#butch4stem

I don't put # men dni on any of my posts.

I don't like it. I find it dysphoria inducing and I find that transmasculine, nonbinary, and genderqueer community often find it dysphoria inducing. I find it anti indigenous. I find it colonial. I find it tired and reductive. nonbinary people are not all "non men" white feminine afabs with they/them pronouns who are agender/neutral about gender writ large. a lot of nonbinary people are actually bigender+. a lot of us have race(s) that play into our gender.

man/woman arent inherent opposites in any way. it's a really white & Western idea to believe otherwise. I understand sapphic community not wanting cis men to fetishize them, and blah blah fucking blah, and simultaneously, whether you tell them to "dni" or not, I don't think the ones you're worried about would stop or think twice if they're the ones you actually want to dni. however transmasculine people and trans men, especially the butch and lesbian variety, will think twice if we are allowed to be around you, or should be around you at all.

because we dont want others to be uncomfortable. we dont want you to be uncomfortable.

I also always worry about alienating people exploring gender, new to exploring gender, or baby transfems on any of my posts. I simply block men that are weird and fetishistic to me. trans or cis.

being bipoc & gender complex in what feels and seems to be majority white agender fem(me) "non men" spaces makes me a little insane.

but no. I don't put "men dni." I find it exhaustive. regressive. overstated. you're not really as inclusive of "nonbinary people" as you think you are if your idea of nonbinary actually just means "(white) neutral/feminine/woman adjacent."