#exagender

Exagender

A gender for use by people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is influenced or affected by the approval of others. It is usually affected or altered by splitting, which can result in a gendered feeling that is in contrast with the person’s ‘actual’ experience of their gender.

Coined by unknown; flag by me.

Colour meanings:

Black - splitting, & the alteration of the gender as a result

Lavender - Borderline Personality Disorder

White - the approval of others

Purple - the ‘actual’ gender of the person

The grey circle represents the person themself

The colours are based off the colours of the bordergender flag.

[Image description: A flag with 7 vertical stripes. The first three stripes and the last three stripes are equally thin, while the middle stripe is thick. In the centre of the middle stripe is the grey outline of a circle. The colour of the stripes are in this order: black, lavender, white, purple, white, lavender, black. End image description]

here’s some that might work for you!

Rencgender: A gender that confuses and infuriates the person whose gender it is because of their BPD, causing the person to impulsively collect labels trying to find one that fits.

Bordergender / Borderfluid: A fluctuating gender experienced exclusively by people with BPD. A gender identity lacking a firm grasp on one’s identity, while still experiencing gender, to varying degrees, but having trouble pinning it down to just one label or identity. Having the sense of grasping at labels as much as possible to describe a gender one keeps questioning because one keeps second guessing one’s sense of self and, consequentially, one’s sense of gender.

Exagender: A gender for use by people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is influenced or affected by the approval of others. It is usually affected or altered by splitting, which can result in a gendered feeling that is in contrast with the person’s ‘actual’ experience of their gender.

Alexigender: A term for when you are unable to describe your gender due to neurodivergency - you cannot put it into words. You may have a vague idea of what your gender is or could be; if so it can be used as alexigenderqueer, for example. Alexigender can be used in combination with another identity, or it can be a stand-alone.

Mistigender: A gender that’s like mist or fog, and when you try to grab at it (think of it, describe it) it just… slips through your hands, and it only comes back after you stop trying to grab at it.

Vaguegender / Gendervague: A gender being mostly or around a certain gender (or mostly around a certain gender), but is only approximate on account of difficulty defining it due to one’s neurodivergence.

No worries, it can be pretty difficult to discern due to being neurodivergent. I have a couple terms that you may find useful. :)

Border-: An orientation in which a person with BPD cannot tell the difference between types of attraction due to symptoms of their disorder.

Bordergender (or Borderfluid): A fluctuating gender experienced exclusively by people with BPD. A gender identity lacking a firm grasp on one’s identity, while still experiencing gender, to varying degrees, but having trouble pinning it down to just one label or identity. Having the sense of grasping at labels as much as possible to describe a gender one keeps questioning because one keeps second guessing one’s sense of self and, consequentially, one’s sense of gender.

Exagender: A gender for use by people with BPD. It is influenced or affected by the approval of others. It is usually affected or altered by splitting, which can result in a gendered feeling that is in contrast with the person’s ‘actual’ experience of gender.

Ah, that’s cool then! Self DX is 100% fine here, even if you’re not completely sure it fits you :)

[Image: Flag with 7 triangles stacked on top of each other, the bottom being the smalles and getting gradually biger until the 4th-7th are extending beyond the edge of the flag. From smallest to largest: dark brown, dark blue, white, black, lavender, pastel yellow, pastel green].

[Image: same as above but with the white and black stripes switched].

(2/2) Hello! I’d like to propose two flags for exagender! I’m not diagnosed with BPD, but I hope it’s good

Exagender: A gender for use by people with BPD. It is influenced or affected by the approval of others. It is usually affected or altered by splitting, which can result in a gendered feeling that is in contrast with the person’s ‘actual’ experience of their gender.

They look nice!

Do you mean like not “officially” diagnosed or you’re not BPD at all? Because, while it’s really nice you’re helping out by making flags, it’s best to not make ones for genders you don’t ID as.

If I’m misunderstanding that then just ignore the above though!