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Instead of a cutesie reference to film censorship it was an explicit statement of defiance of Maryland's criminalization gay sex, which was not repealed until 2002. This wasn't a guy saying "Oh they can't put what I do in the movies according to a completely voluntary industry code" he was saying "The State of Maryland wants to put me in jail for being gay and having gay sex."

Unusual but sympathetic paper:

Language Matters: What Not to Say to Patients with Long COVID, Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and Other Complex Chronic Disorders

[ID: the Abstract of a study that reads, “People with Long COVID, myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS), and other complex chronic disorders consistently report having difficulty obtaining effective and compassionate medical care and being disbelieved, judged, gaslighted, and even dismissed by healthcare professionals. We believe that these adversarial interactions and language are more likely to arise when healthcare professionals are confronting complex chronic illnesses without proper training, diagnostic biomarkers, or FDA-approved therapies. These problematic conversations between practitioners and patients often involve specific words and phrases-termed the "never-words" —can leave patients in significant emotional distress and negatively impact the clinician-patient relationship and recovery. Seeking to prevent these destructive interactions, we review key literature on best practices for difficult clinical conversations and discuss the application of these practices for people with Long COVID, ME/CFS, dysautonomia, and other complex chronic disorders. We provide recommendations for alternative, preferred phrasing to the never-words, which can enhance therapeutic relationship and chronic illness patient care via compassionate, encouraging, and non-judgmental language.”

A three column table titled, “Table 1. Never-words, their impact, and suggested alternatives.”

The headers are, “Never-words,” “explanation and impact,” and “alternative.”

The first row is "You don't look sick,” “Many patients may appear healthy, but feel very sick with various symptoms, including fatigue and pain,” and “Please refrain from commenting on their appearance.”

The next row is, "You need to stay positive,” “Saying this to patients with debilitating symptoms with limited treatment implies that the patient did not stay positive or that the patient s attitude is to blame for feeling or staying sick,” and “I know it can feel discouraging to feel so sick, and especially for so long. We will work on this together".

The next row is, "At least it's not cancer,” “Minimizing symptoms and disabilities is not well-received by patients who are suffering with non-terminal, but debilitating, and disabling conditions,” and “Comparing diseases to make a patient feel better is a strategy that is best avoided, since it usually has the opposite impact.”

The next row is, "Learn to live with this,” “While this may be practical advice, many patients have already adjusted to living with their illness, but they want to live better and be more functional,” and “I know this illness can really disrupt your life. What did you do in order to adjust to this?"

The next row is, "Good news: Your tests are all normal,” “This is good news for medical professionals, but patients may not care about the numbers or test results if they feel sick. This may also imply to patients that because their tests are normal, they have no reason to feel sick,” and “The tests we have run so far are not showing any abnormalities, and the good news is that we have excluded certain conditions based on the results of these tests.”

The next row is, "Many people have it worse,” “Deflecting the patient's suffering can be perceived as gaslighting by the sufferer,” and “Please refrain from comparing patient's diseases and experiences.”

The next row is, "Have you tried (lifestyle measures: yoga, going for a walk, diet, etc?),” “Many patients have already tried various lifestyle measures without benefits and are seeking further treatment from healthcare professionals, not recommendations of the same lifestyle measures,” and “What are the things you have tried that have or have not helped you?”

The next row is, "You feel sick because you are ___ (psychological label: anxious, depressed, stressed),” “Many patients with chronic illness do have comorbid depression, anxiety, PTSD, and other psychiatric disorders, but in many patients, it is not an explanation nor a justification for why they feel ill. Further, it is important to note that people living with a chronic complex condition experience many losses due to having that condition,” and “If you are suspecting significant psychological or psychiatric comorbidities, please refer your patient to a mental health professional to address these issues.”

The next row is, "You feel sick because you are ___ (fitness label: deconditioned, overweight, underweight, out of shape),” “Many patients have been previously healthy and active, and many patients want to restart exercising and lead an active lifestyle but cannot due to fatigue, pain, and post-exertional malaise,” and “Please refrain from commenting on the patient's fitness level or body habits. A referral to a physical therapist with expertise in chronic fatigue may be helpful.”

The next row is, "You feel sick because you ___ (hormonal status: perimenopausal, menopausal, postmenopausal, postpartum, pregnant, menstruating, ovulating),” “Many patients with Long COVID, MECES, and other chronic disorders are women who can often differentiate between hormonal symptoms and symptoms of chronic disease. Additionally, hormonal influence on symptoms is well-documented but is not an explanation for the cause of the underlying disease,” and “Please refrain from commenting on the patient's hormonal status. A referral to a gynecologist or endocrinologist might be appropriate if there are concerns of hormonal abnormalities or need for hormonal supplementation.”

The next row is, “"You need to (instruction as cures: lose / gain weight, start exercising, get fresh air, get out of the house/bed, get a job, get a hobby, start dating etc.),” “While a healthy lifestyle is important, the patient did not choose to stop it: the lifestyle changed as a result of the illness. Additionally, while lifestyle measures are important, they are unlikely to cure or effectively treat the underlying medical condition,” and, "When you feel better, we will work together toward a common goal of improved quality of life and a healthier lifestyle".

The next row is, "You look too (appearances: good, young, skinny, pretty) to be sick,” “Comments on appearances are inappropriate because patients with chronic illness may not look sick like patients from with acute illness. Many actually hide their ill-appearing looks, especially when seeing a healthcare professional,” and “Please refrain from commenting on patient's appearance.”

The next row is, "We don't have any treatment for your illness,” “While this may be true for some illnesses, given no FDA-approved therapies, symptomatic treatment is available, and the patient should not be made to feel like they are being abandoned by the medical team,” and “We will talk about the available treatments we have that can make you feel better".

The next row is, "You need to stop thinking about your symptoms so much,” “In our experience, improved symptom control results in many patients improving their function and decreasing the negative thoughts and feelings about their symptoms. In those patients who continue to perseverate about their symptoms, psychological support, and cognitive-behavioral therapy may be appropriate,” and "You have good awareness of your symptoms. I'm wondering if we can come up with a way for you to easily track them, so we that we can see the small changes when you begin to feel better".

The next row is, "You have to find something productive to do with your time,” “This statement assumes that patients are bored or have too much time on their hands, whereas, for most patients, having complex chronic illnesses is time- and energy-consuming and may be equivalent to having a full-time job managing disease and medical care. Additionally, many patients are not physically and/or cognitively well enough to be productive,” and “Try to distract yourself with doing pleasurable and meaningful things that you can still do for short periods of time".