#1 kittyblogger

It is true that money and power enables abuse on a grand scale, but the converse is not true— having no money and no power does not make abuse less likely. I think many of us know this from experience. There is no special moral quality to being poor or being oppressed. Oppressed people abuse each other all the fucking time, in families and relationships and friendships. People of color abuse each other. Women abuse each other. Gay people and trans people abuse each other.

Cesar Chavez raped the women and girls of the labor rights movement throughout his career, using worker solidarity as a bludgeoning tool to ensure their silence.

If you say “people in my group don’t do this, it’s the powerful men that do it” then you harm yourself in several ways.

1. You signal to your social circle that you do not hold them to any standard of behavior. You have preemptively pledged loyalty, which means that if they behave objectionably, any objection on your part will mean a betrayal of your community.

2. You mark yourself as socially permissive. People in your social group know that you are, at baseline, unwilling to accept or act on allegations against them. To be frank, this makes you very easy to take advantage of, whether in service of abusing someone else or abusing you directly.

And you harm other people by telling a lie. What about all of the people who have been abused by a person within this oppressed group? They have it reiterated that their abuse cannot be spoken about, for the sake of solidarity.

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She's a transwoman who had to escape home and works as an Uber-driver-equivalent of our country using a monthly rental, which costs a lot and leaves only a small fraction for her daily life and gender-affirming care. To make enough money to escape survival mode, she needs her own car!

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These are the details in her own words, I put the texts in alt text:

(obscuring username as not to single anybody out + not negative. just in case someones shy) but this is actually what we did with our journals at first too. we used lighthouse for some time, alongside discord/simplyplural. but with simplyplural being left and not wanting to be as on our phone/computer, we switched to paper.

for people with higher system counts, there are actually really good paperback journal 'packs' you can get at most stationary stores. if buying a 10/15$ journal seems too intimidating, you can get these packs for like, 10 dollars total, and each one only has about 40ish pages.

this way if you have parts that dont front as frequently, you dont have anyone worrying about 'waste' while still providing them their own space. these are just a few examples.

something unexpected this ended up helping with was actually our individual memories too. i noticed some people asking 'how do you journal if you're blurry/have bad memory as a part?' and, well, that's actually why i started doing it. i wanted to remember more than just 'feeling bad' whenever i fronted, so i carry my journal with me and write down basically like, everything.

even just passing thoughts like 'i kind of wish we had beef strips at home for dinner' or 'im really excited for artfight this year'. when you're trying to recover as a system, especially as a part thats been heavily slotted with a lot of 'negative' emotions, its important to give yourself the space to express more than those things. if you only ever remember yourself as being 'angry/bad' then you wont develop much past that, and you start to internalize that shit and really hate yourself.

journaling has been a great outlet for me to vent and draw my own stuff, but it's also given me some dignity and the space to feel like a person outside of just being like. traumatized. i sort of use it as a vault of everything about me, good and bad, important and trivial.

Hi, I'm TDF and I'm physically disabled and living under the poverty line. My income adds up to about 1/3 of the local minimum wage.

I am stuck in bed almost all the time because my physical health is so bad, and I have expenses nondisabled people don't.

Currently my biggest concern is food and toiletries, including a new mouth guard.

I'm very sorry to keep begging, and I feel awful about it, but I need help.

Please, can any adult who is financially secure help me with a dollar towards groceries, or even a whole box of protein bars?

link to walmart cards (for groceries/toiletries etc): https://www.walmart.com/giftcards/

link to food/necessities list: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/19QO1LMKKHQ3A

my email is thatdiabolicalfeminist at protonmail dot com

I'm extremely sorry to ask, and I appreciate your understanding!!

would any financially secure adult be willing to help with $5 towards groceries or a cooling fan?