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I can't believe Tumblr didn't actually give me an email telling me that my blog was back up. I found out from a mutual on my backup blog.
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You know what, fair enough
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I finished reading The Lord of the Rings for the first time in my life. With all of *vague gesture at everything* this going on.
I Am Not Okay
You have to understand. I watched the movies maybe once as a kid when they came out twenty years ago. I've somehow avoided learning like anything about these books my entire life. Literally everything about these books was a complete unknown and surprise to me. Totally blank slate going on. I barely even knew how it ended.
Holy shit.
Frodo didn't complete his task. Sam literally carried him up Mount Doom. And when he got to the end, he couldn't throw the Ring away.
But for Gollum biting it off with his finger, it wouldn't have been destroyed.
So Frodo's journey saved the world nonetheless.
And it broke him.
It was too much for him to bear. He could no longer live in the Shire or live in Middle-Earth. He wasn't of the world anymore. He had to go to the Undying Lands.
He took on the task that no one else would. He saved the world. Everyone got a happy ending. Aragorn became King, Sam rebuilt the Shire, Merry and Pippin became heroes. They all lived in renown.
But Frodo had the hardest task of all. No one else would do it. A simple hobbit who came by the Ring by chance. Not a King, not an immortal. Not a wizard. No power save his will and his friends. And he did it and saved everyone.
And he never got to rest. He never got to remain in peace. The task destroyed him. It was too much.
But there was no other way. Nobody but a simple hobbit could bear the ring all the way to Mount Doom and resist its power so long. Not a man, not an elf, not a wizard; they would have succumbed. Gandalf knew this, which was why he chose the hobbits in all his designs.
It's amazing that one of the precedent setting works in the fantasy genre holds up so well because it subverts what ultimately became the genre's core tropes. The hero was not the King, or a chosen one. In fact, the hero not being the King was a key point that allowed Aragorn to distract Sauron and allow the task in the first place. The hero was someone unassuming but courageous, who did the thing because no one else would, even though it was just by chance he came upon it.
But Frodo couldn't resist the Ring completely. He wasn't superior to anyone else in that way. And in the end it left him broken. The burden crushed him. No one else could do it, and in the end, he couldn't either. He wasn't so special that he was invulnerable.
I'm not okay. Holy fuck you guys.
It's been a week and I'm still not over this, I'll never get over this.
Something that I've been thinking about, as I struggle with depression and anxiety and *another vague gesture at everything* is that LOTR does not criticize Frodo for being broken. It does not shame him or deny him what he needs.
The task was too much and it broke him and that's okay. His friends nonetheless take care of him and let him go with understanding. The book doesn't treat it as a bad thing.
This seems to be a theme throughout the books. The characters rest and heal. They spend time recovering in Rivendell, Fangorn, Lorien, Ithilien. It's treated as good and necessary. They don't heroically endure endless torment from the second they set out until they're done.
And in Gondor's march from Minas Tirith to Mordor, Aragorn recognizes that some of the very few men he's taking with him don't have the heart to go to battle against the Enemy. And he says that's okay. He gives them other tasks the they can do. They hold other strategic points. They aren't shamed for not going all the way, or kicked out, or told that they aren't manly or whatever. Their limitations are recognized and respected. The task was too big and it was okay that they couldn't do it.
I don't know man. I've held on through some absolutely crazy shit. White knuckled through mental health crises when my doctors were begging me to take a break, to go to the hospital before I hurt myself. My therapist has tried to slow me down and tell me that I've been going through it and it's understandable that I am feeling some kind of way. Even one of my colleagues remarked that I've had an absolutely fucking wild career and that I've seen more as a lawyer of seven years than she has as a lawyer of forty. But I've gotten it into my head that I have to be strong, I have to be independent.
Fuck me, man, I'm currently white knuckling through life and hanging on by a fucking thread. A few weeks ago I was about an hour away from checking myself in to a mental health facility until my best friends swooped in to help me. And then I went right back to work.
And then I read this book. This fucking brilliant and beautiful book written by a man who had seen the horrors of war and spilled it all over the page. And I read it for the first time as an adult with full understanding and experience of what it all means. And it hits me like a fucking truck.
