I wanted to write a little something about the harmful depiction of stereotypes surrounding Muslim people that many people fall into due to the Islamophobia and the propaganda that's spread by the western world as well as ignorance.
As a person who grew up Muslim and specially AFAB, I'm not going to deny the harm that our community and sometimes culture causes.
A big distinction that I feel people should be more aware of when writing Muslim characters (especially if you yourself aren't Muslim and trying to represent said population) is the overlap between religion and culture. Oftentimes people mix those two together and get a false impression on one of the two.
My biggest take on that is "Don't judge the believer but the religion itself." Because many believers tend to nitpick what they like and use it against others. A huge example of that is men picking only what benefits them and ignoring what compels them to have some responsibility towards the women or others in general.
I wont get too deep into that though. I'm going to break down some of the harmful stereotypes people have and explain why sometimes no matter what, you aren't qualified to write on those with your perspective if you, yourself haven't lived that.
- Muslim people are backwards and very fanatic. I've seen it many times. Someone makes a character either for a story or for a roleplay and they pick a Muslim girl and make her terrified of her parents, make her uneducated, sheltered, naive, easy to trick all because she's Muslim and her Dad and Mom are restricting her freedom. That, is oftentimes VERY offensive, especially if written by a white non-muslim man. Especially if the story they want to explore ISN'T something they should be telling. To me it just feels, very weird for someone to attempt and spread that message when they themselves never ever experienced it. It's like a non-black person writing about a black person being under slavery in an attempt to talk about slavery. That's simply not your story to tell. Leave it to others.
- Muslim women are uneducated or married off. While oftentimes, women in Islamic countries end up being wed at an early age or not getting education, the issue lies in the blame that people point towards it being related to them being Muslim. This issue mainly stems from the culture and the circumstances of said countries. We all know many Islamic countries are poverty ridden and or under wars that are caused by the Western countries. (USA, ISRAEL, BRITAIN ETC). LIKE. Let's be for real. Under poverty getting your education gets hard and making a livelihood gets even harder, so it's only a natural causation that many muslim women living in poverty laden countries end up getting married without getting their education. Of course I do not agree with that sentiment and how a woman's education takes the backseat in sake of the sons receiving their education BUT TRUST ME, even men don't receive education in these countries. My mom and dad, both Palestinian Jordanians, had a different course regarding their academic lives. Someone ignorant would probably assume that my dad received education and my mom didn't, right? Well. It's the exact opposite actually. My mom received higher education and my dad quit highschool and had to work. They were both poor as well. Even further, my dad's both and only sisters GRADUATED from university with degrees in Mathematics and Religion Education. People that live in the better part of islamic countries like the Gulf (kuwait, saudia etc) receive education regardless of their gender and even have governmential benefits pushing them towards higher education. That does not erase the women who are forced to quit school to marry or to take care of the household; again an issue in culture, misogyny and economical status usually rather than the religion itself. Even women in the western world still experience these gender based discriminations.
- Muslim people want to kill their kids if they deviate from the image they have for them. Now this is a very HEAVY and sensitive topic because it usually ties into LGBTQIA matters as well as religious expectations Muslim people might have of their kids or fellow Muslim people. As member of the LGBTQIA, I won't ever come out to my parents. Unfortunately, culture wise and religious wise there's a certain level of hatred people hold towards LGBTQIA Muslims. And it's unfortunate because according to Islam, YOU shouldn't be judging these people, you should try and guide them against it. Now I won't get into that part and what my stance is on it, simply because it's something i myself am struggling with rn and not agreeing with, but its what I grew up with, so essentially its not something I can speak about clearly. But, seeing non-muslim people try and write stories about Muslim characters getting killed or hunted by their Muslim parents about being gay? That shit pisses me off. It's not your story to tell. You aren't allowed to demonize the parents when it's a very sensitive topic and dependant on the dynamics people have with their families. Some people will have more accepting parents others won't. But that goes for non-muslims too. I've seen so many atheists disown their kids because they came out to them. Even christians...but it's only Muslim characters that i ever see getting bodily harmed or even killed when that's not something limited to muslim people? It just rubs me off the wrong way.
- Muslim people being depicted as barbaric and more accepting of hurting others around them. Now this is a notion that has slowly started to fade away THANK FUCKING GOD, but many times people writing muslim characters make them seem jaded towards others getting hurt? And its built on the harmful stereotype that Muslim people are fine with others getting hurt when that's not even something I've seen from actual Muslims and when that trait is something anyone from any background could have? Is it possible that many muslim people are jaded towards pain due to their countries being involved in conflict and pain? Yeah it is. But that does not mean we are ACCEPTING OF IT. It's just when you grow up hearing about your relatives getting bombed and murdered that you grow to view these things as common, but it doesn't mean you accept them. It's just the only way you can process losing your family to the violence enacted on you by the western world.
- As a Muslim person you'll get crucified if you drink alcoholic beverages. Riiiight. So this is a notion I see a lot. While drinking alcoholic beverages is DEFINITELY prohibited and haram, if you live in the Western world as a muslim person, chances are you a) drink, b) have muslim friends who drink, mainly because it depends on how religious someone is. I have a Muslim friend who isn't that religious and drinks. I dont. I know friends of my dad in Jordan who drink, even when they're heavily frowned upon. So people making Muslim ocs and then making them be super puritans and avoiding everything is... Weirdly infantilizing imo? We aren't perfect human beings. We are gonna commit acts that are considered sins. Sometimes some people will freak out about those and sometimes they won't. Not everyone is gonna feel the same amount of guilt over what they consider prohibited. Some muslim people get into dating despite it being prohibited. So shrug.
Anyways my main take away is that people should be MORE careful when writing a story about something they aren't. That's not to say you aren't allowed to write for these stories but it's more about whether you incorporate HARMFUL stereotypes only and end up with a representation that will only do damage.
Research. Talk to people. Generally not only when writing about Muslims. Even if you yourself are disabled, you can still write shitty disability rep about a disability that is not yours. Just cause you're ADHD it doesn't mean you cannot perpetuate harmful stereotypes about NPD ppl for example. Right?
That's all! Thank you for reading. Hopefully I wont get crucified for this lol.