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Susan Mayer may seem lovable and chaotic, but her INFP personality and Enneagram 2w1 reveal a deeper pattern behind her most controversial choices.

“it really took a while to feel comfortable talking about things I’ve struggled with and maybe just times where I really haven’t been put together but I really think that the more honest with ourselves we are the safer we make it for everyone else to do that”

Help typing a friend!

Hello Charity!! […] I have a friend I am having a hard time typing, I think because I have difficulty distinguishing between Si and Fi. I think she is either an INFP or an ISFJ.

She seems more Si-dom than Fi-dom to me, although you could solve this quite easily by thinking about how she communicates. With a Fi-dom, it’s “me” and with an ISFJ, it’s “us” and “we.” They do or don’t do things, based on how it will impact others around them; Fi’s do or don’t do it, based on how they feel about it. So, if she were bone tired after a long day of studying, but a friend was having a birthday party, why would she choose to attend anyway?

Fe: She’s looking forward to me being there and I can’t disappoint her. It would also look bad to our mutual friends and maybe cause suspicion that we are not getting along. I’m going for her.

Fi: I care about our friendship, so I’m going to go.

One is outward-focused (they will feel this about me not being there, so I need to be there) and one is inward focused (I want to be a good friend, and that means going). Alternatively, would she give up something if someone asked her to? A Fe would, because their behavior affects those around them, and they feel responsible for them (I need to be a good role model). A Fi would, because this person and what they think about me matters more than doing this thing. It’s a subtle distinction, but it’s there.

[…] We’ve gotten into the habit of picking a fandom and telling each other our “big 3” from that fandom (which is pretty fun cause we always have wildly different answers). That seems pretty Fi to me

Fi is “me” “myself” and “I.”

Fi-dom: Everyone else is talking about how much they love dogs. I hate dogs, and I’m going to mention it, to make them stop.

Fe-user: Wow, everyone loves their dogs. They’re not my favorite, but whatever rocks their boat. I’ll ask them about their dog, to get them talking.

So, it’s less what you like/dislike or want to talk about, and more how you go about talking about it, or silencing a conversation you don’t want to be having. Low Te just… puts up a wall and shuts up or walks out. Low Ti asks questions or argues more. Low Te has a “I can’t change their mind, so why bother?” whereas low Ti has a “if they just understand my reasoning, they’ll change their mind.” High Fi doesn’t have a responsibility to fix other people (more of a “I’ll do my thing, you do yours”); higher Fe feels responsible for them, because their problems gain collateral damage and hurt the people Fe cares about.

[…] I love revisiting things from the past as much as the next feeling dom person with tertiary Si, I love trying to recreate feelings I loved as a child, but I think she does it to a much greater extent.

It does sound like she utilizes higher Si than you.

However, I don’t think I see much Fe in her and I very much doubt she’s a thinker. 😉

You need to elaborate on this, and what you think Fe is, because you haven’t really told me yet.

She likes to take control of most situations and can be surprisingly aware of what she wants and how to get it for a 9.

Interesting. This could be an indicator for SJ, because they are aware of how reality works, and how to get what you want, certain steps need to be taken, whereas low Te feels ?? and looks for ways to reinvent the wheel.

I had her and an ENFP friend over recently and sat quiet and afraid while they each argued over whether we would finish the show we had started tonight or wait till the morning.

This doesn’t indicate type necessarily; 9s can be pretty argumentative, particularly when they have an opinion and don’t really care about the other person that much. If ENFP was your friend, this friend probably has less of an emotional attachment to her than you do, and has no problem being assertive. She might be more reluctant if she prioritized the relationship (or alternatively, felt so comfortable with you both that she’s fine asserting herself).

I was with the ENFP friend: I wanted to watch tonight. I was not willing to voice my opinion and cause more conflict than there already was (saying this is of course making me re-think my type again because that sounds so Fe).

Plenty of FJ types get into loud arguments, because “I am right, and they are wrong, and their opinion is hurtful to the community, so it’s my job to correct them.” The difference is, their focus is outward, when they do keep the peace: I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable, so I will hold my tongue. Vs. Fi’s “I don’t want to deal with your drama, so I’m not gonna argue with you today.”

For you, is your reasoning behind being quiet internally based (prioritizing your OWN feelings and peace) or externally based (prioritizing THEIR feelings and peace)?

Speaking of her being internally-oriented, I think the finding our “big 3” every where we go thing seems so Fi because we really are trying to figure ourselves out: our identity in this world and who we can latch ourselves onto and say: see! i’m not alone, this person thinks like me too!

