Urgent! I'm so sick of my friends, I feel so unliked and as if no one ever wants me there, they always get invited by the "popular" people to go places and I never get invited to anything! Sometimes they speak to me like I'm stupid when the truth is that I simpy don't understand what their saying cause I'm not from this country, I'm so annoyed and sick of being used like this, I want to do something about it I don't want to put up with it anymore!
I completely understand what it feels like to be the odd one out, the truth is, you shouldn’t have to try so hard to be friends with people that don’t accept you, that don’t treat you like one of their own. What you’re facing with are people who aren’t your friends, and you shouldn’t try so hard to be their friends in that case.
If your ‘friends’ don’t make the effort to include you and get you invited to places then they aren’t worth it. I know at the time being ‘popular’ seems like everything, but it’s not because what your mother and what people say are true. After life being popular, they have to go out into the real world and deal with life of not being popular, it can be quite a shock to them. I may not be 100% right, and popular people can go out to do amazing things, but I encourage you to watch out who you make friends with because being popular isn’t everything. Go out and make new friends is my best call of advice. The most difficult part of this is breaking ties with your old friends, letting them know you treasure your time together and doing it sensibly. Meet new people and keep your head down whilst you are at it. You don’t have to be the centre of attention and you don’t have to be in the spotlight all the time. It is entirely possible not to be invited to ‘cool’ parties and events and still have fun - with friends who accept you for the way you are, and understand you.
You need to first find friends so that when you break ties you have someone to lean on, distance yourself slightly so that over time breaking ties won’t come as such a shock. Understand that perhaps you will be talked about for a while but people will come to understand and respect your decision. I hope you learn from this in the future and be careful who you make friends with.