#safeforaspec

One of the parts of being ace means people ask questions about your sex life. As a sex repulsed ace, I either make a conscious choice to avoid the question, lecture about why it is inappropriate, or specify that I am celibate. And I want to talk about why I choose the word "celibate" over the word "virgin" when both apply.

First, many people seem to associate "virgin" with "victim." You haven't had sex so you are lacking something in your life. As my friend pointed out, it is also often attached to the word "yet." I haven't had sex yet. "Celibate" is a choice. It is showing I have control over my life. I am consciously making that word choice so people understand I am not a victim and content with my lifestyle.

Second, "virgin" gives background to my pass, and again, people make assumptions that I wanted or want to have sex and was turned down or never given an opportunity. Celibate looks towards the future, as well as the present. It doesn't tell people more details about my life.

Third, "virgin" implies youth and childlike, which also implies lack of knowledge and experience. Innocence. "Celibate" does not have those connotations. It is a word about adults, who understand what they want in life. And I do, well in this regard anyways lol.

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🍏 Aplatonic🍏

To not experience platonic and/or queerplatonic attraction or form bonds based on those attractions.

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Asexual awareness week has started! And I thought it would be fun to continue my tradition of asking you lovely folks to share stories about your journey as an ace-spec!

Stories can be about:

How you figured out you were ace-spec

Funny anecdotes

Positive experiences

As long as it's a generally positive message any story is welcome!