This is sweet, but not necessarily Fi. Everyone wants to know who they are, from ESTPs down to INFPs. That’s why typology is so popular! Our ego as human beings is invested in knowing who we are, why we exist, what drives us, and what we can do with our life. It’s also nice to know you are not alone, but I would drop in this Fi tidbit: two people of the same type are not the same. Our individual experiences make us all different. So, two people can have the same pain of loss, but a different level of pain, because they had two different grieving experiences, based on how they felt, their relationship to the person they lost, etc. (This is Fi thinking for you: we are alike, but not the same, I am focused on me and how I’m different from you, and I won’t assume I know what you are going through, because without having experienced anything similar to that on an emotional level, I don’t know.)

We are both big dreamers, but she has a much stronger sense of herself and her dreams than I do.

That is very interesting. I’m assuming she has either an assertive fix in her tritype or is 2 fixed, because that’s a lot of “I am THIS” … which doesn’t disqualify her from being an ISFJ.

She wants to be a wife, and a mother, and although she flip-flops between teacher, nurse, or florist sometimes…

A very ISFJ desire to have; they are BIG on marriage and family.

[…] I, on the other hand, want most of all to be a writer, but I have gone my whole life questioning all of my alternatives or extensions of that dream (teacher, filmmaker, actress, screenwriter, environmental scientist, etc, etc.).

I do think Fi-dom is likely for you, because this is about your friend’s typing, and the conversation keeps coming back to you. No shade, that’s just how Fi operates. “I am my own point of reference, and all things revolve around me, so I am good for comparative purposes.”

Even though she has no fear asking for what she wants, she can be fearful of talking about her feelings and how something has hurt her.

Why, though?

It’s one thing if it’s coming from an internal place of “my emotions are pretty complex and I can be feeling a lot of them all at once, and it takes time and me being alone to figure out how to articulate them, and they often come out better in writing…” and another if it’s “I don’t want to share right now, you would not appreciate it, or I don’t want trouble.”

It's also common sometimes for IFJs to resist Fe development; it makes them too aware of being attuned to other people, so they push against it, and don’t let Fe grow and do what it does best, which is to devolve into ease of communication, being aware of another person’s needs, and knowing how to balance out their requests from your behaviors, and to learn to not feel whatever they are feeling, as a Fe-using 9.

That’s actually a good point to raise here; a Fi-9 is self-aware and doesn’t feel what others are feeling; their opinions may soften, but their internal sense of “I have no connection to that” remains true, whereas a FJ 9 can become a mirror for other people’s emotions and may not know where theirs end and mine begin when around them.

Thank you so so much for your help! Have a lovely weekend :)

Nell Jackson (Louisa Harland) is best understood as an ESFP 8w7—fierce, emotional, and driven by personal loyalty rather than strategy.

I however, want to know how different is that from a more defensive 6. Another reason why I mistyped myself as a 9 because not only anger is an emotion I have a bit more of a fixation on, but also I prioritize what I want to do a lot and can get annoyed if either I feel disrespected, or just flat out not getting my way even though I know they are not worth getting angry about due to how reasonable the circumstances are. Maybe it's just poor emotional regulation and immaturity? Or I just value my own feelings a lot due to high Fi?

It's pretty natural for everyone to have their own agenda and want to be left alone to do things (and not be told what to do). It's also easy for anyone to get annoyed at being interrupted and to have an angry response; the difference is that 6s need things to "make sense" and want to make decisions from their minds, carefully thinking and rethinking about what to do, and making internal "plans"; 9s are not as emotionally focused on needing things to make sense, and make their decisions from a place of "well, this seems right."

6s (along with 4 and 8) are reactive cores, meaning they "respond to stress, conflict, or unmet needs with strong emotions, emotional intensity, and a drive to voice the negative or "bad" things they spot."

A 9 doesn't need others to agree with them that this bad, a problem, etc., but a 6 will continue pushing that point, escalating, and becoming emotional if others do not match their mood. 6s can't help being upset, being emotional, arguing with people, or venting.

9s also do not read into situations or project their insecurities onto a situation the way 6s do -- if the 6 is insecure, then others are picking on them, or think they are incompetent, etc. It's also easier for them to blame others for something they did if they took that person's advice and it backfired, whereas a 9 will react differently with their 1 or 8 wing.

High Fi is emotional in general, but with 9w8, it can be reactive (get out of my face, leave me alone!) and with 6, it can be reactive (this is a huge problem, don't you agree? well, maybe I'm not explaining it well enough and if I reframe my argument, they will give me the support I want).

I think I’m also probably in the 963 triangle like the recent ask you answered, and it’s just so hard to see what’s actually my core. I think 3 is just a fix because while I’m super aware of what image I’m projecting, how people are responding to me, frequently compare myself to others and I always want to be competent and recognized for it, I’m not a very ambitious person. I’m not focused on achieving great things, but instead spend all my free time consuming art and researching my interests. And while I’m adaptle and now what sides of me to show in different situations I’m not a chamaleon, I don’t think I have a fake persona that I project.

