#intp problems

The truth is, I've never really asked myself this question. All I've known is this: people piss me off. And I assumed I had avoidant attachment style or something.

But I wouldn't be an INTP if I hadn't eventually started analyzing this problem (because it has been a problem to me), as I analyze everything in my life. And I've realized that what occurs in almost every single one of my relationships is – my need for space isn't respected.

It usually goes like this:

1. I meet a person.

2. Person decides they like me/are attracted to me.

3. They try to get to know me better via text messages.

4. They keep texting me.

5. I get annoyed with them.

The rest is history. The good thing is the problem isn't me, it's them. Over the years I've told multiple people that I need time for myself. That I get exhaused by constant texting. That I don’t need so much interaction. That it's not because I don’t like them, it's because I am this way. But it's like talking to a wall. If I have to explain myself so often to the same person, they always come to the conclusion that they know me better than I, that I am wrong, and that they aren't this way so neither am I.

I'm no contact with these people now.

I guess I've always felt weird with the description of INTPs as "misunderstood". I didn't believe it. It sounded like I was trying hard to be different. Now I see it's true.

Quite a lot of people can't even begin to comprehend the way I am, the way I act and think. This is why I think it's important to be very careful when it comes to picking friends. I've found a great friend who gets me and I wish all of luck to all of you out there struggling to find real connections.

Until next time,