i've achieved my final form

Enter "How to Eat Well for Adults With ADHD" by Rebecca King.

I am about to sound like a sponsored ad, but this book is absolutely incredible. It's written by a nutritionist with ADHD, and does include some recipes, but they only make up a part of the third section of the book. The rest of it is focused on practical, broadly applicable advice for neurodivergent folks (and frankly, other disabled people) on unlearning internalized ableism around food, how to best organize your kitchen and meal plan (and what to do when meal plans fail), the connections between food and dopamine and how best to use food for stimulation in a healthy way, how hyperfocus and time blindness can get in the way of eating well, how to make sure you're eating enough while on stimulants, the fact that many ADHD people also have ARFID (and the book even emphasizes that ARFID is an eating disorder, not just "picky eating"!!), and takes the strong stance that we should do away with the idea of "picky eaters" altogether in favor of a more compassionate stance on people's complicated relationships with food and eating.

It is strongly anti-diet culture while still emphasizing that good nutrition is important. It has extremely specific tips that make my ADHD heart sing a little, like how best to store specific vegetables so they last the maximum amount of time in your fridge (since we are all very good at forgetting they are there) and what tools can make doing the dishes more manageable. And perhaps most importantly, as someone with severe sensory sensitivities and some very real trauma from having them ignored as a kid and being shamed for them, it made me cry a little bit with how understanding and compassionate it is.

Anyway. I am going to buy a copy of my own immediately, and I cannot recommend it enough. If you, like me, are trying to unfuck your eating habits and neat someone to hold your hand a little in the process -- while still making you feel like an adult, and still offering actionable tips along the way -- this book could be a lifesaver.

It’s easy to say that cyber bullying doesn’t matter in the real world or whatever but targeted online bullying campaigns have the power to wreck entire communities and support networks.

It’s difficult to just turn off your computer when all the people who relate to this aspect of your life are in there.

I’ve definitely met other asexual and arospec people irl but it’s quite rare. And real life queer spaces are in fact often bars or kink spaces. And like bully for you if you like kink or alcohol or romance but when your entire identity is based around not feeling the feelings often associated with romance and/or sex that’s not always super fun.

And people got relentlessly mocked for bringing up this issue. Shut down. Called childish. Like okay. Fuck us for wanting a sober non sexual spot to meet other queers, right? So childish for wanting options.

I’ve been involved in the online asexual community and doing education about asexuality and aromanticism in both irl and online queer spaces for almost fourteen years now and that short period of time around 2016-2018 took a wrecking ball to my people that I feel like we’ve still barely recovered from and I’m still angry about it.

from George V’s diary

The Dragon: Prince George met with a master tattooist (believed to be Karakusa Gonta) in Tokyo. In his personal diaries, George described the ink as a "large dragon in blue and red writhing all down the arm," a process that took roughly three hours. 

The Tiger: Later in the same trip, George visited Kyoto and received a tiger on his opposite arm to complete a symbolic representation of the East and the West. His brother Albert Victor chose a dancing crane instead.

King George V's first cousin and lookalike, Tsar Nicholas II of Russia, also had a large traditional Japanese dragon tattooed on his forearm. Nicholas received his during a state visit to Japan in 1891, a meticulous design with yellow horns and a red belly that required seven hours of work.

Nicholas described the experience in his diary:

April 16, Tuesday. I awoke to a wonderful day, and the shore was irresistibly inviting. The streets and houses of Nagasaki make an exceptionally pleasant impression: everything is spotlessly clean and tidy, and it is a pleasure to enter their homes. The Japanese people, both men and women, are so warm and welcoming. We returned to the frigate around five o'clock for tea. After dinner, I decided to have a dragon tattooed on my right arm. It took exactly seven hours—from 9 p.m. until 4 a.m. Once is quite enough of that sort of pleasure to cure one of any desire to repeat it! The dragon turned out splendidly, and my arm did not hurt at all.

Dragons were a popular subject among Japanese ink-painters and tattooists. Said to control thunder and rain, they were also a powerful symbol of the East, and often paired with a prowling tiger representing the West.

Aurinkopaneelit ratakiskojen välissä on ainakin äkkiseltään toimiva ajatus: tunneleita lukuunottamatta kiskot ovat valtaosan päivästä päivänvalossa. Toki Suomessa auringon tulokulma on sellainen, että ihan vastaavaa hyötyä ei täällä saataisi kuin Sveitsissä. Toisaalta testi Sveitsissä kertonee näiden selviävän myös talvioloissa.

With a heavy heart, I come to you all with the news announced by close friends of Cat Frazier that she had passed away on Monday, June 29.

She had been running @animatedtext since 2012, with her impact on the internet SHAPING tumblr. If you have a years long history on this site, you’ve seen her art.

She ran a venue in Oakland called Oakland Secret, a punk venue where I’d vend at regularly as an artist. She made a safe space for queer artists, artists of color, and local furs too. I am forever grateful for her work both in the Bay Area creative scene and online, and am forever changed by the totality of her impact.

I’ll be linking some articles from the 2010’s about her impact online: The Fader | Action | Jezebel | ObviouslySocial

I invite you to take a visit through her archive, and if you have a long history with this site like I do, it’s like walking down memory lane.