I mostly make queer posts, bingos, memes and more. (marked #posts)✨..and reblog whatever I'm interested in at the moment. 🧡💛🤍🩵💙 aroace & cassgender 🖤💛💚🩶
• This is my personal blog, and mainly about A-spec/ queer topics, but I also post or reblog anything else I'm interested in at the moment
• This blog supports and wants to learn more about marginalized people of any shape or form
• I don't believe in DNIs, But I block assholes and bigots as I see fit. (Also: If I notice that someone who interacts with me actually has a DNI against me, I will also block them)
Links to my posts:
- anything tagged #posts
(OG posts, as well as reblogs with comments etc.)
Some of my favorites:
- #my bingos: Aroace ; Cassgender ; Aegosexual ; Aromantic ; AroAllo ; Asexual ; Fraysexual/ Frayromantic ; Demisexual ; Demiromantic (Note: None of these bingos are supposed to be tests. I include squares that are common experiences, but most are not necessary to be [X label] and it's also impossible to include the full spectrum of possible experiences. Relating to a lot of squares can be a sign you are [X label], but not getting a bingo doesn't prove you're not [X label]. )
- Flags: Lavender Ace Flag (5 stripe asexual flag) ; Rainbow A-spec flag ; Aroace spectrum flag ; Grey-Aegosexual ; Aro and Ace PrideProgressive
- what is Cassgender
- List/ Collage with A-spec Characters: canon and headcanon
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Day THIRTY of filling this with aro and/or ace characters
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To celebrate the FINAL day of pride, I’ve added as many requests as I could possibly find time for !!! (With explanations & close ups below)
Ty all SO MUCH for the insane support and love <333
Mirabelle from In Stars and Time is canonically aromantic AND asexual, and has a storyline revolving around it!
Darius Bowman from Camp Cretaceous is heavily implied canon aromantic, and possibly asexual as well!
Saiki from The Disastrous Life of Saiki K as implied aromantic AND asexual. He never shows interest in any character, so it’s largely accepted by the fandom.
Connor Hawke from DC as canonically asexual, as there’s an official drawn poster of him with the asexual flag!
Max from Miraculous Ladybug as canonically asexual! I am unsure if this is said explicitly, or just confirmed by the creators. Same goes for Alix, who is canonically aromantic!!
Monkey D Luffy from One Piece is popularly headcanoned aromantic AND asexual by the fandom!
SpongeBob is canonically asexual as confirmed by the creators, and literally bc sponges are asexual LMAO
Mousefur from Warriors is popularly headcanoned aromantic AND asexual by the fandom, as she is a she-cat that is never interested in getting a mate.
Caduceus Clay from Critical Roll as canonically aromantic AND asexual! I don’t watch so I unfortunately don’t know if it’s talked about it canon, but it has been confirmed.
Sonic the Hedgehog is another fairly popular aromantic AND asexual headcanon within the fandom!
Izutsumi from Dungeon Meshi is popularly headcanon aromantic AND asexual by the fandom!
Q!Jaiden from the QSMP is canonically aromantic AND asexual, like her CC, JaidenAnimations!
Claire and Oliver from Maybe Happy Ending are canonically asexual, as they’re robots (they’re good rep trust I love them)!!
ALLL of the amongi ever from the Among Us TV show as canonically asexual, as they are literally described as sexless beings!
Version with Roman Roy from Succession and Homelander from the Boys!! Roman as implied asexual, as throughout the show he is uncomfortable with the idea and refuses to have sex with anyone! I put him with Homelander (who is called asexual in the show, but more of an insult than any actual canon) bc they are both horrible people that no one wants to have as rep but they’re lowkey funny asf so they’re me and my friend’s crackship
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A comic about book bans, ppl's continued dismissiveness of asexuality, and ppl's lack of understanding around what it means to be queer, and why they should be worried about book bannings.
