My Cup of Tea

This is magnificent. I have no words to say how much I love this story. The rage of the former hero, the wizards, the emotional complexity, the conflicting versions of the story… it’s awesome. 

I suddenly understand the root of so many myths of swamp monsters now.

Rejecting the “I’m not like other girls trope” isn’t the high feminist praxis you think it is. 

This is directed towards adults who do this and not younger women or girls who are coming to terms with the idea that everyone has an ambivalent relationship with what is expected of the category of sex. What I mean is that there comes a time where some girls may feel different and alienated from the performance of what is acceptable and they may find solace (or meaning?) in this difference that feels fundamental and then is turned into something valuable. I don’t think acting like these girls are fundamental misogynists and anti-girl-power, as opposed to the adults that profit off writing and representing the trope, is the high feminist praxis that pop culture buzzfeed feminists think it is. 

I have been thinking about this a lot (a LOT) recently, and I’d like to add that many kids who went through a ‘not like other girls’ phase were likely to have been neurodivergent, not straight, or not girls in the end at all. It’s also important to note that malice against ‘other girls’ often stems from the fact that… ‘Other girls’ aren’t always very nice. I was socially excluded, patronised, and sneered at throughout my adolescent years (and starting as early as 8) for having strong interests in (nerdy) things, not dressing ‘girly’ or wearing makeup, and still wanting to play games and be a kid. Of course I thought I was ‘different’! But I didn’t hate these girls and I didn’t think I was better than them - more often than not, I wanted them to like and accept me. I think this experience is far more common than any discussion of this subject will have you think. Widespread ‘rejection’ of this trope smacks of a refusal to critically evaluate how restrictive and oppressive the standards of femininity are and how women are often complicit in ostracising those who do not comply with them. I do think that the way a lot of media presents girls who think they’re ‘different’ is often misogynistic and doesn’t reflect the reality of this phemomenon, but I haven’t fully formulated my thoughts on this.

Just remember. There is no such thing as a fake geek girl. There are only fake geek boys. Science fiction was invented by a woman.

Specifically a teenage girl. You know, someone who would be a part of the demographic that some of these boys are violently rejecting.

Isaac Asimov.

yo mary shelley wrote frankenstein in 1818 and isaac asimov was born in 1920 so you kinda get my point

And if you want to go back even further, the first named, identified author in history was Enheduanna of Akkad, a Sumerian high priestess.

Even Isaac Asimov ain’t having none of your shit, not even posthumously.

You know what else was invented by women? Masked vigilantes, the precursor to the modern superhero. Baroness Emma Orczy wrote The Scarlet Pimpernel in 1905. The character would later inspire better known masked vigilantes such as Zorro and Batman.

Stick that in your international pipe and smoke it

I have literally been telling people this for over a year.

the first extended prose piece - ie a novel, was not, as many male scholars will shout, Don Quixote (1605) but The Tale of Genji (1008) written by a woman

The first autobiography ever written in English is also attributed to a woman, The Book of Margery Kempe (1430s).

The day may come when I find this post and do not reblog it, but it is not this day.

One of my favorite things about Jane Austen is that she knew the real fear wasn’t running into some terrifying Frenchman or finding your lover’s wife in the attic…it was having to spend time with someone who is slighter cooler than you are, or playing piano in front of a critical audience, or thinking a picnic will be the perfect time for your jokes but then it isn’t

QUICK PLEASE CAN SOMEONE FIND ME THAT PICTURE OF THE EYESHADOW PALETTE THAT WAS LIKE “DIESEL FUMES” AND “HUEUGH” AND OTHER STUPID ASS NAMES 

Research chemicals, eat the weak, and cigarette butt in urinal would make a great look

*does a magical girl transformation sequence but at the end its just regular me with a hard hat, safety glasses, and high visibility vest*

Animal Crossing Construction Mode

Amethyst! That’s actually really cute, and would totally be viable if I didn’t already have a name.

Carlee. My name was 716th, so i wasn’t expecting anything too crazy. A little…bland, though.

Vera. I like that.

when the times get rough and I lose sight of the goal i just. reread “the orange” by wendy cope again & remember. that’s where I’m going folks. sooner or later, whatever it takes.

i just wanna add: there’s a time for “ok boomer” and there’s a time for respectful and understanding communication. that point is when the other person cares but truly doesn’t understand the issue at hand.

People want to understand. Insulting people who don’t understand will not help them or the child in their situation. Binding does have health risks. But alternative methods of binding are much more dangerous. Parents with questions are welcome here.

Morally good got that wagon? Can you make moral goodness clap? I think the fuck not my good bitch

You heard it here first, bisexiis have no innate moral compass

i only fuck evil people with fat asses

I’ve never read anything so completely wrong about bisexuality and pansexuality in my entire life.

Not to detract attention from what is /very important information/, cervix owners and vaginal orgasmers, but why is it always a scooped out cantaloupe on these kinds of things? Don’t scrape out my melon!

@steepedkris-tea We’re WOMEN, you disrespectful, misogynist fuck. Stop crawling onto posts about women’s health and calling us dehumanising terms!!

“my politics include everyone” then they’re meaningless, and it’s not feminism.

Feminism affects and benefits everyone. Full stop. I’m sorry your surroundings have failed you so badly you can’t see that.

What do you call egalitarianism?

In this case? A misdirect from the specific issue that the mistreatment of women affects cis women, transwomen (who ARE women), transmen (who get forcibly read as women, causing damage), non-binary individuals (again, who get read as women in many cases), and men (because toxic masculinity harms men too) and feminism is the solution to all of those problems. If your feminism isn’t intersectional - doesn’t take all aspects of the issue into account, doesn’t include considerations for race, doesn’t accept that gender is on a spectrum, then it’s not going to help.

Progressive misogyny everyone

Terfs thinking they're defending and uplifting themselves when they're really just reducing themselves to their bodies the same way cismen do, and hurting other women in the process, everyone.

Not to detract attention from what is /very important information/, cervix owners and vaginal orgasmers, but why is it always a scooped out cantaloupe on these kinds of things? Don’t scrape out my melon!

“Vaginal orgasmers”… um….? Wtf, dude? Just say women!

Nope, because I didn’t mean just women. Also, I’m not a dude. Thanks for being rude out of the blue, though. Hope it improved your day.

Only women have cervixes, so yes, just call us women not “vaginal orgasmers”, like, how gross and weird can you get? 

Not to detract attention from what is /very important information/, cervix owners and vaginal orgasmers, but why is it always a scooped out cantaloupe on these kinds of things? Don’t scrape out my melon!

“Vaginal orgasmers”… um….? Wtf, dude? Just say women!

Nope, because I didn't mean just women. Also, I'm not a dude. Thanks for being rude out of the blue, though. Hope it improved your day.