#stem lesbian

White tumblr lesbians saying stem isn't real and a recent label oh brotherrrr. The label is 20 years old at the youngest, there is a direct connection with Black gender presentation with hip hop culture, there is a historical use of it in Black lesbian communities, and stemme gender presentation is distinct from white androgyny. Apart from being antiblack you're blatantly ahistorical. You lot will constantly position butch with white masculinity and actively tell people to not use the label if they don't fit it, Black lesbians make our own shit in response and you're saying we can't use those either? How cheeky! If you're saying Black lesbians, who are masculined *and* judged for being masculine genuinely don't understand how gender presentation operates in society and actually think that Black tomboyism and Black androgyny are socially acceptable in wider society, you're clapped.

I need y’all to put y’all big girl panties on and STOP infantilizing yall self within the lesbian community. I’ve been on tumblr for all of 3 weeks and I’ve already seen some pretty disturbing shit within the community. Every other post was something along the lines of “ butch x femme” dynamics. and what I’ve peeped is you hos are pick me , butch centered even. No identity outside of feening for butches. I mean I get it they’re hot but that’s ALLLL some of yall talk about. Language is very important here and the way a lot of mainstream lesbian accounts write about butch/femme dynamics literally just makes butches sound like men . Stop making the studs out to be men my gawdddd! i've noticed theres such a huge focus on like a working butch-stay at home femme in those spaces and “oh femme is soft, sweet, and artistic and butch is hard, protective, smart, and hardworking" Real lesbians share the load regardless of the label. Taking care of ur masc partner doesn’t emasculate them they could still be just as butch hardworking n strong but femmes are not docile helpless creatures . Butch x femme is not heteronormative but the roles you place on yourselfs and your butch is. This frame of thinking created the rise in soft masc. y’all are reinforcing the mindset that The only way to be treated with love care and respect is to be even somewhat feminine , if not in presentation then in actions. Speaking of the importance of language in the lesbian community, saying STUD is just as queer if not queerer as saying butch. It’s important that we as black lesbians be louder in our appreciation for studs. If we don’t use OUR language they’ll erase it.

I know everyone loves strap but no one talks about wanting to hump and grind in 5 different positions while we hold onto each other for dear life.