#aaab

Im just going to use born penis haver and born with a testosterone dominated endocrine system. Never call me amab when you mean those it pisses me off. I am BPH and BTDES.

Adsex/adaptsex

The thing is, not everyone is AFAB/AMAB and I don’t mean genital wise.

I am AAAB (assigned androgynous at birth). I was raised and treated not really like a boy, but like my parents were too afraid to deal with the concept of gender existing. So the only gendered enforcement mechanism I grew up with was “no skirts or dresses” and “no being a woman”. My mom identified as a tomboy and didn’t really act very feminine in general. My dad was more feminine than her. Honestly they both probably aren’t cis if they were honest. Societally I had the idea that “i am a man” so i thought of myself as male. But i didn’t learn masculinity. I didn’t learn femininity. I was just a person and my gender was secondary.

And then at 15 i discovered trans people existed and I put myself into the only box i thought fit that existed at the time, which was trans woman. Which i thought meant i cannot also be a man.

It took me until 28 or so to realize I was bigender. Because of the erasure that bigender people face. A lot of trans women are so adamant that “we are not men” that I thought being a trans woman ment i could not be a man. Some trans women are men. Deal with it.

Becoming and living as a man is hard because i only assumed i was a man while actually being androgynous for the first 15 years of my life. So I don’t get what it means for me to be a man because I’ve never tried to be one.