#packer

BIG OC and redesign dump I’ve done over the past few weeks

You want to feel like a man? Then start acting like one—and that starts between your legs. I’m not here to coddle you, I’m here to wake you the fuck up.

We’ve been fed this line that “manhood isn’t in the genitals,” that “you don’t need a dick to be a man.” You hear that everywhere. It’s comforting. It’s safe. But guess what? Safe doesn’t build confidence. Safe doesn’t bulge in the mirror when you walk past. Safe doesn’t make you grab your crotch and feel powerful.

I’m saying you deserve more than what they told you to settle for. You deserve to take up space in your boxers. You deserve the weight. You deserve to stand up to piss and look down and see it hanging.

Metoidioplasty, phalloplasty, even a packer stuffed into your briefs—they’re what take the flatness between your legs and turn it into presence. Into swagger. Into “Yeah, I’m packing. So what?”

perhaps instead of glass slippers its a packer & he drops his packer while fleeing

prince/ess has to go see whoever wears the bulge the best or something to find their prince lmao

i love this because theres a heavy implication that he saw his dick in detail before the end of the ball the easy answer is they had hot steamy sex instead i like to imagine the prince a real freak and was caught peeping on the cinderel (masc form of cinderella) in the john and he was kind enough to show the man and the prince decided to commit it to memory he replays the scene in his mind every time he closes his eyes and curses himself for not taking a taste

finally

I run a blog that recommends the best methods for things like tucking packing binding and padding/stuffing menstrual care and more, I also try to spread general safety resources for anyone who needs it. And I add more information as I learn new things. now i have way more then just trans/intersex/drag type stuff.

The plan is to put links for all my recommendations then have a link to another post that explains things like instructions, safety, and how to wash and care for and alter what I recommend. (my intro post is linked here, I want to keep the master list pinned instead of it and one more thing) Why don’t I have a DNI?

And I’m always open for questions or requests, I’ll do specific research on any items you ask about to answer whatever questions anyone sends. I take both asks and DMs, its what this blog is here for.

status: everythings updated :) my grammar is messy but i did my best, ill probably be going back and fixing grammar at some point later maybe. (updated as in everything i wanted to put here, is here but that only off the knowledge i already had. like i said if i learn something or get more resources for something im missing ill add it.)

1. News. for keeping up with news about people who are affected by gender/presentation/sex/sex variation discrimination in the states Erin in the Morning(this is who i got these three news links from i recommend subscribing to Erin in the Morning theres a option for a free subscribtion) Anti-Trans National Risk Assessment Map: 2026 February Edition(the most updated anti gender/sex/presentation national risk map breaks down each states safety. the anti trans is just the name, i acknowledge this isn't accurate and this affects many more people) LGBTQ+ Legistlative Tracking 2025(tracking all the anti queer bills) Transgender Healthcare "Shield" Laws(sheild states that promise to protect trans people. again it shouldnt just be trans people here) where to get HRT USA map (informed consent) good news lists 1.notes

2. packers, harnesses, altered boxers, stp tutorial(stps can be finicky and arent stealth, i wouldnt spend alot of money on one) free crochet pattern first video tutorial second video tutorial free knitted pattern free sewing pattern altering boxeres to hold a packer how to attach a packer safety instructions and care

soft silicone packer (US shipping on hold, customs restrictions. production times are four weeks.) another soft one different brand (international shipping from uk. two weeks production times.) more information on tarrif costs safety instructions and care why I picked the packers I picked shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit

3. breast forms and bras and bra care and shapewear free crochet pattern Knitted, website with free pattern and videos easier sewn breast forms Intricate sewn breast forms (cost money boooooo) silicone circle option or silicone triangle option another option shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit pocket bras or expensive pocket bras and shapewear you can get cheaper underwear from stores near you read my link it explains if you can’t afford or safely buy shapewear more information bra fitting guide bra fitting stuff bra fitting calculator

padding and stuffing hips thighs butt and bras at the very bottom theres a workout guide in teh work out guide theres a link for how to work out to gain hips thighs and butt

4. repairing torn silicone(again for specifically soft prosthetics, breasts and packers) sil-poxy safety instructions and care

5. silicone adhesives for prosthetics wig tape(walkers ultra hold. i don't have a link for this, check shops near you or online stores. walker doesn't sell this directly to people. if you don't use the walker brand remember you need something with extra strength to be the equivalent to ultra hold) and Uni-solve adhesive remover for the remover wipes youll need to check online stores for that one (if you cant get this a hair dryer on high heat low blast works to loosen the adhesive so you can get it off safely or a hot shower) information

6. trans tape trans tape or big roll of off brand i get into which one is better for what situation here safety instructions and care

