A couple of months ago, I shifted to a reality where sexism doesn't exist. The only reason why I shifted back is that I want to make this post, but after this I'm permashifting to that reality.
There's That Change In My DR Without Sexism:
There's way more that changed, but I really don't feel like typing them all as I'm trying to leave this reality asap.
No job is culturally coded as âfor menâ or âfor women.â
Physical labor jobs (construction, mining, military) are staffed by people with the right build, endurance, or training.
Caregiving professions (nursing, teaching young children, caretaking) are status-neutral and often high-pay, because they were never feminized.
Career expectations are identical, so thereâs no âwork vs familyâ framing by sex, and parental leave equally used and expected by both sexes.
Stuff like âmale-dominatedâ or âfemale-dominatedâ fields donât exist.
Glass ceilings, glass cliffs, âboysâ clubsâ, âpink-collar vs blue-collar workâ, etc. doesnât exist.
Height and muscle mass differences doesnât exist. The average height for both sexes are the same, but it does change depending on the country. For example the average height is 5â9 in America but in the Netherlands itâs 6ft.
The whole ânaturally better leadersâ, âmore emotionalâ, âmore logicalâ, âweaker / stronger mindsâ, etc. based on sex doesnât exist.
Characters are written as people first, sex second. Meaning the media never uses sex as shorthand for innocence, danger, emotional depth, and authority.
Thereâs no genre assumptions like action movies are for men and romance for women. Also the whole âwomen audiences vs men audiencesâ and âfemale-led movieâ marketing doesnât exist.
Sexualization still exist but itâs not just mostly women, it happens to both genders. Itâs also not tied to moral judgment.
Aging is a normal/neutral thing. Thereâs no obsession with âaging womenâ and youth isnât sex-coded. That being said pedos and stuff like that also doesnât exist.
The Bechdel Test doesnât exist.
The male gaze theory isnât a thing.
There'sâ tons of popular characters from this reality thatâs are the opposite sex in my dr.
Thereâs no male/female sports. Sports arenât split by gender.
Thereâs objectification framed as empowerment or degradation.
Children grow up seeing leaders, villains, geniuses, caretakers, soldiers, and artists of all sexes equally normalized. So thereâs no shock value when someone of any sex occupies power.
Dating Culture & Relationships
The whole men have to be experienced and women be pure and innocent doesnât exist.
Courtship norms are personality-based, not sex-based.
Thereâs no âprovider vs dependentâ assumption.
For stuff like sexual expression thereâs no double standards.
Stuff like âmen should payâ, âwomen are gatekeepersâ, etc doesnât exist.
Purity culture tied to sex doesnât exist.
And the whole âmasculineâ vs âfeminineâ energy discourse isnât a thing. Masculine and feminine is basically the same, itâs like the words actor/actress.
âMarriage materialâ stereotypes arenât tied to a sex.
Breakups, jealousy, and commitment issues exist but arenât blamed on a gender.
History & Power Structures
Thereâs no historical periods where one sex is legally subordinate or rights are denied based on sex.
Dynasties, empires, revolutions led by whoever had legitimacy, not a sex.
Rulers, inventors, generals, philosophers, religious leaders, etc are evenly distributed across sexes since the beginning of time.
Wars where never framed as âmenâs dutyâ. (Fun fact, in America it was conserided âwhite peopleâs dutyâ back in the day as black people werenât allowed to fight during WW1.)
Suffrage movements doesnât exist.
Feminism / anti-feminism doesnât exist.
Culture, Language & Social Norms
Respect in authority is tied to role, age, skill, or statusânot sex.
Thereâs no praise based on defying sex norms.
Titles and honorifics are sex-neutral.
No infantilization terms tied to sex.
All emotional expression is normal, so thereâs no âcrying is weakâ logic.
Terms like, women in STEM, female CEO, girlboss, âwomen entering the workforceâ, Iâm just a girl, âStrong female characterâ as a phrase, Slut vs stud, âFirst woman to ___â, âact like a man / ladyâ, âooys will be boysâ, etc. doesnât exist.
Thereâs no gendered insults like âbitch,â âman up,â âemasculatedâ.
