#selfship rant

I genuinely believe that people who rag on nonsharing selfshippers have some kind of ableist undertone. They are always like, “They’re delusional! They are way too obsessed with their f/o(s)! Why do they think they OWN a fictional character?”

First of all, we are not delusional.. that is probably one of the most ableist things you can say to someone especially if they ACTUALLY have delusions. Selfshipping can vary in many different levels, and it is so stupid how you can find a sharing selfshipper who is just as dedicated to their f/o(s) as a nonsharing selfshipper, and people would choose to call the nonsharing selfshipper delusional.

Not to mention, have any of you considered that the reason they’re so obsessed with their f/o(s) is because they are coping with something or have a hyperfixation on said character? Like, have Yall not heard of that specific character helping with their mental health..? And that maybe that character is the only thing they have that makes them happy….?? Or that the selfshipper is neurodivergent and just have very big hyperfixations on the character…….?????

And truly, we do NOT believe that we “own” our f/os. I gen don’t know where y’all got that from. “Your f/o would think you’re toxic with how possessive you are!” Or maybe.. my f/o wouldn’t want randos flirting with them either. Maybe my f/o is also jealous and doesn’t want me with anyone else either. Or MAYBE you should just get outta my business..?

Basically, I believe that nonsharing selfshipper haters are ableist because they just use ableist insults and can’t seem to take it into consideration that people with mental health problems use such things to cope and just don’t like to see their f/o with other people. It can put them in a horrible place mentally, and for some reason people just lack compassion in such areas. As a nonsharing selfshipper, I was once in a place surrounded by doubles and people who shipped my f/os with other characters and it was genuinely so triggering to me that I was put into a horrible mental space and hurt a bunch of people and myself.

This is not an excuse for my behavior, but it is definitely a reason for people to set boundaries and other people to stay out of our business. You don’t know what someone could be going through, and even if they are being an ass, do NOT use it as an excuse to rag on their attachment to their f/os. That loops every nonsharing selfshipper into this toxic rhetoric and gives people the impression that they can be ableist simply because of our mental problems, coping mechanisms, and hobbies. If there is a nonsharing selfshipper who HAPPENS to be a wiener, please just block and move on, do not go around telling everyone how horrible nonsharers are just because of some bad apples.

Just yesterday night, I won’t say exactly who but I saw someone use the F/O tag to promote their selfship, which would normally be fine, except that it was an RPF selfship with someone who had…extremely morally objectionable views, especially with Tumblr folk. IYKYK. I still can’t tell if it’s ragebait or not, but either way it just made me (and probably others) extremely uncomfortable, even if it is kinda funny.

So, I’d like to remind everyone that RPF/parasocial selfshippers are not welcome on this blog. There is a very clear difference with fictional characters and real people. Fictional characters aren’t real. So they’re pretty much your personal playground to do anything you want with them within reason, and there’s almost no risk. But real people? These are real people with real emotions, and you’re selfshipping with them without their knowledge or consent? It’s pretty much stalking at that point. Not to mention it has real-world consequences, even not just selfshipping. Just…I can’t explain it, but RPF is just…icky. And I want nothing to do with it or with anyone doing it.

I love this community and I love engaging with it, but…some people in it genuinely need help. I don’t care if it’s ragebait at this point.

Rant over.

so these dropped...haha. i'm not okay

first off the pose? the pose is doing something to me. he looks SO good tying the headband, it gives off a stern look but at the same time it's sort of relaxed in a way? and that's kind of amplified by the fact that he's biting the glove like ohhhmy god i never thought the day would come where i would see sei biting a glove like that but oh my god i'm tweaking out he looks SO GOOD HIS ARMS LOOK SO GOOD AND BLACK LOOKS SO GOOD ON HIM, the look on his eyes, i know this is close to his default expression but there's something more to it like he's saying "yeah i ate so what now" and it's crazy because this is akashi seijuro and i know he is always devouring but i really like seeing him cocky. also his eyes look sanpaku in the main art but normal in the chibi art which is a little confusing but artists do tend to give him both and i appreciate that ....

listen i am not a big fan of the clothing but considering it's a uniform i can't really complain but ,,,, he looks delightful. black really suits him. i think all colors do actually but black normally hits different for some unexplainable reason. he looks so elegant and almost regal (no fucking pun intended).

peter the horse is here

holy shit. so he puts one glove on and decides to tie his headband before putting the other one? that surely is odd but i won't question. whatever. whatever guys he looks amazing i don't even have words to describe it

already said that but bonus because he looks like he's switched poses with atsushi and honestly THANK GOD i adore crossed arms sei but that wouldn't be very varied. also chihiro looks better than usual wow. you can TELL the artists like mayuaka

Me when i see a ship with my f/o that isn't me and them but instead its them and some other canon character instead like

Stop it, you will never be us. Stop trying, i dont care for this "canon x canon" bullshittery.

Someone just mistook my f/o for a black hole :(

I’m still kinda irritated rn bcs of how they said it, but I’m not too upset.