I'll add smth here cos I learned after posting this on IG that people still aren't entirely understanding how scary and dangerous this is. Ppl kept saying to me 'I can still buy your book in shops though' or 'Its okay, I'll order your book into my library!'
I dont give af about my book lol No one outside of Ace ppl ever read it, its yearly sales don't even cover a month of expenses for me.
The thing you should all be concerned about is that a totally benign unheard of book about someone's every day life is being banned. And those laws listed above are passing through US government right now. One of those laws would make it so that any teacher/librarian in the US could lose their job/go to prison for simply sharing 'ideology'- and I don't mean only lgbtq folk, these laws are attacking black history, civil rights history, disability rep in books. Just talking about these things will now legally be considered a 'dangerous ideology'.
And once that's set into law, the US government has backing via law to go ahead and say 'if these books aren't legally allowed in schools, then they shouldn't be allowed in shops, either.' And from there it sets up a great argument for 'The dangerous content in these books is lawfully being removed from public, shouldn't we be lawfully removing the people living out/promoting this ideology too?'
I can see why ppl don't fully understand how dangerous book bannings are, if they're not familiar with the history of fascism. If you're interested, there are plenty of graphic novels that share this history via first hand accounts- Maus, Persepolis, Banned Book Club.
But guess what? You're on limited time to get these via libraries...cos all three of these books are on banned lists too, and they got nothing to do with lgbtq rep, and everything to do with warning ppl about fascism.
And the US government knows it can get away with this, because they are passing these laws as we speak and barely anyone is doing anything about it or talking about it. I've been trying to talk about it for years and no one does anything except say to me 'don't worry, I'll buy your book!' or say its a badge of honour that I have a banned book.
So I'll emphasise once more. If you live in the USA, PLEASE CONTACT YOUR REP ABOUT THESE LAWS!
Been thinking today about where some of the wires get crossed when aro and/or ace people talk about wanting more low-to-no romance stories and other, allo queer folks get mad at us for it--because while some of it is just plain hatred of aspec folks, I'm absolutely willing to consider that some of it is more unintentional lateral striking out--and I think I'm stumbling into something I want to articulate. Not that it's an entirely new thought, or even something I've never considered before, but something I haven't quite framed this way in the past.
Because, like, okay. It's 2026. There's rising queerphobia of all stripes--which is undeniably one reason I'm thinking about the lateral violence of it all, and we'll circle back to that--but the media environment of today does still makes it more possible than ever before to find and enjoy queer fiction. And this is critical to what I'm about to say next, so I hope those of us that grew up in times where that was not true can sort of table our thoughts on what things were like when we were kids.
My point it, if I'm an adult who isn't in the closet (and even if I am in the closet, plausible deniability is higher than it was pre-2010 or so!), I can go see a gay movie. I can go buy a gay book. There are members of the community, like kids/teens or people in unsafe situations that might not have that freedom, but at the very least, finding the gay media isn't the hard part for anyone. Heated Rivalry is one of the biggest TV shows of the year (and the books that it's based off have since seen a huge jump in popularity, too), queer romantasy is flourishing, and even classic queer media is getting revamped (pun intended) in series like the Interview With the Vampire TV series. And if, for whatever reason, none of the current professional stuff is doing it for you, Ao3 has approximately 8.4 million M/M stories and 1.7 F/F stories--which isn't the greatest ratio for the femslash fans, but is still nothing to sneeze at. And that's not even getting into the many gay podcasts and audio dramas, self-published books, comics (indie and otherwise), and other, nicher options. Long story short, if you only want to watch, read, or listen to media with prominent gay characters in it, you can establish a very healthy media diet, with everything from fun, trashy romance to acclaimed TV miniseries to weird podcasts to RPG actual plays, and everything in-between. This has very much not always been the case, so it's really cool we're here!
As an aro/ace person I... can't do that with stories about people like me. Like I really, seriously can't do that. I guess if I was content to enjoy less media, maybe, but I love stories, which I'm sure a lot of people on this website can relate to. And I love participating in fandom, too, so sometimes I do want to be into something that's big enough for me to chat about it with other people, or get more than a handful of kudos on my fanfic. So at the end of the day I don't limit myself, and that's honestly a good thing! It's great to be into things about characters who don't exactly share your identities, too.