And it says that you can't endure everything. That at some point you need to rest and heal. That if you take on too much you will break. And that all of that is okay.
How am I supposed to move on with my life after reading this?
im so sick of having to defend homeschooling to people. imagine if every time you brought up your childhood you had to defend everything you did from ages 3-18 to people
when u tell a homeschooled person that you don't think homeschooling can adequately educate or socialize a child you're telling them that you find them uneducated and antisocial. and you know what? you might not even know when you're doing this to someone.
rates of abuse for homeschoolers and public school children are more or less the same and that doesn't even include all the children who are abused by their teachers, coaches, school doctors, etc. the school is a hotbed of abuse as is the home and it doesn't help to sanctify either.
the number of homeschool jokes i've seen about being stupid and socially inept is crazy... and usually they just end up mocking people with intellectual disabilities/autism, which are... big reasons people choose to homeschool in the first place. because shockingly it's not great to be intellectually disabled or autistic in public school.
people will eagerly acknowledge how traumatic and unnatural the social and educational structures of public school can be. and yet when homeschoolers enter the public school system and struggle, it's proof of how homeschooling failed them, not of how insane it is to enter the rigid and confusing public school social dynamic for the first time, and how bizarre it is to go from a personalized to incredibly generalized educational setup.
im not anti public school! i think public school is a great option for most people! i think it has flaws but i think every educational system has flaws! i think homeschooling should have more legal guardrails! etc. etc. etc.! but the comfort some people have with passing blanket judgements on highly variable educational systems when they have little to no interaction with the community and culture surrounding that lifestyle is insane to me.
reaches a point where i have to start listing test scores to convince people homeschooling didn't make a total fool of me and then they go "well standardized tests don't even measure intelligence" and i'm like ok will there ever be any way for me to prove to you that i'm not stupid? or will you just go through life with this view unchallenged?
god i know it's stupid to be mad at people for passing blanket judgements when i'm thriving in my career and education and no amount of judgement can take that from me... but god i can't stand it sometimes. please stay off reddit y'all or you'll post 8 page rants on tumblr about it.
ok im normal again
Do you have a source for the claims that abuse rates are the same between homeschooling and public schooling? I'm not disagreeing with you! I've just always been told the opposite is true, and I'd like more info on it.
its actually very inconclusive both the only concrete data gathered has been by admittedly biased sources. but in extreme cases of abuse/torture/death, a frequent recurring pattern is that the children are pulled out of school very shortly before the primary incident (i.e., after repeated reports by mandated reporters at school have failed to render any change), which makes it look like a majority of extreme abuse cases happen in homeschool families, when in fact these are public school families who pulled their kids out of school very shortly before torturing or killing their child (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0145213425001103). families that cps was already monitoring and failing to intervene with. as far as it can be told, there's no clear link between homeschooling and increased rates of abuse (https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15582159.2022.2108879#abstract), which some claim is due to lack of contact with mandated reporters (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0145213425001103), but almost every homeschool family i knew outsourced at least some of their education or extracurricular to an external teacher/summer camp counselor/etc. which means we still came in contact with many mandated reporters. in general as rates of homeschooling across the country have increased, abuse and abuse-related deaths have decreased (https://www.cwla.org/national-data-shows-decline-in-child-abuse-and-neglect/).
Oh that actually makes so much sense! Thank you for explaining this. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain this with nuance instead of dropping the links.
can we not do this
I would be dead without the psychiatric professionals i have and had in my life
LMAO
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can we not do this
I would be dead without the psychiatric professionals i have and had in my life
How are u gonna be in a first world country and be blackpilled. People would kill to be in your shoes. Get up and fucking do something dude don't be lazy miserable and trying to spread ur stupid ideology telling everyone to just give up. Keep those thoughts to ur diary or something idk damn I can't stand that shit.
Thoughts on DOD removing hundreds of religions from the recognized list?
The list dictates who gets services on base and deployed, what burial services are available, and what religions are protected from discrimination in the military, among other things.
I'm afraid very bad things are coming for everyone who falls on that removed list, much like immigrants are already experiencing
I mean, it ain't great?
