Yesterday @nikkiblak made the world stop when she posted abt how she “snagged a good one.” Excuse us Beezy!💅🏾But the best part abt her post was that it made me think abt what kinds of conversations we have with cishetmen when we first start “dating” or “talking.” And i realized that we be wasting a WHOLE lot of time. She mentioned that not having to convince her partner that trans women were women was golden for her and I LIVE! For me I think the necessary up front stuff that we need to discuss in conversation number ONE is: 1. God Stuff (this is loaded but let’s just deal with it right out the gate). 2. Bias phobic ideologues that harm other groups of people. Where do you stand? 3. Body Ownership. 😐 Cause DONT ever ask me whose... 👩🏾‍💻 The Answer will always be mine! Be bless. 4. Beyoncé’s role in your life. This shld be higher on the list but I digress. 5. Do you speak the language of hip hop? (Have you ever listened to any of the little colorful *dreadheads for actual enjoyment?) ——- These are just a few of mine. What are some of your off top questions for a potential partner? Tell me in the comment section. We need to build our “Must Ask Before Date 2” list! *Ooooh! Also def on the list (and likely in the top 5 somewhere) talk to me abt your emotional intelligence. “How do you reconcile?” This is so MAJOR for me! And along with Body Ownership is “headship.” 😬 We gotta y’all abt language like “partner” vs “mine.” And Money! That’s a priority too📝|| #TheFreePeopleProject . . . On another note: I’m currently booking tv, radio, and podcast interviews for 2019. Invite me to talk abt all the things: Hip Hop, Womanism, Decolonizing Authority, Black Woman Body Ownership as a Justice Issue, Racial Justice Issues (centering black Women and femmes, Black Girl Mixtape, or the intentional use of #Conjure, spirit, religion for justice | Send an email to [email protected] to invite.|| Finally, if you’d like to contribute to the Black Girl Mixtape Paris gofundme you can still do so at gofundme.com/blackgirlmixtapeparis | #womanism #cosbyshow #intersectionalfeminsim #feminist #patriarchy #whitesupremacy #womensfashion #womenempowerment https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq_IX8hFCE3/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=wln62w4mpfzj