But like. This year I've bought* exactly one book with an actual, canonically aro and/or ace character in it--the short story collection Tales From the Folly, which is a part of the Rivers of London series and features the aro/ace character Thomas Nightingale. (*I say bought, because I'm yet to actually read it--I'm sorry, Thomas!). That's it. I've enjoyed various other stories, but as far as ones with people like me go, I've gotten my hands on exactly one. And it's not for a lack of trying! There just... hasn't been much on my radar. This is a huge reason I've gotten so excited about Project Hail Mary recently--it doesn't have any canonically queer characters, and the original author definitely didn't intend to write the main character in a way that resonated with so many aro/aces. But it's a story without any canonical romance of any kind, where as a result, I can watch a fun movie and pretend for a little bit that Ryland Grace is like me. There are so few aro/ace characters that most of what we get. Playing pretend.
This is where I think some of the wires are getting crossed. When people hear someone like me say "I'm really exhausted by all the emphasis on romance and shipping in fandom," I think what some of you are hearing--because it's historically been true, and we're at a scary time in the world where it feels more and more like it's threatening to become true again--is "I want there to be fewer gay stories." When what I'm really saying is "I want there to be more aro/ace stories--or at least stories where I can pretend the main character is like me." And to even further hamper understanding, when aro and/or ace folks say we want stories about people like us and we hear other, allo queers object, what we aspecs often hear is "I think people like you aren't worth telling stories about"--even though many of you have valid reasons for liking the stories that you do, too.
I think that those of us who belong to older generations (especially millennials and above) can all probably relate to what aspecs are experiencing here on some level. There was a point in time where gay books were extremely limited, and gay characters in TV and movies were unheard of. Even as things crept in a more progressive direction, the Bury Your Gays tropes meant not everyone could enjoy the stories those characters showed up in. That was really hard for a lot of people, and I never, ever want us to go back to that. But I do think it's important to acknowledge that gay media just isn't at that point right now. Media with actual aro/ace characters in it.... kind of still is. It's different, because society is in a very different place, and also cishet people have historically demonized aromantic and asexual people with very different tropes--the heartless villain incapable of love, the cold lover that the protagonist abandons to be happy with someone else, the boring stuck-up prude, etc. And there are people, especially in the indie sphere, who are making some good stuff. But at the end of the day, I have a lot fewer choices than you do. Which is why it really hurts to get told that my headcanons and readings of canon--which are most of what I have--are actually problematic.
Anyway. None of this is groundbreaking. It's been said before, by people more eloquent and more persuasive than me, and it'll probably be said again. It just feels worth reiterating, considering some of the blowback I've been getting to expressing this sentiment. Because I really do think a lot of us want the same thing--for everyone to be able to enjoy whatever kind of stories they like most about people like them. (Without losing sight of the fact that media can be a great way to understand the experiences of people of other experiences, of course). When the scales are so unequally weighted, however, it gets really messy to talk about.
So instead of projecting our own fears and insecurities onto each other and letting them dominate the conversation--let's actually talk about it.
Pulling these tags out because I think they further articulate some of the points I was trying to make here really well:
#There definitely is a suspicion and resentment towards the idea that stories with No Romance are valuable#because many many people hear ‘there shouldn’t be all this gay shit’#And then they treat you like that’s what you said#Treating stories without romance—or with main ace and aro characters—as a cowardly in-between step#between Straight Media and Gay Media#as if they just weren’t brave enough to make it Actually Gay#rather than welcoming it as something with real value in itself#And yeah it comes from real fear because there ARE a lot of conservatives in the world saying there shouldn’t be all this gay shit#but then there are people who treat this as the ONLY thing anybody is saying so anything that reminds them even a little bit of that#is suspicious. And a lot of those people haven’t fully shaken off the 2014 attitude that aces and aros are Just Straight People Really#It’s rooted in real fear but then it turns into uncalled-for viciousness about their fellow queer people who are Being Queer Wrong#I also think… there’s a lot of fear that someone who is very similar to you but reached a different conclusion is Judging You#by a lot of people self conscious about their place in society#That causes a Lot of the lateral cruelty between ace people and gay people (via @specialagentartemis)
I’m culturally female. I don’t really believe in one true gender, but I do participate in some of the rituals I was raised in, when I feel like it. And I enjoy participating in the traditions of other genders too sometimes.
