Enneagram: what it is, what it isnāt, and whatās not definitive
What 1 is: fear of being morally corrupt.
What 1 typically looks like: some self-righteousness, some perfectionist tendencies, generally kind of uptight, willing to be confrontational but not comfortable with openly expressing anger, can be resentful as a result.
What (healthy) 1 isnāt: total and complete perfectionism, constant martyrdom/fighting every single battle/lecturing everyone all the time
What isnāt necessarily 1: having morals, confronting other people about immoral/problematic behavior.
What probably isnāt a 1: free-spirited or impulsive behavior, lazy or apathetic behavior
What 2 is: fear of being unworthy of love
What 2 typically looks like: helpful, puts the needs of others first, people-pleasing, desiring of affection
What (healthy) 2 isnāt: being a complete and total doormat, constant martyrdom, never considering their own needs or alternately being extremely needy and passive aggressive
What isnāt necessarily 2: wanting to be helpful, wanting some level of appreciation for their efforts
What probably isnāt a 2: selfishness, brusqueness, high level of independence
What 3 is: fear of having no value
What 3 typically looks like: competitive, image-conscious, tries to be high-achieving, often somewhat pragmatic regarding hierarchies and structure
What (healthy) 3 isnāt: backstabbing their way up the corporate ladder
What isnāt necessarily 3: caring about what people think of you professionally/academically, being at all competitive
What probably isnāt a 3: laziness or apathy as a baseline behavior, unwillingness to confront people, complacency.
What 4 is: fear of lacking a unique identity
What 4 typically looks like: heavy emphasis on self-expression, may try on different personas, can be stubborn
What (healthy) 4 isnāt: abnormally high selfishness, depression, lack of emotional control
What isnāt necessarily 4: having a sense of identity, being creative
What probably isnāt a 4: dislike of art, people-pleasing, unemotional
What 5 is: fear of being incompetent or unprepared
What 5 typically looks like: withdrawn, analytical, interested in learning
What (healthy) 5 isnāt: no social skills, no emotional expression, constant daydreaming
What isnāt necessarily 5: being smart, developing expertise, being curious
What probably isnāt 5: being very open and extroverted, disliking intellectual pursuits
What 6 is: fear of being without support or guidance
What p6 typically looks like: cautious, responsive, community-oriented, somewhat reliant on others
What cp6 typically looks like: the same, but more confrontational and focused on self-reliance
What (healthy) 6 isnāt: suffering from actual severe phobias or anxiety, paranoid
What isnāt necessarily 6: wanting to have some guidance or a support system
What probably isnāt 6: being very adventurous, risk-taking
What 7 is: fear of being trapped, deprived, or hurt
What 7 typically looks like: spontaneous, acquisitive, adventurous, scattered or flighty sometimes
What (healthy) 7 isnāt: no impulse control, addictive, refusing to commit to anything
What isnāt necessarily 7: enjoying fun, wanting to travel or have nice things
What probably isnāt 7: being very cautious, preferring stability to adventure, being extremely laser-focused.
What 8 is: fear of being controlled
What 8 typically looks like: decisive, dominant, confrontational, tough
What (healthy) 8 isnāt: fighting everything, being a control freak themselves, violent or cruel
What isnāt necessarily 8: confronting problems, liking leadership positions
What probably isnāt 8: passivity, reliance, indecision
What 9 is: fear of disharmony and loss
What 9 typically looks like: peacemaking, easygoing, calm, laid-back, avoidant of conflict
What (healthy) 9 isnāt: dissociated, numb
What isnāt necessarily 9: disliking conflict, being interested in spiritual topics
What probably isnāt 9: being confrontational, highly driven, or competitive
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