#recoverycourse

I feel like, it's very easy for people to get caught up in the most inflammatory interpretation of certain things, especially online with algorithms!!(They will push typically whatever gets the most engagement, and that's controversial things!!)!! And then argue that, In a very black and white way, when everything is a mishmash of a billion different colors.

I think if something is causing you distress, you should work on recovery. But if it's not and it's not ruining or taking over your life? Then that's fantastic! (I feel like this should be basic, not a hot take, but maybe I'm wrong with some of the things I see on this and other accounts?)

Personal example, I used to be utterly obsessed with the idea of someone killing me or someone wanting to kill me. It was unhealthy, would send me into random panic or other strong emotion spirals or mania, and was making it so fucking hard to live and have any sort of normal(I mostly mean healthy and good for me, not normal as defined by the society I live in) relationship. It took a lot of work to help get past that, and I would consider myself recovered.

But like, I'm still into necro and auto necro and generally being unconscious or intoxicated. And there are ways for me to play that out without actually harming myself and while being able to maintain friendships. It's only a paraphilic disorder if it's causing you to stress and fucking up your life, and you only really need recovery if it's doing that or in general something you don't want.

To actually be any sort of radical group, we have to take the outside ideas of recovery (becoming """normal upstanding citizens"""), and destroy it, redefine it in ways that actually suit us. Just like gay people don't need to "recover" from being gay but do you still have to deal with internalized homophobia and things like that, and everyone should generally try to work to be the best version of themselves.

Like always, even if I forget to say it, I love you guys and I hope we all have the best days possible. -🐈‍⬛🍇

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It’s a fandom tiktok video below. Please let me know your answers I’m so curious about it and I’ll most likely watch it for myself

let me start this by saying that i dont really consider myself radqueer. i used to use the label, i used to coin terms, i actually used to be (somewhat) well known in this community, but not because of anything i *did*. its because of something that someone else did to me, that caused me to act irrational alot and lash out and such. ive since grown from those behaviors, and part of me growing and healing from it, was to take a step back from the rqc entirely and just reflect on myself and my values, and who i am as a person.

i let hatred dictate my morals and actions instead of doing what i knew was the right thing.

i recently had a short hospital visit, and in that time i was able to reflect even more. i simply cannot keep putting energy into hatred. i might make an offhanded comment here or there privately, but really, its so exhausting to genuinely hate someone and want them dead. ive stopped caring. people have abused me, and im currently in contact with one of them, and ive simply stopped caring about what they do. recovery or not, it isnt my business anymore. i dont have to worry about it. its like. freeing almost?

i realize now that the best thing you can really do for yourself as an abuse victim isnt necessarily to forgive and forget, but to just take a step back and wonder if its really worth it to argue and fight with a person who you know is going to live the rest of their life being miserable about something that is, ultimately, in their control.

because most of the time, it isnt worth being upset and angry and hateful all the time. eventually the people that have hurt you or wronged you will learn. or they wont. and theyll continue to be miserable. and them being miserable makes me feel 100x than the inverse of constantly wondering and worrying what their next move will be.

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Just putting them all in the tags. Take a look at them and block the ones you need to.