#post factive

post-fictive | post-factive

post-fictive: a system member who previously identified as a fictive, but no longer considers themselves to be that same person

post-factive: a system member who previously identified as a factive, but no longer considers themselves to be that same person

needed a post-fictive flag for a request and figured i’d also make a post-factive flag! the top three stripes are shades of grey and black to represent the ‘post’ part of these terms, and the bottom three stripes are from this fictive flag and this factive flag respectively!

flag id: two flags with 6 stripes. the left flag’s stripes, in order, are grey, dark grey, black, dark indigo, purple-pink, and gold. the right flag’s stripes, in order, are dark teal, red-pink, and yellow. end id.

(Fact-types include but not limited to: factlinks, factkin, factives, factual introjects, facthearted, fogtives, fucktives/faitives, partial factives, etc.)

This post and this blog are inclusive of ALL systems, including non-traumagenic, non-disordered, non-diagnosed, and self-diagnosed systems.

It’s okay if you’re proud of that period of your life, and it’s okay if you’re ashamed of it - but really, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Note on the shame: if you behaved cruelly to others while identifying as a fact-type, you don’t have to be ashamed of your fact-type. And if you’re ashamed of your behavior, please be patient with yourself. Try not to beat yourself up. You deserve your own forgiveness. Making an effort to change is good and I’m proud of you for that.

It’s okay if you discovered you’re not actually kith, but kin, or vice versa, or any other mis-identification. I’m proud of you for coming to understand yourself/ves more.

Even if it was a phase, or a temporary stop, doesn’t mean it wasn’t valid or you were faking all along. Everyone changes.

Whatever identity you discover you are, whatever you choose to do, we wish you all the best.

And remember, self/ves-discovery has no finish line.

Something I (🤍) noticed about my "source" recently is that I'm based around a couple assholes from our past while also being someone Tim had to be growing up. I used to be considered "bad" when "I" was known as a persecutor, but nowadays I don't align with that "old me" that Tim saw/heard of. I'm not THAT Tommy, but I sure am based around "him."

In my system whenever we lose someone a factive of them forms. I'm a post/ex factive of one of our grandfathers who was formed this way. We didn't know him to well so there wasn't much for me to form from so I started off as a fragment. We learned more about him after his death so an identity started to build but I rejected it as it wasn't a nice one. The grandfather emotionally abused the body's father and that wasn't someone I wanted to be connected to so I chose to no longer be a factive because I was capable of doing so. I still hate the fact that I was connected to him at all though. I may have rejected it now but it had an impact on me and who I became. I even still go by his name because no other name feels right. I feel bad for ever being a factive of him and wish I could erase any trace of him from my identity but I can't.

Mod Silhouette: Thank you for your confession.