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𐔌 . ⋮ “ Alternative Grey-Aegosexual Flag Design ” (🏳️🌈) .ᐟ ֹ ₊ ꒱
♡ . ♣️﹐ıllı Hey, hi <3! I'm planning on creating a couple patches for a jacket of mine in the future displaying my identity and decided to design a flag for Grey-Aegosexuality!
୨୧ Read Below for a brief overview on Grey-Aegosexuality, process of designing the flag and terms of use!
. . . NOTE: To organize this, I attempted to arrange this similar to the format of a Wikipedia page! I felt as if this was an important detail to mention to not mislead anyone. At the moment of posting this, there is no official Wikipedia or sources for Grey-Aegosexuality from what I can find outside of the incompleted one mentioned later.
Grey-Aegosexual (Also known as Grey-Aego or Gregosexual) is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum where an individual identifies as both Greysexual (A sexual orientation in the asexual spectrum, where a person experiences sexual attraction rarely, with low intensity, or only under specific circumstances, existing in the "gray area" between being asexual and allosexual) and Aegosexual (A sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum in which one experiences a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. They may or may not feel sexual attraction, but have no desire to participate in sexual activities with another person.)
Some common Grey-Aegosexual experiences include:
- Experiencing sexual attraction infrequently, weakly or under specific circumstances, but when experienced there is a disconnect towards the individual and the subject of their arousal.
- Occasionally enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on occasion, but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of sexual content, self-arousing or fantasizing about sex.
- Enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of being in a real-life sexual relationship or engaging in active sex life with someone else.
- Fantasizing about sex occasionally or under specific circumstances, but:
The individual is not involved. They may only be a disembodied observer viewing it from a third-individual perspective rather than from the first-person.
Envisioning only other individuals, such as celebrities, fictional characters, or even friends.
It involves generic, faceless individuals, not specific individuals.
It is seen through the perspective of another individual rather than as one's actual self.
- Someone who feels sexual attraction on rare occasions but does not want to participate in sex.
- Feeling sexual attraction under certain circumstances or in lower frequencies that do not involve oneself.
- Perceiving someone as "hot" or recognizing someone as sexually attractive, yet rarely or only under specific circumstances seeing the appeal of having sex with the individual in real life. The individual may instead prefer to fantasize about them or admire them (miransexual).
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to aegosexuality, but experience it under certain circumstances, infrequently or weakly.
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to grey-sexuality, but experience it having a disconnect with the subject of arousal.
- People who resonate or connect with the terms/identify grey-sexual and aegosexual
NOTE: Experiencing grey-aegosexuality is not limited to these experiences, these are just common experiences I had seen others share (and that I myself relate to in some cases) who identify as greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual. I would love to hear others experiences with being greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual <3!
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 🎨 ꒱ ⋮ Designing Process → Inspiration for the flag, designing the flag and tribute to the original flag!
I had created this variation of the flag when I had been under the impression there was not a grey-aegosexual flag yet designed. Searching it up at the time with no results left me feeling isolated, so I opted to create my own flag.
THIS IS A BIG RANT. I debated on posting it along with this post as it was extremely personal and I never meant to even go into much detail, but I wanted to include it for others who may feel similar to me. As I myself feel isolated and as if I don't really have anyone to discuss my feelings with who understands being on the asexual spectrum– And I made this flag due to feeling isolated, which is the paragraph after my semi-unrelated rant.
I didn't intend to post this design originally in fear of experiencing homophobia and/or acephoba by others, but especially by others within the asexual community. In the process of figuring out I am even a part of the ace spectrum, I witnessed a lot of acephobia in regards to asexuals who sex negative. It's led me to feel marginalized and “inauthentic” in a way unfortunately, even today I struggle heavily with it. I don't mean to go into complete detail in how I experience sexual attraction as it's very personal to me, but I feel marginalized by both the allosexual (community?) and asexual community. It feels as if I'm not quite enough for either of them. I guess I feel sexual attraction, but it's pretty rare and circumstantial and I'm not really into the physical aspect of anything but rather the emotional intimacy and also I feel disconnected (which I enjoy) from it as when I do experience sexual attraction or arousal it's not myself experiencing it but rather viewing it from a different perspective third person or not my own (which I enjoy) but I could kinda see myself participating in sexual acts rarely or under specific circumstances but also not really and if I was to ever to date or something I don't want to go into relationship where one of us expect sex I'd much rather actually be in a relationship where it is not expected at all or date someone asexual rather than allosexual heavily but maybe if we both wanted something we could do something but I probably wouldn't even want to unless under specific circumstances or on a rare occasion but even then I'm indifferent towards participating in it anyhow and it's not something I really want at all anyway. But it's something I could want and it's something I do think about and feel aroused kinda sometimes but not in a traditional way, not in a way that I think being with someone allosexual would make either one of us happy or in a way where someone who is asexual (if I can even find someone) that I'd really love probably want to be in a relationship with me knowing I'm not totally sex adverse but sex isn't even what I want but also I'm very sex positive despite being indifferent towards sex myself which I understand and I know others do but not really everyone does and it leads me to feel more alienated in both communities– generally I wouldn't say the asexual community is overall sex negative, I understand the difference between aversion, indifference, revulsion and being sex negative. Just looking in an echo chamber of asexual people who are sex indifferent really affected me I think in regards to how I view my sexuality and self worth related to it and feeling so alienated and like I don't belong in it). I don't really feel welcomed in either community and it hurts. (Especially on top of that being bisexual and ambiamorous, which I feel isolation and exclusion in similar ways too unfortunately. It all just sucks!!!)
So when I was searching for a Grey-Aegosexual Flag and couldn't find one, it reinforced the majority of my feelings above. I truly felt isolated, even though it was just a silly flag. It kept its toll on me for a while before the thought of creating my own flag drifted into my mind. I was hesitant at first, creating something to personally resonate with when I had been struggling with my identity seemed impossible, but it kept getting to me there wasn't a flag (that I could find at the time) so I decided to attempt it. And I did did resonate with the one I created <3 not at first, I actually created this alternate version.
Which if anyone else prefers, is awesome <3!!
I had to sit there for almost a month before I really felt anything towards either of the designs. I'm glad in the end I was able to go “Meee <3” when looking at one of them. I'm not sure what made me suddenly like the design, it just kinda grew on me.
I based the flag design off of hunterinabrowncoat's (Tumblr) aegosexual flag with the format of the flag having a triangle in the middle with switched colors and Milith Rusignuolo's grey-asexual flag with the colors! As.. I like both flags and being them both and feeling represented with them both, I wanted to combine them into one!
I created both variations of the flag in Ibispaint in around 7 minutes on November 26th.
However, as it turns out, I was not the first to create a grey-aegosexual flag <3!!
It turns out, at least since February of 2025, there had been a grey-aegosexual flag!! I was still nervous posting this design (I actually still am.) so I searched again in a last ditch effort to see if anyone had created one yet, and I found one from no-fear-queers (Tumblr) reposting it!! I think searched around again on google to no avail, then on the LGBTQIA+ wiki again and found the flag there too!!
