#polyam stuff

nah its cool dude!! sorry, i just remembered u sent this djdjjdh this is gonna be rambley and confusing and might not help, so bare with me here

the way i kinda knew was just imagining myself in a poly relationship tbh. i found out what being polyam was, read a few fics with that, and was like “hey, what would that be like?” and then i daydreamed abt it for a bit and when i was done i was like “oh niCe love that omg”

thats not like all ofc, bc theres a lot of pros and cons about being in a poly relationship. something that mono ppl dont seem to get is the whole jealousy thing. i see stuff like “how can you date more than one person??????? then they dont rlly love you!!!!!”

but thats not how it works with me! one of my previous partners was poly too, and she had a crush on someone. and when she told me i was like “aww thats so awesome!! whats their name!! tell me all abt them aaaa!!”

i get excited at the thought of my partner liking someone else too!! i think “hey if it makes you happy, go for it!!” and i dont seek out poly relationships, but i love being in them and the idea of them! just being able to love more than one person and being loved by more than one person? or your partner getting so much love? thats amazing to me!! i love that!!!

and another thing: i never got why people think being polyam is so bad! “your partner will cheat on you!” no, poly relationships are built on trust and communication, and i honestly think they bring you closer together! “they cant love all of you!!” uh yeah they can?? djshjs and some people who are polyam just dont feel comfy with monogamy and thats valid!!

This past weekend I met my boyfriend's (we've dated for 5 years) new girlfriend he's been dating for about 2 months or so now. Immediately could feel the connection and vibe between them, and that translated into a happy vibe between her and I. She's such a sweetheart! I loved to see them cuddle and seeing them both so happy.

Compersion all around! He had always thought he was set on just occasionally having a fling outside of our relationship, never having interest in actually dating anyone else until he met her. It was quite sudden to him to realize he wanted to pursue something with her, and I fully endorsed it and gave all my support. I had a few bumps here and there with some slight fear of being left but all of that has been wiped out. She has no interest in taking him away from me and I can't ever imagine her doing so now that I've met her.

After she left, I immediately told my girlfriend all about the happiness I was feeling so that she could share in the joy too. I already can't wait for her to come back for another visit! <3 Poly life has been an adventure and I feel like moments like this are the pay off. I keep catching myself sitting here at work with a goofy grin on my face from how lucky and awesome I feel. I had to share with more people I knew would understand!