#mod amaranth

hi mod amaranth back at it

not just because mod amaranth felt like it

“you’re a dryad and i’m a naiad but i fell an love with you and i swear we’re going to figure this out”

“i discover {mythical creature} and {another mythical creature} are real in the same day?!”

“i’m a zoologist and i’ve never seen your species before, i have to document this! wait, you’re camera shy? you speak english?!”

for whatever reason the main character is the only person able to understand unicorns/werewolves/kelpies etc.

character A is a bounty hunter that accidentally stumbles into character B’s hydra den

bonus: character C convinces them not to kill each other

modern mythical creature AU: a manticore and a merperson get into an argument in the line at Starbucks

modern mythical creature AU: an elf runs a vegan pizza place

monster high AU if you’re into that?

hi mod amaranth here

Yes! Like wanting to kiss your friends as a platonic act of intimacy (I'm also aroace)

howdy! mod amaranth here

hey! mod amaranth here

so i think that the experience you're describing is, in fact, reciprosexual! unfortunately, i don't know a more specific label for this particular experience, but yes, i do believe that reciprosexual is among the appropriate ones you can use!

as for not tending to fall for people you're close to platonically, i believe that you may want to look in fraysexual and/or frayromantic as a starting point! fraysexual is when you only feel sexual attraction to people you aren't close with, but generally also lose that attraction as you get to know them (frayromantic is its romantic counterpart). it may not entirely encompass your experience, but it seems like a good starting point for further research :))

hey! mod amaranth here

i found a handy reddit ask that you can peruse for some more in detail answers, but the general consensus on what platonic attraction feels like is a warmth or excitement over being with someone that lacks certain hallmarks of romantic attraction. personally, it's an urge to spend more time with someone, but without the urge for it to be romantic (although i don't feel romantic attraction, so)

being aplatonic is spectrum just like other parts of the aspec! so, yes, grayplatonic and demiplatonic are existing labels :)) i myself nebulously identify as demiplatonic!!

hi!! mod amaranth here

so unfortunately i think i can only provide suggestions for some parts of your ask. i'm not entirely sure about much for the prom bit.

I used to think i had crushes but when i look back at them it was just aesthetic attraction

I didn't realize people actually felt romantic attraction in like, less than a few months of knowing someone

these are both not uncommon experiences in the aro community!! i know i experienced both lmao (or something similar). i know the second one is especially common within the demiromantic community, i believe (do not quote me on this dfjkdf). demiromantic is an orientation where you only feel romantic attraction after forming an emotional bond first.

I love imagining myself in a romantic relationship but whenever someone suggests it irl my gut just goes "oh hell no fuck off"

i think aegromantic might be something you'll want to look into! it's an orientation where you enjoy the idea of romance, but don't want to actually have one. i once heard its sexual counterpart, aegosexual, described as 'in the head, not in the bed', and i think that's a very good description!!

I think neurodivergence is definitely affecting my romantic attraction

there are microlabels for that!! the only one i know of is nebularomantic, which is where your neurodivergence makes it difficult for you to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction.