'I'm not as masculine as your average tomboy lesbian I suppose.'
'Some people call me a stem. I'd class myself as a stem because I do wear makeup. I've been out for nine years now, coming up ten years. I think it affected my mum a lot yeah because I'm her only daughter. So I feel like she believes that, like maybe she won't get no grandkids.'
'Obviously growing up like when I hit, like 21 kind of thing, you've gone through puberty now, do you know what I mean? So you kind of have to like, I don't know, that when was when I kind of loosened up a little bit. When I'm with my friends this is how they see me. This is how I feel comfortable around them. But when it come to like, family functions, erm, I do go feminine as a respect thing as well. Obviously my nan's not keen on my choice. But yeah so I do go fem to family functions. When it comes to going to certain places and being fem and getting attention from men it gets on my nerves a lot. It makes me feel sick and gets me very angry. It's just like a thrill for them cus you're gay. It's just wrong it's disgusting.'
'I used to hate the fact that I have breast. And now I wish I was bigger, I'm not going to lie. Yeah, I've embraced it, I've embraced it. I wish I had a little bit more body, but yeah in time.'
'I'm just about to get a shape-up cus I'm deejaying tonight. Going into a male barbers' it doesn't faze me at all. My first barber that I used to go to, he knew me anyway. He refused to cut my hair but, yeah I was kind of like part of the family and we had quite a lot to of banter about my sexuality and if I'm ever going to go to men. But yeah it's all calm for me.'
'I think as a DJ you get attention anyway. I've always been this way but I've noticed that I've got quite a lot more attention. I notice the changes in people because.. it wasn't because I was stem or anything, just the fact I was a DJ that status I had.'
Kaspa, The Black Lesbian Handbook: The Stem (2015) (also available on YouTube but it's age-restricted)
