (insert headmate here). Would you be frustrated? Upset? Would you instinctively push back against that assertion? If so, this is probably a good indicator that you're that headmate.
If you keep descriptions of your sysmates, read through them and see what you relate to, and if you ever feel like anything is referring to you specifically, or that you wrote something.
The previous suggestion can also work for journal entries if you keep track of who wrote what.
This is not an exhaustive list; if you find a different method that works better for your system, use it! And remember, if you feel deep down like a specific system member... you probably are that system member. Good luck figuring out who's fronting and who you are!
Userboxes….. Very eclectic bc tired and forgot about themes/even making userboxes 😭😫 also forgot this is meant to be an account limited to system stuff so. Consider this an apology-offering collection of system userboxes 🥴🫰
- 🌙&🪦 posting (but the last 3 were made by other alters 🩶)
