Let’s Talk Lesphobia In The Bi Community (my experience as a bi girl)
When I discovered I was bi for some reason first thing I thought to do was to read about bisexuality on Twitter. At first it was pretty great a few positivity post some jokes it and it made me feel good to have a bunch of people who got me.
But after a little bit of scrolling I discovered the word biphobia, I don’t remember what the post was talking about but I remember wanting to know more. So I searched (still on twitter) and was hit with a wave of people talking about scary lesbians who would do anything to get rid of bisexuals. I was told that the vast majority of lesbians wouldn’t date me, would think I was gross, a cheater at heart, would shun me and say I wasn’t good enough.
But the thing that didn’t help was the vast majority of lesbians in the replies were defending the biphobic mindset. And with that I was pretty much convinced that lesbians were evil and hated me. This really messed me up. It made me demonize lesbians and their attraction to women, seeing bisexuality as the only “okay” way to love another woman.
For a long time I was pretty lesphobic and not just in the way that I hated lesbians but I was also genuinely scared of them. I worried about coming out and joining GSAs because I was scared I would automatically be rejected by the elite lesbians. I would see lesbians being excluded in pride posts and their expressing frustration and laugh because to me they deserved it.
I realize how wrong this all is now and I often see the same attitude I had in other bisexual women. Yes, biphobia in the lesbian community needs to be talked about but maybe not as harshly as it is. We need to stop acting like lesbians are the only/main ones responsible for biphobia. We need to talk about lesphobia in the bi community if we’re going to talk about the biphobia in the lesbian community. We need to get better period.
