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It turns out he was some pathetic, depressed, boundary pushing, emotionally manipulative alcoholic. And all I could think was I really would like to stab that man. Like he needs to go. And it made me reflect that not all men are physically abusive of course but emotional manipulation and abuse is like second nature to most of them. This pathetic man tried to use some sob story of a disabled foster child to get me to do things I didnt want to do. Isn’t that crazy?

And after that night I had horribly anxious dreams. Dreams that these men were trying to kill me. It’s always been on my mind that these men could kill me but like it hit me in such a devastating way …in the ways they simply don’t see me as a human and thus i am disposable to them.

I could never imagine trauma dumping on a man or a woman to try and emotionally manipulate them so they would be more inclined to give in to my desires because they pitied me. It’s pathetic. And yes I’m not a fat, ugly, old man but this behaviour is amongst the young and fit men too.

If you are making the transition into high end s*xwork now is one of the best times of the year to buy lingerie and begin building your wardrobe. Summer sales, anniversary sales, sample sales and Black Friday/after Christmas sales was when I would buy almost all of my lingerie when I was first starting out.

Most of these sites/designers are a bit on the pricey side (which is another reason to buy when it's on sale) but I put a few mid and lower cost options/brands in here as well because not everyone has Agent Provocateur money.

Agent Provocateur - 30% off site wide (use code AP30) this may not seem like much but if you purchase from their outlet (pieces that are already discounted) it will add up nicely (doing it this way and you can literally buy a set for less than $100).

Bluebella - up to 50% off site wide definitely check out their "outlet" section as well

Bloomingdales - 25% off selected items

Curvy Kate - up to 50% off site wide - great store if you are plus size

Dita Von Teese - 20% off and though that may not be much, her sales page is definitely worth checking out

Fleur du Mal - an EXTRA 30% off of sale items with code 30FLEURYOU

For Love and Lemons (on their site, not VS) - 30% off everything, use code CYBERWEEK (if you're into very feminine, pink, "girly" lingerie, definitely check out their sales page)

Harlow and Fox - 30% off all in stock items (they don't have a large collection of in stock items because their lingerie is usually made to order but I wanted to mention them because their bras go all the way to G cup)

Journelle - 20% off everything which includes their sales page

Moxy Intimates - $10 off $50, $25 off $100, $45 off 150 + free US shipping

Net-A-Porter - up to 50% off select styles

Playful Promises - up to 85% off of everything

Revolve - up to 70% off

Saks Fifth Avenue - up to 80% off of select styles

Studio Pia is having a sale as well (the discount depends on the collection).

The Outnet - an additional 25% off of everything with code BLACKFRIDAY

And my absolute favorite: HONEY BIRDETTE IS 50% OFF select styles (just stop reading and go right now)

Honorable Mentions:

Ann Summers - up to 50% off everything

Yandy - up to 80% off sitewide

I know Ann Summers and Yandy are not considered high end, however, I'm mentioning them because if you need photos, doing online s*xwork or need additional pieces to create content to post on your social media, these 2 sites can really come in handy. However, if you are really slim and/or have a small chest be very careful if you order from Yandy, a lot of their sets have a tendency to run slightly on the bigger side (even their size small) and a lot of their pieces are actually sized S/M and M/L not S, M, L, etc. They do have some XS pieces that will fit A cups fine. But if you are plus size, they have a substantial collection of plus size lingerie.

I’m Angel and I need your help.

I am a bisexual/2spirit, disabled, Métis full service s*x worker in dire need of secure housing and other essentials.

MY MOST URGENT COST IS $500 FOR DOCUMENTATION NEEDED TO GET HOUSING.

Right now I need at least $2500 for first and last months rent on an apartment because my current living situation is unstable, toxic, uncomfortable and barely liveable. Thanks to donations I’ve been able to make some accommodations to make it more comfortable but ultimately I need to move into my own place if I want to be able to get back to work so that I can support myself again.

I’m diagnosed with autism, PTSD, anxiety, Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, three different types of tachycardia & other chronic physical and mental disabilities that make working a regular job impossible for me, sex work is the only work accessible to me, but I can’t work with my current living situation

I have to remain anonymous for my safety but you’re welcome to DM me for details and I’m happy to share.

If you can’t donate, likes, reblog and boosts are an incredibly reliable and free way to help!

Ways to help:

Paypal

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Look I understand that white people have stolen a lot but copying them when it comes to historical revisionism is UNETHICAL.

History should be told truthfully. Cinderella was a white woman, but her prince wasn’t white.

Her name was Rhodopis, and she was a sex worker/slave, a courtesan to a black king who married her.

(Speculation on which pharaoh this was varies, the following photo is lightly inaccurate because Ahmose is from the 18th dynasty)

This “marriage” likely her status upgrade from common heaux to royal courtesan etc, is said to have been instrumental in led to the fall of Egypt, leading to a power exchange from the hands of POC and ushering in the Ptolemaic dynasty filled with white Greeks, Thracians and Macedonians and was the final Egyptian dynasty, which coincidentally is the only dynasty or time period that is typically shown in usually in Hollywood, aka the story of Cleopatra - who was a multiracial or biracial half black/half Greek woman. (They found the bones of her sister Arsinoe and did tests, yes she was biracial etc) Black women don’t need to reclaim this story.

If anything white men erased this story because they were embarrassed by its true orgins and what it said about white women, and their original place in the ancient world’s social heirarchy, in other cultures. They whitened it up. Misogyny + the Madonna/Whore complex made them embarrassed that it wasn’t just war, that helped them conquer & colonize kingdoms. They sold white women into sexual slavery and pimped them out to other races. White women weren’t seen as the bastions of purity and sanctity back then. Black and other races of men used them for sexual gratification etc.

This story is about a white woman who transcended those social barriers and was granted legitimacy. This increased white women and men’s social value and worth. Her elevated status, as a royal consort to the king, meant she could bend, influence and help her people. White women were not seen as marriage material back then, they had the same status in the social hierarchy as black or darker skinned women do today and were considered the lowest on the totem pole.

The Rhodopis/Cinderella story is a story between a white woman and black man. I would like to say it’s a love story but it’s highly likely this is a survival sex work sucess story. This story is does NOT need to be claimed by black women, This is a white woman’s story, that white and black men tried to whiten and black wash because they are both too embarrassed to admit what actually happened.

Do not use your credit/debit cards to pay for ads. DO NOT DO IT.

Consider this a sexworker PSA: If you live in the US and pay for ads (Eros, Tryst, Pandemos, etc.) do not pay for it with a credit card/debit card. The credit card companies and banks can close your accounts. Without notice. Without warning.

Let me repeat that: DO NOT PAY FOR YOUR SW ADS WITH CREDIT/DEBIT CARDS. THE BANKS CAN CLOSE YOUR ACCOUNTS.

Instead, use a prepaid debit card (such as Bluebird, Greendot, etc,). I would even take it a step further and only use a prepaid card from a bank/credit card company that you never plan on using in your personal life. For example, if you have Visa and Mastercard credit/debit cards, use a Discover or American Express prepaid card; and only use it for SW related business.