#passive forcing

During passive forcing I simply talk to them but I think active is supposed to be more engaging?

Hmmm well active forcing we usually do in our headspace/wonderland- visualizing the world around us and how our members can interact tangibly with it helps new tulpas a lot, imo. Explore wonderland maybe! Or hell, maybe do something with their guidance in outerworld if they have any way of communicating?? liike draw a picture according to their directions or play a simple game together or something.

Ehh, for some, it is actually pretty mentally draining to make a tulpa in the early stages. It takes commitment and giving them attention every day early on until they eventually become self-efficient and don’t constantly rely on your attention to stay active. Most do this by dedicated sessions known as active forcing, others like me primarily give their tulpas attention while they’re doing other things known as passive forcing.

I have this whole 40+ page guide on how to create a tulpa and what to do afterwards right here, but in short: a tulpa can be created through dedicated focus, usually meditation for a varible of time (usually a few weeks or so on average and depending on a lot of other things), direction this attention at a form or entity until that entity eventually becomes sentient.

Really, it can be as simple as talking to the void until it talks back. However, it can get incredibly deep (the 40+ page guide and expanding is pretty self-evident) and complicated since there’s so many things to do with a tulpa during their creation process and even after they’re sentient.

Hope this explanation suffices!

Oct. 24, 2016

While I felt like I had forgotten to passive force almost all day yesterday and this stayed up til 4:30 am to make up for it, today I felt like I was very successful in passive forcing!

I took Roman everywhere, talked to him whenever I could, let him sing or listen to music in the car, told him what things around us were, made darn sure to think about him whenever possible, and even asked him to send me anything about things I looked at.

When I told him to say hello to Fluffy, I felt like he did. And when I suggested he say something about his appearance, I thought I heard “skin.” So I started feeling his skin and then got stage fright in meatspace because he asked me what I was doing and I admitted why I was rubbing my hands all over him. xD;

I do try to keep things broad when asking him for some kind of thought, or at least give him options. That way it’s not as easy to accidentally focus on what I expect him to say and thus fulfull it myself. When I ask for a color, it’s “green or red,” “white or blue,” etc. Or today I asked if he wanted to hear a story about my family, or two other options that I legit forgot pfff. I remember family because that seemed to be the one he chose.

For our active forming session (all of which have been short so far @.@), I told him about roleplaying, Halloween, got sidetracked and told him about extra things, how I met Fluffy, and then told him a little story about the first time I went trick-or-treating.

I was reading about things to do with my tulpa beforehand and felt a very calm, relaxed, yet eager, feeling in my chest. I interpreted this as Roman being excited to active force, as I often do before sleep because the rest of the day is busy.

A lot of newer people in the community aren't sure how to get into more narration and communication with their tulpae, and perhaps the young tulpae aren't sure what to talk about yet.

Walking through Walmart with Jake tonight made me think about this.

Next time you go grocery shopping or to a convenience store or to the mall, remember to listen and talk to each other! You don't need to go out of your way for this trip. You can multitask. It'll make your chore more interesting and it'll be a good learning experience for your tulpa(e).

When I go to Walmart, both of my guys are instantly stimulated by all of the stuff and the people there that they've never seen before, and they ask me a lot of questions about things I got used to decades ago.

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Jake: This place is huge!

Prajit: It must be difficult to find what you need in a place like this.

Me: It helps to make a list beforehand. But look *points* they have all of these signs, see?

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Jake: What's "hot cereal"?

Me: Basically oatmeal.

Jake: Why don't they just call it oatmeal then?

Me: I don't know, it's pretty stupid.

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Jake: OMG There are so many options! I wanna' try 'em all!

Me: I can't afford that oAo And half of it's gross anyway.

Prajit: Should we get the cheapest, or the healthiest foods?

Me: See, that's where it gets really tricky. Healthy things tend to be more expensive.

Jake: Ha~! Junk food it is >:D

Prajit: No--Sarah needs to keep her body healthy for all of us to be well. ~

This time of the year (beginning of October) is particularly good because we're headed into the holiday season, so there's lots of special stuff around, like decorations and candy.

My guys have asked me what it's all about and I point to different things (or gesture mentally, anyway) and explain the customs of the holiday, the history of how it began, my personal experiences, etc.

They've tried different types of candy that we've seen if I've eaten it before and therefore have the knowledge of what it tastes like.

They can think about what they'd want to dress up as for Halloween.

We discuss what we're going to do this year to celebrate the holiday.

etc.

There are many opportunities for conversation that can be sparked simply by your tulpa having a question about something they see.

Or, if you have a particularly shy tulpa, you can point some things out and ask them if they know what it is. This is a good warm up for them because they can start with a yes or no answer to get talking, and you can explain something and tell them they can feel free to ask you about anything they see.