I felt so relieved finding one, and much less isolated. I hadn't been that alone that whole time, someone else thought to make one and share it somewhere publicly. On the LGBTQIA+ Wiki, the creator is listed as Rainbow cat thing but there's no links to their socials and the Wikipedia page itself seems to be incomplete? Which I don't mind, I'm just happy to find a flag related to my identity. One I love the colors of, nonetheless.
My first thought I had outside of anything related to my identity and feeling seen was that I didn't have to even worry about posting my flag design as there already was one! But then I thought about it.. And despite how nervous it made me, I did want to share it. As the one I created to try and comfort myself also meant something to me. Maybe it could mean something to someone else too, as silly and corny and egotistical that may come off as.
So, that's why I still decided to post this <3 and that was also my process for creating it. And a really crazy rant.
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 🖇 ꒱ ⋮ Terms of Use
The majority of my works that involve some form of editing or graphic designing are free to use, this flag/design is no different.
This can be used for personal use such as:
- Referring to it as a flag you identify with.
- Reuploading or Reposting it under your own account or different platforms.
- However, unlike the majority of my edits, I do feel comfortable with this design being used in promotional material or monetization! (such as merchandise) The reason for this is so people could manufacture and sell merchandise being grey-aegosexual (though that's not required to sell anything related to this design) and so I could possibly grab some merchandise related to it..
For any of these cases, permission to use or reupload is not required nor is credit, but it is appreciated as always.
THIS IS AWESOME :OO!! I had such a hard time figuring out where to place colors and still have it look neat and put together, esp w/ the greysexual flag having an uneven amount of stripes. This is so cool!!!
𐔌 . ⋮ “ Alternative Grey-Aegosexual Flag Design ” (🏳️🌈) .ᐟ ֹ ₊ ꒱
♡ . ♣️﹐ıllı Hey, hi <3! I'm planning on creating a couple patches for a jacket of mine in the future displaying my identity and decided to design a flag for Grey-Aegosexuality!
୨୧ Read Below for a brief overview on Grey-Aegosexuality, process of designing the flag and terms of use!
. . . NOTE: To organize this, I attempted to arrange this similar to the format of a Wikipedia page! I felt as if this was an important detail to mention to not mislead anyone. At the moment of posting this, there is no official Wikipedia or sources for Grey-Aegosexuality from what I can find outside of the incompleted one mentioned later.
Grey-Aegosexual (Also known as Grey-Aego or Gregosexual) is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum where an individual identifies as both Greysexual (A sexual orientation in the asexual spectrum, where a person experiences sexual attraction rarely, with low intensity, or only under specific circumstances, existing in the "gray area" between being asexual and allosexual) and Aegosexual (A sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum in which one experiences a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. They may or may not feel sexual attraction, but have no desire to participate in sexual activities with another person.)
Some common Grey-Aegosexual experiences include:
- Experiencing sexual attraction infrequently, weakly or under specific circumstances, but when experienced there is a disconnect towards the individual and the subject of their arousal.
- Occasionally enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on occasion, but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of sexual content, self-arousing or fantasizing about sex.
- Enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of being in a real-life sexual relationship or engaging in active sex life with someone else.
- Fantasizing about sex occasionally or under specific circumstances, but:
The individual is not involved. They may only be a disembodied observer viewing it from a third-individual perspective rather than from the first-person.
Envisioning only other individuals, such as celebrities, fictional characters, or even friends.
It involves generic, faceless individuals, not specific individuals.
It is seen through the perspective of another individual rather than as one's actual self.
- Someone who feels sexual attraction on rare occasions but does not want to participate in sex.
- Feeling sexual attraction under certain circumstances or in lower frequencies that do not involve oneself.
- Perceiving someone as "hot" or recognizing someone as sexually attractive, yet rarely or only under specific circumstances seeing the appeal of having sex with the individual in real life. The individual may instead prefer to fantasize about them or admire them (miransexual).
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to aegosexuality, but experience it under certain circumstances, infrequently or weakly.
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to grey-sexuality, but experience it having a disconnect with the subject of arousal.
