#self ship rant

Just yesterday night, I won’t say exactly who but I saw someone use the F/O tag to promote their selfship, which would normally be fine, except that it was an RPF selfship with someone who had…extremely morally objectionable views, especially with Tumblr folk. IYKYK. I still can’t tell if it’s ragebait or not, but either way it just made me (and probably others) extremely uncomfortable, even if it is kinda funny.

So, I’d like to remind everyone that RPF/parasocial selfshippers are not welcome on this blog. There is a very clear difference with fictional characters and real people. Fictional characters aren’t real. So they’re pretty much your personal playground to do anything you want with them within reason, and there’s almost no risk. But real people? These are real people with real emotions, and you’re selfshipping with them without their knowledge or consent? It’s pretty much stalking at that point. Not to mention it has real-world consequences, even not just selfshipping. Just…I can’t explain it, but RPF is just…icky. And I want nothing to do with it or with anyone doing it.

I love this community and I love engaging with it, but…some people in it genuinely need help. I don’t care if it’s ragebait at this point.

Rant over.

Hey, self-shippers- yes, ALL OF YOU, because we ALL need to crack down on this and do better- there's probably quite a few of us, if not a lot of us, that don't like sharing some of our F/O's, and that's okay.

However, what's NOT FUCKING OKAY is GOING INTO THE INBOX OR DM'S OF A USER WHO SHARES AN F/O WITH YOU THAT YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE SHARING AND CALLING THEM NAMES/SLURS, TELLING THEM THEY'LL NEVER LOVE THAT PERSON, AND/OR THEN SAYING THEY SHOULD ACTUALLY KILL THEMSELVES. What in the actual FUCK is wrong with you? I don't care if you're a minor or an adult in the community, that shit is absolutely disgusting and unacceptable.

We as a whole need to do better about cracking down on this kind of behavior, for real. Self-shipping is a place where people should be able to feel welcome and able to ship themselves with characters they love without having to feel like they have to walk on eggshells just so they don't incur the wrath of others who think it's okay to treat others like this. This shouldn't be what people imagine when they think of self-shippers, but a few bad apples will bring our image down and make it to where no one wants to even joke about interacting with us.

To those self-shippers who are not okay or comfortable sharing your F/O's in whatever way- if you come across someone who shares one of those characters with you, instead of pulling shit like that (especially on anon, you spineless cowards), either just block the person without saying anything if you don't interact or have never interacted with them, or if it's someone you know/are on good terms with, kindly inform them not to talk about that F/O in personal interactions or have them tag posts with a certain tag so you can block that tag and hide them from your view so you don't have to see them. There's ways around everything here that avoids being an asshole to people and they're not that difficult to do.

I want to be proud to be part of this community as someone who's in it, not ashamed of it because of instances like this; even if they don't happen very often, they still happen, and they shouldn't. We can do better, we can be better.

I also wanted to rant and say about an anon post I saw:

Although I don't exactly consider myself to be a "big" blog, I absolutely do care about every single one of my moots and followers. I may not be super active, but do my best to uplift all selfship blogs, big or small, when I can or have the energy to do so. I'm personally quite active outside of Tumblr and I've got a lot going on so although I'm chronically tired and may miss some posts, I do not post to this blog or interact with others for clout. I do it out of genuine love for you guys, your ships, this community, and most importantly, my love for Franky.

I know nobody asked for this rant but I just wanted y'all to know that I love you guys!!!

this isn't smth i usually post but i feel like i hav to say this >_<

i'm srry if i come off as petty or rude but-

if u want any of my mentally ill f/os bc u think "i can fix em" or js think they're hot for what they hav then i fucking hate u.

i don't care ab how much u say it. i don't care if u think they're waifu material. u only want em for the looks n u wouldn't want em if they were real!!

idc if they're pixels. i selfship w/ em bc i relate to em in some ways (possessiveness n mood swings. no i will not b naming what i hav).

Like dude, he’s a fictional character, if your uncomfortable by me talking about him you could’ve told me yourself instead of letting your “knights” talk to me about it, Jesus Christ you fucking dumb