But between 6 and 9 it’s hard to tell. I thought it was 6 because I’m very mentally active and analytical, rather risk adverse and more of a planner even though I’m EP. But after reading your chapter on it I'mnot sure anymore. You see I’d never self deprecate, I find the idea of testing people’s loyalty to be horrible, I’m generally pretty confident on my ideas and interpretations of things and at my worst I don’t become super competittive. I could be 9 because I’m physically lazy and have generally low physical energy (mentally is where I shine). And I used to struggle a lot with anxiety so that would fit the disintegration to 6. But I seem to be way more confrontational and “selfish” than how 9s are described and the other 9s I know in my life. They frequently put others first and procratinate on resolving problems in a way I can’t understand.

So what should I do to decide between these types?

Honestly, you sound like a core 3 -- self-confident, assertive, able to instantly get things done, unsure of whether you are “good enough” at “doing” 3 to be one. ;)

3s are not necessarily ambitious; they just want to be good at, and admired for, whatever they care about the most, which in your case sounds like your artistic endeavors. I’d suspect you are a 3w4. 

When 9s in charge, sometimes they can have a sense of 9ish fatalism (it's not going to work anyway, so why put in the effort?) instead of when 6 being in charge, there's hyper-vigilance and awareness of risks. 6 cores are think-think-think (reason, rationalize, explain why I think this way or that is a bad idea) and 9 cores are "I feel like this is right, so I'm gonna do it." Less justifying.

Yes, of course. If you are a master computer, the processor is a big deal and so is the software. ;)

Like I keep wondering why is it that classifying other people comes so naturally to me, while my self-concept keeps on changing.

Extraversion + hazy self-awareness as a 9 + high Ne (see below).

It’s also strange because I can easily articulate my values, what are my boundaries and preferences, what I am passionate about and what I couldn’t care less about. Yet translating all of that into a type seem to be an Herculean task.

Sounds like decent high Feeler stuff.

I thought maybe it’s because I’m a 9 and people say 9s see themselves in every type. 

Being a 9 does not help a person self-type, that is for sure. It blurs out self-awareness and makes other people feel so INTERESTING.

But if I’m honest it’s not just that I think I’m a different type every 8 hours or so, but I actually want to be different types depending on the moment! Like I’ll be watching a video and finding someone attractive so I want to be the same type as them, even though I know type alone doesn’t make them who they are. And it’s not like I don’t like being who I am because I do, so it doesn’t make any sense to me! It’s like half of my mind just has a lot fun seeing itself as different types, while the other half is going nuts with the indecision. 

Several things here:

1) Your focus is outside of yourself and playing comparisons, with a preference for external focus, which means you are an extrovert.

2) You are allowing the external world to shape your imagination and spurring off of what you see to create a desire to be more like someone else (extravert). 

3) This is creating fantasies about yourself in which your brain enjoys imagining what if I could be that person instead? This is probably Ne, overriding the “me” in favor of a fun thought process in which I’m not me, and the fantasy is intellectually and emotionally stimulating. 

4) The ability to continually see yourself as new types is Extraverted Intuition, and if that is making it hard or impossible for you to settle on anything for very long, that is evidence of it being prominant.

It’s like my vision is 20/20 when it comes to anything outside of myself, but whenever I turn my eyes inside it’s all blurry and moving. 

That is extraversion + 9, unfortunately.

And I know people might say “Why don’t you forget it for a while?” but if I could I would, however I’ve always been impossible to move on until I get an answer to any question I have in mind at the time.

First, I think you’re a 936 tritype. There is some 3ish “but they are cool, I want to be exactly like them” happening in your type as well which is muddying your waters even further. 

About Fi Fi just saying ‘it’s wrong’ or ‘I hate it.’: today I came across a video from an ISFP that was focused on this issue. She said that she hates when people ask her why she likes something, because she doesn’t have an answer beyond “I just do”. She said someone asked her what her favorite color was she said it was pink. They asked her why, and she said “because it’s pretty”. But she couldn’t explain what was pretty about it and got uncomfortable for having to justify her opinion. She said, “I don’t want to think, I just want to feel!!!”. Would you say this is a general high Fi experience?

I just find that super weird. I mean you’re free to like whatever you want without having to justify it. But not wanting to know why something appeals to you and not liking to provide reasoning just strikes me as so…strange. And she sounded so defensive, as if someone asking for reasons was some sort of personal attack. Like relax, it’s just a question and you can choose to not answer it. Personally I don’t always enjoy justifying my actions to others because it’s my life and I can do whatever I want with it. So if it sounds like I’m being judged, I get annoyed, but in general, I volunteer reasonings for why I do what I do, it just comes naturally. I am very aware of what reasons led me to each decision, I know my 'whys’ well.