- People who resonate or connect with the terms/identify grey-sexual and aegosexual
NOTE: Experiencing grey-aegosexuality is not limited to these experiences, these are just common experiences I had seen others share (and that I myself relate to in some cases) who identify as greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual. I would love to hear others experiences with being greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual <3!
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 🎨 ꒱ ⋮ Designing Process → Inspiration for the flag, designing the flag and tribute to the original flag!
I had created this variation of the flag when I had been under the impression there was not a grey-aegosexual flag yet designed. Searching it up at the time with no results left me feeling isolated, so I opted to create my own flag.
THIS IS A BIG RANT. I debated on posting it along with this post as it was extremely personal and I never meant to even go into much detail, but I wanted to include it for others who may feel similar to me. As I myself feel isolated and as if I don't really have anyone to discuss my feelings with who understands being on the asexual spectrum– And I made this flag due to feeling isolated, which is the paragraph after my semi-unrelated rant.
I didn't intend to post this design originally in fear of experiencing homophobia and/or acephoba by others, but especially by others within the asexual community. In the process of figuring out I am even a part of the ace spectrum, I witnessed a lot of acephobia in regards to asexuals who sex negative. It's led me to feel marginalized and “inauthentic” in a way unfortunately, even today I struggle heavily with it. I don't mean to go into complete detail in how I experience sexual attraction as it's very personal to me, but I feel marginalized by both the allosexual (community?) and asexual community. It feels as if I'm not quite enough for either of them. I guess I feel sexual attraction, but it's pretty rare and circumstantial and I'm not really into the physical aspect of anything but rather the emotional intimacy and also I feel disconnected (which I enjoy) from it as when I do experience sexual attraction or arousal it's not myself experiencing it but rather viewing it from a different perspective third person or not my own (which I enjoy) but I could kinda see myself participating in sexual acts rarely or under specific circumstances but also not really and if I was to ever to date or something I don't want to go into relationship where one of us expect sex I'd much rather actually be in a relationship where it is not expected at all or date someone asexual rather than allosexual heavily but maybe if we both wanted something we could do something but I probably wouldn't even want to unless under specific circumstances or on a rare occasion but even then I'm indifferent towards participating in it anyhow and it's not something I really want at all anyway. But it's something I could want and it's something I do think about and feel aroused kinda sometimes but not in a traditional way, not in a way that I think being with someone allosexual would make either one of us happy or in a way where someone who is asexual (if I can even find someone) that I'd really love probably want to be in a relationship with me knowing I'm not totally sex adverse but sex isn't even what I want but also I'm very sex positive despite being indifferent towards sex myself which I understand and I know others do but not really everyone does and it leads me to feel more alienated in both communities– generally I wouldn't say the asexual community is overall sex negative, I understand the difference between aversion, indifference, revulsion and being sex negative. Just looking in an echo chamber of asexual people who are sex indifferent really affected me I think in regards to how I view my sexuality and self worth related to it and feeling so alienated and like I don't belong in it). I don't really feel welcomed in either community and it hurts. (Especially on top of that being bisexual and ambiamorous, which I feel isolation and exclusion in similar ways too unfortunately. It all just sucks!!!)
So when I was searching for a Grey-Aegosexual Flag and couldn't find one, it reinforced the majority of my feelings above. I truly felt isolated, even though it was just a silly flag. It kept its toll on me for a while before the thought of creating my own flag drifted into my mind. I was hesitant at first, creating something to personally resonate with when I had been struggling with my identity seemed impossible, but it kept getting to me there wasn't a flag (that I could find at the time) so I decided to attempt it. And I did did resonate with the one I created <3 not at first, I actually created this alternate version.
Which if anyone else prefers, is awesome <3!!
I had to sit there for almost a month before I really felt anything towards either of the designs. I'm glad in the end I was able to go “Meee <3” when looking at one of them. I'm not sure what made me suddenly like the design, it just kinda grew on me.