Sexist âjokesâ doesnât exist.
Medical research always studies both sexes equally.
Pain reports are taken seriously regardless of sex.
Reproductive health is not moralized.
Mental health is not sex-stereotyped.
Stuff like âwomenâs pain is exaggeratedâ, âmen donât seek helpâ narratives, gendered mental health stigma doesnât exist.
Deities, prophets, saints, leaders are mixed from the start. Meaning thereâs tons of women ones has men.
Moral authority is not sex-linked.
No doctrines of obedience tied to sex.
Stuff like headship ideology, Eve-type blame narratives, sacred gender hierarchies doesnât exist.
Toys, colors, games, and interests are never segregated.
Emotional expression is encouraged for all children.
Risk-taking and nurturing are taught to everyone.
Puberty education is factual, calm, and equal.
No shame cycles tied to bodies.
No social hierarchy built around sexual reputation.
Thereâs no dress codes targeting one sex.
Overprotection vs neglect based on sex isnât a thing.
Adultification of one group of children doesnât exist.
Crimes are defined without sex-based assumptions.
Victims are believed based on evidence, not identity.
Self-defense laws apply equally.
Thereâs no âcrimes of passionâ excuses.
Thereâs no victim-blaming narratives.
Thereâs no protection laws that infantilize one sex.
Thereâs also much less violence in the world.
How Men Act Differently In My DR
Men are taught emotional literacy from early childhood.
Crying, fear, affection, tenderness, and uncertainty are normal and respected.
Emotional restraint exists as a skill, not an identity requirement.
Men are better communicators and less reactive.
Aggression is corrected early, not excused.
Accountability is immediate and consistent.
Thereâs no aggression being reframed as dominance or leadership and social rewards for intimidation.
Men are statistically less violent.
Conflict is more verbal, strategic, or withdrawn, not physical.
Male sexuality isnât treated as uncontrollable or predatory.
Consent is ingrained as instinctive, not taught as a rule.
Desire doesnât equal entitlement.
Thereâs no âmen canât help themselvesâ, excusing harassment or assault, virginity myths tied to masculinity or pressure to âproveâ sexual success.
Men donât base worth on dominance, income, stoicism, or sexual success.
Caregiving, artistry, softness, and dependence are valid identities.
Thereâs no crisis of masculinity, fear of being perceived as âweakâ or âfeminineâ, fear of commitment framed as male nature, or ego-based competition as default bonding.
Thereâs more diverse male personalities.
Men have stronger friendships, and thereâs less loneliness among men.
Men are not socialized to avoid emotional labor.
Men attachment styles are healthier.
Men are better long-term partners and thereâs less emotional immaturity among them.
How Women Act Differently In My DR
Appearance is expressive, not mandatory.
Beauty is optional and not currency.
Aging is neutral, not a moral failure.
Things like beauty as worth self-surveillance, constant body comparison, grooming as obligation, and sexualization from childhood doesnât exist.
Women are less anxious, less self-critical.
Women have more mental energy for creativity, leadership, risk, and ambition.
Women are never taught to shrink, soften, or apologize for presence.
Assertiveness is natural, not âlearned.â
Anger is allowed and respected.
Stuff like âBossy,â âshrill,â âtoo muchâ, over-apologizing, indirect communication for safety, fear of being disliked for competence, fear-driven niceness, social conditioning to avoid male anger, âdonât provokeâ logic doesnât exist.
Women speak more directly.
Thereâs less self-doubt among women.
Women have stronger leadership styles emerge earlier.
Women take risks earlier and more often.
Failure isnât moralized.
Power is not seen as unfeminine.
Womenâs desire is neutralânot taboo, not empowering, not shameful.
Sexual boundaries are respected without justification.
Desire is self-directed, not reactive.
Women donât live in constant risk-calculation mode.
Thereâs no hypervigilance, appeasement, or pre-emptive politeness.
Social Conflicts That Doesnât Exist:
âMen vs womenâ discourse
Red pill / blue pill ideologies
Incels / femcels as categories
Culture wars over masculinity/femininity
Conflict still existsâbut over class, race, nation, ideology, and power, but not sex.
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