toad lesbian

Well I don't like how it feels. I don't feel cleaner without body hair. I don't prefer not having body hair. But who will advocate for women like me, but me? For women who do like hair removal, they are advocated for every time they step out of the house and see 99% of the female population also conforming to that standard, or when they watch a movie and see all the shaved actresses, or view an advertisment, or open a magazine, or watch a music video, or scroll through social media, or walk down the streets without receiving insults and glares for having a completely normal bodily feature.

the same behavior that kept me safe from people who wanted to hurt me, is not well adapted to making and keeping friends.

the same behavior that helps you dismiss trolls who want to waste your time and upset you, is not well adapted to seeking truth from diverse sources.

Before you can let your guard down and give up the trauma response, you have to find spaces where you are genuinely safe! It is not effective to ask a person to stop being paranoid when she is still attacked daily in every space she enters.

However! Living by the trauma response also serves to convince you you are being attacked daily, when that may or may not be true. The first steps you take out of your self-imposed quarantine have to be leaps of faith—faith in other people.

anyone can be lesbians doesnt mean anyone deserves to or will get sex with other lesbians and in fact asexual lesbians exist who arent interested in sex at all and anyone can be lesbians does not in fact mean lesbian spaces will fill up by the tens or hundreds with cis men you might see a homer simpson in the lesbian bar every now and then but tbqh he isnt gonna be a regular

He is married to a woman who is mostly only attracted to women, and they are in an open poly relationship together. They pretty much exclusively date and hang out with queer women & trans men together outside of work, even his wife and their other girlfriends consider him "a lesbian in a man's body". I have also, to be honest, rarely ever met a cis man who respects the women around him as much as he does. I present as a woman at work, in fact I only recently told him I'm trans in private. This guy has been nothing but respectful towards me as long as I've known him.

"But what if he's an egg?" Frankly that is currently none of my business and it's no one else's either, he's a man at the time I'm writing this, and I respect that! He knows plenty of trans women, he knows full well it's an option for him. If he ever decides one day to transition and he tells me, that's great and I'll give him the same respect he has for me as someone who is transfemmasc, but for now he's a bald bearded 6' dude who manages to attract lesbians as though he is a woman.

He's not harming anyone by doing this! He's not "invading women's spaces", all the lesbians and transfems he knows want him there. He's out there living his best life, regardless of whether or not the label 'really should' apply to him. He's not harming anyone by doing so, and quite frankly I think he's awesome !

No matter how hard someone tries to make up a guy that justifies exlclusionism, there will always be someone living that way, whether or not you've met them personally.

"Even cis men?"

All the episodes of Galavant are on the Internet Archive!

(Cylinder seal of First Dynasty of Ur Queen Puabi, found in her tomb, dated circa 2600 BC, with modern impression. Inscription: 𒅤𒀜 𒎏 - Pu3-abi(AD) Nin - Queen Pu-abi. Nicked straight off Wikipedia as it's a fab comparison of seal / relief.)

In the British Museum you can find "Lady Layard's jewellery". Austin Henry Layard is a guy whose academic efforts I'm admittedly very indebted to. He was passionate about Venetian and Roman glass and did a great job re-popularising both styles in the UK, but more importantly he was the assyriologist who excavated Nineveh and the Library of Ashurbanipal—where we've found the majority of the Gilgamesh tablets. Pioneer figure in terms of Near Eastern archaeology... but check this out:

This is a necklace Layard had made for his wife. It uses real cylinder seals.

To quote the British Museum's entry on the item: One cylinder seal is Akkadian (about 2200 BC) and four belong to the second millennium BC, but eight are late Assyrian (about 1000-612 BC). Late Babylonian and Achaemenid stamp seals (about 600-350 BC) are used for the pendants and clasp.

Enid later wrote in her diary that, when they dined with Queen Victoria in 1873, it was 'much admired'.

Ancient Near Eastern artefacts, repurposed as jewellery in a set that doesn't give a single fuck about accurately dating them, let alone treating them with the sort of respect you might perhaps expect of items over four thousand years old. Instead they've become a mark of elite colonial status, an Oriental curiosity utterly separated from their historical context. They're 'old'. They're non-descriptly 'other'. Time and place dissolve into an attractive and vague exoticism.

All while the place these seals have been appropriated from is busy being exploited by the very empire this "jewellery" is being shown off to!

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*Shrnf…*

*Horace Turns His Handsome Snout To Face YOU*

KIRA: Incoming transmission. [He's] sending over a document. EDDINGTON: It's a book. One of my favourites. Les Miserables. SISKO: Thank you, but I've read it. EDDINGTON: Recently? If not, you should read it again.

Absolutely unhinged thing to tell somebody. Although the episode (deliberately?) draws on the misconception of the book being About the obsession Javert has for catching Valjean, I choose to believe it was a space-PDF of a completely unabridged version of the story, digressions and all