I based the flag design off of hunterinabrowncoat's (Tumblr) aegosexual flag with the format of the flag having a triangle in the middle with switched colors and Milith Rusignuolo's grey-asexual flag with the colors! As.. I like both flags and being them both and feeling represented with them both, I wanted to combine them into one!
I created both variations of the flag in Ibispaint in around 7 minutes on November 26th.
However, as it turns out, I was not the first to create a grey-aegosexual flag <3!!
It turns out, at least since February of 2025, there had been a grey-aegosexual flag!! I was still nervous posting this design (I actually still am.) so I searched again in a last ditch effort to see if anyone had created one yet, and I found one from no-fear-queers (Tumblr) reposting it!! I think searched around again on google to no avail, then on the LGBTQIA+ wiki again and found the flag there too!!
I felt so relieved finding one, and much less isolated. I hadn't been that alone that whole time, someone else thought to make one and share it somewhere publicly. On the LGBTQIA+ Wiki, the creator is listed as Rainbow cat thing but there's no links to their socials and the Wikipedia page itself seems to be incomplete? Which I don't mind, I'm just happy to find a flag related to my identity. One I love the colors of, nonetheless.
My first thought I had outside of anything related to my identity and feeling seen was that I didn't have to even worry about posting my flag design as there already was one! But then I thought about it.. And despite how nervous it made me, I did want to share it. As the one I created to try and comfort myself also meant something to me. Maybe it could mean something to someone else too, as silly and corny and egotistical that may come off as.
So, that's why I still decided to post this <3 and that was also my process for creating it. And a really crazy rant.
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The majority of my works that involve some form of editing or graphic designing are free to use, this flag/design is no different.
This can be used for personal use such as:
- Referring to it as a flag you identify with.
- Reuploading or Reposting it under your own account or different platforms.
- However, unlike the majority of my edits, I do feel comfortable with this design being used in promotional material or monetization! (such as merchandise) The reason for this is so people could manufacture and sell merchandise being grey-aegosexual (though that's not required to sell anything related to this design) and so I could possibly grab some merchandise related to it..
For any of these cases, permission to use or reupload is not required nor is credit, but it is appreciated as always.
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- Crush ca 130g Oreos (separated from the white filling first)
- melt 50g Butter and mix with the Oreos
- press the mixture into a Ø18cm springform (use a drinking glass or similar flat object) and then put it in the fridge
- put 200g philadelphia cream cheese, the juice of half a lemon and some vanilla extract in a bowl.
- microwave the oreo filling for a few seconds (just to soften it a little) and add that too, then mix everything together
- whip 250g cream in a separate bowl and then add it to the cream cheese. (don't use an electric mixer after you have whipped the cream.)
- separate everything into 3 bowls
- crush ca. 4 oreos and add them to one bowl. Add some waldmeister syrup (=Galium odoratum/ woodruff?) to the next, and leave one part white. (I tried to make 5 layers but sadly the light green stripe turned out super pastel and not really visible in the picture)
- make the layers in the springform. It is very important that you put the cake back in the fridge between each layer. (You can start with the next steps while you wait)
- cook ca 330g water with waldmeister syrup in a pot. How much syrup you need depends on what kind of syrup you have. If you use homemade waldmeister syrup you'll need to add some food coloring. If you don't like waldmeister, you can substitute it with some other syrup water like for example elderflower and add green color.
- mix ca 4 heaped teaspoons vanilla pudding powder (=corn starch) with the other half of your lemon juice in a cup
- pour the starch mixture into the water while whisking. Keep boiling for another minute then take the pot off the heat. (It's better to use Agar Agar for this but I didn't have any)
- The next part is a little tricky because you need to let the pot cool down, but not so much that you couldn't shape the mass into a flat surface anymore. Keep whisking every now and then and check the temperature until it's not super hot to touch anymore.
- use a spoon to pour the "pudding" onto your cake
- leave the cake in the fridge over night or for at least a few hours
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