Hey! After reading your book and many of your posts, I’m pretty sure I use Fe/Ti, but I’m still going back and forth between types because I’m not sure about my perceiving functions. I’ve gathered some evidence below and would really appreciate any insight you could offer. Thank you!
I don’t usually think about the past or romanticize it, but I can be pretty methodical and somewhat resistant to change, especially when I already have something planned in the back of my mind. I’m more open-minded when it comes to things I’m not deeply attached to.
If I use Ne, it feels more “playful”. I enjoy entertaining theories and making pop culture references. Brainstorming takes a bit of effort for me, and I tend to focus on one idea before exploring others.
I enjoy being present in the moment and connected to my surroundings. I like working with my hands and improving through practice. I usually enjoy challenging myself physically, especially when it comes to skills I wanna get good at. I can be a bit impulsive and have no problem following my whims, trusting my gut usually leads me to the best outcomes anyway. I’m practical, decisive, and tend to take most things at face value. Thinking too far ahead doesn’t come naturally to me and tends to make me anxious. Staying focused on the present is much healthier for me.
I usually do what’s best for the group unless I have a strong objection. My sense of morality is also largely centered around what’s best for people or society, even when it comes to issues that don’t affect me personally. Sometimes I experience emotional outbursts and need to talk through my feelings in order to process them properly. I’m very straightforward about my emotions and judgments, and it’s hard for me to hide my reactions.
My reasoning is internal. If something makes sense to me, I accept it as true, at least until evidence shows me otherwise. My learning process also happens internally — concepts tend to click intuitively in the back of my mind. Sometimes I struggle to explain my reasoning or convince other people why my conclusions make sense.
At my worst, I try to control everything around me— both situations and people — which only ends up stressing me out and leading to the outbursts I mentioned earlier. I also become extremely anxious and worry about small things. Once I actually face whatever I’m anxious about, I usually realize I can handle it and that my mind was making it seem much worse than it really was.
This isn’t a lot to go on, but from what you did provide, ENFJ might be possible. Your Fe is too strong and focused on the group / social / people’s needs / immediate emotional processing to be tertiary (not an STP), and your desire to control everything is a EJ trait.
But I only see two strong functions – Fe and Se. Some of what you talk about with Si/Ne and the Ti section could be Ni working below the surface – you typically only want one way forward, you have something in the back of your mind that is specific, things click for you, you can’t explain why something makes sense, it just does, which means you could be using Ni without resting too deeply in it.
My guess would be an ENFJ who has yet to develop their Ni to its full capacity and/or to trust it entirely, so you are relying heavily on Fe and Se to navigate everything.
If you are a 6 (likely given some of the tells – anxious, wanting control, planning ahead, realizing you made a bigger deal of it than you needed to, and it was all in your mind), you might not “trust” Ni to carry you, and be relying on Se instead, so that may be something to think about and work on, going forward. 😊
If that doesn’t fit, we can revisit it, but I’d need much longer examples to support any other typing.