Stella Bianca

We have a whole lot of feelings and thoughts, and sometimes they don’t line up quite right with the people around us. 

You are not a bad person because you have been annoying. You still deserve love, you still have people who adore you.

People go home thinking about their embarrassing moments and overthinking their mistakes, not yours – people aren’t as critical of you as you are of yourself

People’s opinions of you aren’t shaped by how weird they think you are or how odd you come across as much as they’re shaped by how kindly (or rudely) you treat them – although you don’t entirely control the way you’re perceived, you have more control than you think

The things people like about you are often things they can relate to, and the things people don’t like about you are often things they cannot relate to or don’t understand – how they see you is a reflection of how they see themselves, and how they treat you is a reflection of their character (not yours)

There are about a million things throughout someone’s day that can affect the way they feel, and the way they feel affects the way they express themselves. If someone’s annoyed, it doesn’t mean you’re annoying. If someone’s being short with you, it doesn’t mean you did something wrong. You aren’t entirely responsible for other peoples feelings, you aren’t always the cause – practice separating your sense of self worth from their feelings, that (emotional) security should come from within yourself and not from factors around you that you don’t have any control over

they like what you’re wearing.

you look like someone they know.

they recognize a piece of clothing or accessory you’re wearing.

they think you’re beautiful or attractive.

they’re zoned out or bored and people-watching.

they recognize you from somewhere.

they’re hesitating to ask you something or give you a compliment.

they’ve seen you in that same place before.

you caught their eye.

you look like how they imagined a fictional character to look.

you remind them of something.