7. binders this gets complicated so again please read the stuff i link safety instructions and care and the three brands cut comparison how to alter, repair, and reinforce a binder and if you can’t afford or safely get a binder how to sew your own binder (the person who did this said it was cheaper for them to make it then buying it) how to tell if a binder is bad or cheaply made safety talk/what to look for in binder fit more

at the very bottom theres a workout guide and in that workout guide theres a link to a guide on how to work out to loose hips thighs and butt and/or how to make a more triangle or square build depending on what youre going for here

8. tucking this video is what id recommend for this 8. notes 9. menstrual stuff pads recommended, adult diapers for heavy bleeding, if you can insert something then Saalt Menstrual Disc or Saalt Soft Cup, (i read the disc is better) gender and sex neutral guide to menstrual products to insert inside (information on cups and discs) shaving guide for men women and non binary people (doesnt acknowledge intersex people :/ i couldnt find a better shaving guide) voice training information on dysphoria therian and otherkin addition :) phalloplasty, metoidioplasty and vaginaplasty masterlist diy hrt and where to get HRT USA map (informed consent)

----------------- other recommendations

adulting

guides for the internet, tech, shopping, and cleaning finanial aid more financial aid (mostly international but it depends) good rx(not insurance but discounts on medication) things to keep in mind about boycotting keep in mind about activism protesting safety disabled protesting more seatbelt safety (for people and pets) Reminders vaccines

Things you can do to help everything script to use when calling to complain about KOSA for SCREEN take any of the free patterns for packers and breast forms make them and drop them off at local trans centers or homeless centers and if you have the money do the same with binders bras boxers underwear and the reusable menstrual discs and cups(these are especially amazing because they’re silicone you just rinse them out shower and reuse every time every month so homeless people and just anyone doesn’t have to spend money on tampons every month. They’re also safer then tampons) and get vaccinated

blogs I recommend for positivity and resources trans-punk-experience, transsexual-experiences, dandelionsresilience, letters-to-lgbt-kids, queer-mental-health, anti-terf-posts answersfromzestual, crafting-and-tea, reasonsforhope, isuggestcompassion,

the family blogs, people who listen your-queer-lil-sib, big-sister-blog, bigbroadvice, your-new-big-sibling, your-trans-brother your-queer-dad(he’s been taking breaks so there won’t be quick responses, the breaks are a good thing just want to make that clear) trans-joy-is, intersex-joy-is,

this-is-sexism(one of my favorites) this-is-transgynephobia, this-is-transandrophobia, thisis-intersexism, this-is-excrosexism, this-is-amato-heteronormativity, this-is-aphobia, this-is-internoirism, thisisracism (these last two are about poc experiences!!! thats so rare on tumblr im so excited!!! please do go check them out!!)

sex ed blogs(real accurate sex ed, as in intersex inclusive) comprehensive sex ed, dhddmods(is back) sex characteristics and genitalia variations rundown whats igm/ how to check yourself for it list of sex surgeries (reconstructive, constructive, sex reassignment etc are all under this) where to ask questions and unpack negative sterotypes about peoples sex this is one of my favorites when it comes to 101 of gender and sex some things to keep in mind while youre going through all this sex binaries are bad no matter how you slice it even if theyre degendered. and its up to people to label themselves, people cant force labels on you or force information out of you, and at the same time you cant transition into being intersex because its a sex situation youre born with. at the same time pretending like everyone who has x and started as y is z is not the move to make. and everyone is oppressed under patriarchy and everyone has a word to describe their feelings, misandry isnt a incel word they stole it and warped it just like how radfems stole and warped feminism and misogyny, but it doesnt make any of it theirs. lastly anyone can be any kind of bigoted being any gender or anything, doesnt make you more or less likely to hurt anyone or be hurt by someone specific, there are so many people in this world and so many ways to think you cant generalize groups and assume one is safer and these others are unsafe based on factors people cant control. and of course never threaten anyone or drag things out when someone is trying to harass you the safest thing to do is to just report and block and move on. i have complicated feelings about some of these guides and "this-is" blogs because a lot of what i listed out isnt acknowledged or ever taken seriously but they still do hold the most updated guides so just tread carefully and its the same way the other way around too my resources are open to everyone as long as you dont start harassing me or my followers or anons etc

blogs I like about mostly bugs and fish and art onenicebugperday, marinebiology1, snoopyoftheday, herpsandbirds, mammalianmammals, stickyfrogs, uncharismatic-fauna, bugposting, sealsdaily, bugthingsdaily, fishthingdaily, isopawds, maggotmuncher0, amingledyarn

and the art masterlist

music recs (mp3 information in tech masterlist)

tech masterlist

cooking masterlist

big how to clean everything list

working out (theres guides in here on how to use workign out to loose hips thighs and butt and how to gain hips thighs and butt)