#feeling type

Their loud, sickly sweet, high pitched voices

the tepid, banal subject matter

and the fact that the conversation never seems to fuckin’ END

INFPs are known to be fluffy and very cinnamon roll types. But what many don’t know is that we can be analytical as all get out. Some tread that very fine line that can almost make us come across a T rather than an F type. We are contradictions of course but to say we are guided solely on emotions, is not true, not for many. 

A couple asks prior was questioning that and honestly, I can’t say as it didn’t make me think and totally relate. I do analyze everything. Sometimes is seeps into my emotions and decisions which I know is not a good thing because it can cause me to seem kind of cool towards a subject, or make me take my heart out of a matter. BUT this happens mostly due to stress or just shock of a situatiuon that has been presented to me. Many of times it may make me look like I just don’t care. My biggest thing that gets me is that I will sit there, feel emotions about something, basically want to cry yet know what the logical answer is and say that, then after a few hours or even a few days go by, think about it and have all of the emotions that I really felt come out and hit me HARD. Especially if the issue put on the spot and I am not one to really cry in front of people so I have no choice but to act like the stable one, no matter how much it hurt me. It takes me that long sometimes and I guess it is more of a defense mechanism than anything. I have always been this way. Sure it makes for a good business mind, but man, does it cause issues and can actually get you pretty stuck. Plus you think to yourself “where was that comeback then?”  Just a personal observation. INFPs feel like they have to be strong and hold such high morals and values, that sometimes it can be a great thing but other times it can work against us. So the question remains, Processing, Emotional Delay or a little bit of both?

As a person, being myself, I always want to fix a problem. It's easy to see where misunderstandings are occuring, and where people are being insensitive or overreacting.

But what about when I'm in that same situation?

I know full well that I'm overreacting. I don't want to hear how to fix it, I want to be told that its okay to have these emotions. I want to be told they are valid, even if I know, deep down, I'm being overdramatic because I'm tired, sick, hormonal, or stressed.

Being told "hey, you're being too sensitive, be happy!" doesn't help. I already know it! It doesn't make the feelings, no matter how irrational they are, go away.

On the outside looking at that, it can be frustrating. I just want to fix it and for the person to relax. But they don't need that! It won't help them! They may already know! They need comfort and for their feelings to be validated. (Take this advice with a grain of salt and tailor it to the specific friend. One size doesn't fit all, as much as Fe would like it to.)

Once they have calmed down, then they can process the logic better. Let people feel, then let them address the problem once the feelings are dealt with.

When a feeling type wants you to share your feelings

  Lydia(the resident Angel)” PBK, fell for it.”

The Devil” Unfortunately, Buffoon, Panama Cerebral smelled a rat on it.”

Yellowhammer” I don’t know what happened, God knows.”

PBK” God simply tells us that which is good to do, there are never amendments on it , no one can play games with His commandments.”

The Magician “ Ginger Rogers you are around somehow , I know this, what if you are a false…

"The wounded deer dragging its fainting limbs to some untrodden brake, there to graze upon the arrow which had pierced it, and to die - was but a type of me."