Arjun, Subhadra and Krishna(a)
The moment Arjuna reaches Prabhasa, after twelve long years of travel, Krishna appears, and practically drags him back to Raivataka. Here, I kind of have to mention, Krishna and Arjuna, when together, have no sense of personal space. This is, however, the first time we see the level of their intimacy, at least in Mahabharata. For that one day they pretty much sit, eat, talk and sleep on the same asana. Even when Krishna then takes him back to Dwarika, their closeness only increases, much to, I imagine, the discomfort of the more traditional parliamentarians.
Then comes a festival on Raivataka, where Arjuna sees Subhadra, and immediately goes mad, much to the abject delight of Krishna. He in fact takes great pleasure, to tease the heck out of Arjuna at this point.
Arjuna however, doesnāt like Krishnaās initial idea to ask Vasudeva for permission. He does understand that no matter how liberal their upper-class society is at this moment, Arjuna and Subhadra are still first cousins, and we in fact see the Yadavas later object to the kidnapping based on this fact alone.
Krishna, in response, does say something a little controversial, āThereās no point in betting on a swayamvara, as sheās a young girl, and her mind may be fickle. Hence, kidnapping is the best option.ā This was probably (and Iām reaching here) less about Krishnaās misogyny and more about the Yadavasā (frankly, kind of valid) issue with Arjuna and Subhadraās blood-family situation.
Now, interestingly, after two marriages, for his fourth one, Arjuna decides that he must take permission from Yudhishthira (was he afraid that Yudhishthira might hand him back to Balarama later, if he didnāt sort this beforehand?)
And hence, shubhasya sheeghram, the next morning Arjuna is tip-top dresses and armed, and picks up Subhadra when sheās on her way back from Raivataka.
Obviously Dwarikaās parliament is in uproar. Balarama, however is the only person to defer to common sense, as he hands over the āmicā to Krishna, albeit after cussing Arjuna out pretty thoroughly. Krishna gives a few reasons (a bit flawed, but okay) for his support and recommendation for peace:
He doesnāt like an arranged marriage, as he feels it is as though the bride is treated like an animal who is āsoldā from one family to another (don't like how you got there, but congrats, I agree).
In a swayamvara, thereās no telling what Subhadra might to (or be made to do).
Arjuna is a kshatriya, and he doesnāt look good getting married in a ātameā, arranged ceremony, and the kidnapping raises the āvalueā of Subhadra herself (like I said, flawed)
If the Yadavas now try to stop him, and an entire army (known for being tide-turning mercenaries btw), go after and get defeated by a single man, how does that look, before the international community?
Kuntiās gotra changed once she was adopted by Kuntibhoja, so legally, Arjuna and Subhadra are no longer first cousins (but still second or third, though!)
Arjuna is still, biologically their first cousin, so fighting a battle against family would be counterproductive, and make other kingdoms look down upon them (ironic, and you just said he wasn't! xD).
Arjuna is a great warrior, and any kingdom would be lucky to make him a permanent ally.
In Kashiram Dasās version, we see Subhadra in a more active role. Here, Daruka, who was driving the chariot, refuses to let Arjuna fight when Krishnaās sons challenge him. So, Arjuna ties him up, and hands over the reins to Subhadra, as he goes ahead and defeats everybody.
Well, after one year of marriage, Arjun remembers his vanavasa again, and goes to Pushkar, to spend the remaining time.
Then finally, he returns to Indraprastha, and straight to Draupadi, who promptly directed him to return to his ānewer-modelā and stay there, among other things. So, Arjun did exactly that.
Interestingly, it is his idea to dress up Subhadra as a gopa woman, and send her in to mollify Draupadi instead. It works, only somewhat. Draupadi is impressed with the gesture, but she is still angry. She says to Subhadra, āNihsapatno-stu te pati.ā This on-the-face translates to āmay your husband not have any enemiesā. However, sapatn[o/i] also means co-wife (āsautan/shotinā).
Dr. Bhaduri interprets this as: āmay you have no co-wivesā, by which Draupadi still keeps Arjuna on the rack, as an extension of her previous comment.
I also like the other reading which is: āmay your husband have no co-husbandsā: a covert expression of how tired she was starting to get of her husbandsā antics and marriages.
Krishna also arrives shortly (primarily for damage control with Draupadi, I imagine), but also, with huge military help, which he practically ālaundersā into the Pandava artillery disguised as wedding presents, since Balarama wouldnāt let him otherwise (Rohini is Shantanuās brother Bahlikaās daughter/granddaughter, so thatās where his neutrality mainly comes from). This is also the time when Krishna is properly promoted from āweird generous acquaintanceā to ābest friend foreverā in Draupadiās books.