#sunfriend

them reading it as strictly platonic is, better, mostly cause i never expect anyone to get it right. (and, like, it’s not entirely wrong, we are best friends before anything.) but lord does it finally feel so good when i’m able to explain it and someone acknowledges it. gets it.

i was talking with another friend of mine yesterday. i’d kind of been intending to maybe express platonic intimacy with her more to eventually talk about how i hoped to remain close with her even though we both have partners now (she’s biromantic). somehow she started asking about my sunfriend and i, and i was getting anxious that she was wondering if we were… romantically involved, even though she knows i’m aro and uninterested in romance.

her: “so what’s been with you and [angel] recently?”

and i… wasn’t sure how i was gonna explain the stuff that happened in the past two weeks, so i sorta just shrugged and said, “we’re partners now.” i didn’t clarify what kind.

then she asked if it was a qpr. which! caught me off guard because i didn’t know she knew about that! and long story short i went down a road explaining alterous attraction/love and how my angel and i sort of “grew into love” and she was… surprisingly receptive. i told her all about how my sunfriend and i ended up where we are, i told her about the term “sunfriend,” i told her about relationship anarchy and how my relationship w/ my angel is basically just “as long as we’re both comfortable, anything goes.” she even asked how much of this she was allowed to tell others. like.

then she was asking me how i tell the difference between platonic and alterous attraction, and whether the latter was “more than” friendship (i don’t describe it like that personally) and somehow the conversation ended up about me talking about how i hold a deep platonic love for her and how i… was hoping that it wouldn’t have to drop in favor of partnerships. and she was like, “you know what, i really appreciate that, and i’m glad we talked about this,”

and we hugged tight and hhhhh— we promised to always be there for each other for as long as possible.