SoftBuggy

shout out to all the trans women on this site that are normal about trans men

it drives me up the fucking wall the amount of people saying trans men don’t experience male privilege. because by saying that, not only are they degendering all trans men, they’re also denying *my* lived experience. i’ve been living as a man for EIGHT YEARS. once i started looking for male privilege that myself and my close trans male friends experience i never stopped noticing it.

I think people sometimes forget that, as much as someone has grown and become the person they are today, there was once a completely different version of them standing where they are now.

your jokes about trans women "never going outside" are noted and categorized under the same filing as other victim-blaming jokes like "if she didn't want to be assaulted she shouldn't have dressed / acted that way"

The thing about the "trans women are capable of harm" type posts and blogs like transmascvoicesproject is that on a daily basis trans women are told that we are predators, that we are violent, that we have the rape organ, that we solely exist for fetishistic reasons and that makes us dangerous to be around. Society never lets us forget this. Cinema never lets us forget this. Terfs never let us forget this. Political parties on either side of the spectrum never let us forget this. These people post like they live in a world where trans women/transfeminine people are shielded from the consequences of our actions by our identities, but that's a fantasy. We are not only held accountable for our actions, but responses to our mistakes and transgressions are often extremely worse than that of other people. Not to mention, a lot of trans women are lied about, marked rapist/pedophile/abusive by an abusive, transphobic ex, and then isolated and removed from friends groups for the crime of coming out as trans. This is so, so, so common.

the understanding that I would be immediately, irreversibly marked for a lifetime of misogyny and hostility chilled me out of pursuing transition for years, and I'm not the only woman I know who has said the same. we are well aware of what we're getting into and we know it's not something that can ever be undone. we've seen all our lives how poorly women (and especially trans woman) are treated. but we are women, so our choice is to accept the reality of womanhood or die. painting us as naively grasping at a surface-level idea of womanhood denies our interiority as people and our existence as women.

HDG works great as a commentary on how bad things are outside of the fantasy in the real world for disabled people, so much so that a lot of us would take being made a human pet by aliens in a heartbeat if it meant some semblance of security.

This is very well put. The world is so cruel to the disabled, and HDG is part of how I've coped with that, by imagining a world where no one slips through the cracks, and everyone is cared for

Not enough stories with disabled protags who were once independent loners and abled struggling with their new reality of relying on others. Where is the anger? . Where is your rage? Lets scream abt it. Rage rage rage.

Im gonna be so real i think that people are scared to show anger from disabled people bc they are scared of seeing disabled people through a lense of the average person.

don't bring anything to a knife fight

"Go outside" not in the sense of "be in nature to reset your brain a bit" but in the sense of "go and look at how the world actually operates when you aren't in a bubble of people with your shared thoughts and beliefs every so often to remind yourself of how privilege actually operates in the real world."

this is one of the reasons why I keep saying that everybody needs to read up and learn about fundies and christofascist belief systems. listen to stories from people who escaped those communities, especially the women and queer folk. the modern dominant culture is based on these people's belief systems. you cannot effectively understand transphobia until you understand how christian fundamentalists think and act and feel. because they're who makes the system and sets the culture, very deliberately so.