Yes, that’s how IFP / Fi-dom / high Fi works. It’s unnecessary to explain why you feel what you do about something, because... it just “is.” The Fi hates broccoli, or can’t stand the color pink, or thinks that is wrong or bad, based on an instant like/dislike process, which doesn’t need reasoned out or rationalized away. It also cannot be argued with because it’s subjective and not based on external “anything.” So there’s no point in telling them cheese makes broccoli better, and pink is a good color, and that this is actually good, because what you think or say about it is irrelevant, and they can’t change how they feel.

A lot of 6s won’t agree with this “I don’t need to justify myself” thing, because 6 spends all of its time justifying itself, but 6 kind of... layers on top of Fi instead of giving it a need to understand its own why and ensure that the why is consistent (like Fe and Ti). A 6 Fi might go “I like this, but I’d better come up with some good reasons that aren’t just ‘because I do’ and it will focus on the things that appeals to it within the object or experience or person.” 

No problem! Happy to help, most of the time. Ha, ha.

“Anyone who knows me will say I am a very weird person, but really sweet and considerate of others.”

The same could be said of a 6-4 or a 4-6 girl I knew, who was also an NFP. Highly compassionate, deep, and thoughtful of others, but also intentionally fixated on, and brought out, the aspects of her personality that broadcasted to others “I am not like you, we are not the same, my life has been Tragic, and you can’t relate.” That was her image-managing style, and she intentionally streamlined her aesthetics, her words, her appearance, etc., all to support this about herself, to highlight it, and to draw people to look at what SHE wanted them to see rather than what they might mistakenly focus on, in herself. That’s what high image fixers do: “you will see me how I want to be seen.” (I used to think she was a core 4, but in hindsight, she was probably a 641. There was a fair amount of superego and accommodation with a probable 6w7 core.)

Anyway… never feeling like you fit in with any group or anywhere, and identifying as a weird misfit can be 4, but it’s quite often 6. I’ve known countless 6s who would say that about themselves, including myself. Being aromantic, asexual, etc., means that I have never fit in anywhere, that few people understand me, that I struggle to understand others, and I have no real desire to BE like them, either, but… I don’t have 4. Just 6 and Fi. So some of that is probably Fi-ish, in terms of how you go about it (avoid, don’t bother integrating, feel awkward) as opposed to the Fe-6 mantra of “let’s all be freaks together!” I think Fi tends to always have a disconnect with other people, in terms of going “I’m not connecting the way other people seem to here, so maybe I don’t belong here.”

1 is always instantly able to notice and fixate on what is wrong, bad, improper, irritating, or half-assed about any situation or person, and that creates friction, annoyance, and tension in a tritype. It lends a rigidity and a need for self-control, along with annoyance at other people lacking competency, self-control, or being "reactive" instead of efficient and detached. 135 would be a total competency type, meaning zero emotional leaks. 9 is not as rigid, it does not focus on what is wrong and does not assume it needs to get involved in doing anything about it, it has a "someday good things will happen to me" mentality, and is more comfortable being inert (1 tends to see that as "wasteful" since with 3 involved, it has goals to work toward).

Since type is really just a process of how someone thinks... a normal ENTJ is going to have a forward-focus and be concerned with stats, facts, and organizing the external world in a way that produces long-term positive results. One ENTJ I knew worked for a non-profit and was stuck doing data entry instead of envisioning what the company could become ten years down the road. I haven't spoken to him in years, but I doubt he stayed in a position where they stymied his natural gifts and kept him doing something he was not good at (detail-driven work) instead of something he WAS good at (reading trends, making predictions, and anticipating problems and solving them early).

I had lunch with him one day and he spent a half hour complaining about the new highway going in and how it was going to create a bad bottleneck in about ten years as businesses and homes grew up around it, and it bothered him that nobody on the town planning committee knew what to look for to avoid future traffic issues.

Well, the main argument that finally convinced me was a list of Te attributes and examples of how I reason and how my interactions here showed some "Te" behaviors. It took some time to recognize the internal nature of Fi, and that not being in tune with other people's feelings did not mean I don't spend a lot of time considering how other people are going to feel based off my decisions; it's just secondary to how I feel. I also don't share my deeper feelings easily, or assume what I am feeling is universally easily understood or a collective "human" experience. And, I self-blame a thousand times more than locating the blame in others first, which shows my mental preoccupation with Self.

Ti is logic. Fi is me and my feelings and this is right or wrong.

Please read some of the recent asks I've answered about what extraversion really is (outer focus vs. internal filtering), my Fi-dom and Ne-dom sections on FunkyMBTI.com, and this article in particular: https://funkymbti.com/enfp-vs-infp/