I not too concerned about bad things happening to the groups no longer named, it doesn't appear to be targetting religions affiliated with any specific groups.
I'm more concerned that almost all the remaining religions are flavors of Christianity, and not actually different religions. It's another step towards the pathway of making Christianity the state religion of the country.
Luckily, its not one that the military itself seems thrilled about based on responses. Even military.com is saying that its a "not so hidden agenda" and a "push towards Christian theocracy". There was also a sub-heading calling it a "Middle finger to the constitution".
I mean, it's all going to come down to antisemitism and Islamophobia.
Current estimates put about the same amount of Wiccans in the Military (10k-20k last I checked) as some of the other religious groups that are still recognized. But because we're a decentralized religion, we often don't get the same recognition culturally as other groups. That makes eliminating us from the books easy.
And that's why it's the canary in the coal mine.
Get rid of groups like us and no one bats an eye -- but it sets the precedent to start going after other religious minorities. "We stopped protecting the rights of Wiccan service members, so why not take it way from Jewish people? Or the Muslims? There are about the same amount or fewer service members who are a part of those religions!" You always start with the people no one will raise a stink over.
But on a lesser note, it is frustrating on it's face too, because we had to fight to get recognition to begin with. It's going to be harder for Pagan service members to have their religious needs recognized. Just because the attack isn't really meant for us and that other people are going to feel the hurt more doesn't mean it doesn't also suck.
Maybe I phrased things poorly?
I meant that its another step in the administration's ongoing campaign to install Christianity as the State Religion rather than an individual operation against those specific religions such that you'd expect further persecution beyond lack of recognition (at this point). They've got to first establish their State Religion before they can persecute anyone for not being part of the State Religion.
And my other point, was that people are making a stink. This is not "no one batting an eye", this is a lot of people being outraged and offended and calling it a betrayal of why they serve. This is not something that it appears that the military is just going along with and that is good for the servicemembers on the ground. And its good to slow down further movement, because there is a lot of backlash coming from a lot of different sources- including Christian ones.
All I can think of is that in Australia, "Jedi" is recognized as a religion followed by about 4% of the country. People think it's funny, but like, as far as I know the Jedi do have an actual belief system, and if you find it helpful to you, sure, why not. Scientology got to be a religion and it's openly a pop-culture scam, I don't see why people can't find meaning and purpose in a religion that started in pop culture.
Meanwhile over here they're ditching Wicca? WICCA?? Like probably the best known of the so-called "new age" religions??
They stopped recognizing all religions except for Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Baha'i, Hinduism, Buddhism, and Sikhism.
I don't think it a coincidence that all but one are either theoretically monotheistic or considerd compatible with monotheism. After all, there are about four times as many Wiccans in the US than followers of Baha'i, making it pretty clear it was never a numbers game.
My guess is the only reason they kept Hinduism is that it was too entrenched and established for them to find an excuse to drop this round. Depending on the strength and length of the backlash, dropping Hinduism would likely be their next move.
....holy fuck.
That is.
Yeah.
No.
I'm calling my rep over this.
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The only European leader who didn’t betray Iranians for oil so far
that's awfully rich from the "elections suspended until the coming of some messias" zeleboba.
also, given the extremes to which the current ukrop government goes to bolster the ranks, he's at least speaking from experience.
That's Jeff Bezos rich from someone who oh so innocently fails to mention that Iran has been giving Russia drones to bomb Ukraine since October 2022.
13.2K likes on an explicitly antisemitic post, saying that no jews should have ever lived in Palestine past, present and future. The juice box emoji is a dogwhistle for jews because jews and juice sound similar.
If if was just "bad faith actors" who were crossing the line into antisemitism, why the fuck does that post have that many likes.
I mean aside from the blatant lies this post is peddling, it takes a real idiot to understand THAT from the post.
if Israel - where there are arabs and jews living together is lush and green,
and gaza - where they dedicate every resource to murdering jews is desolate, why are you assuming jews existing is the issue lmao
sorry for the dog bölls but he is dead buggin it on the couch with me rn and he's ZONKED totally asleep in this position
Can confirm. Here are my two completely unrelated pharaoh hounds.
The roaching roachers...
Thistle’s pro tip - using another dog as a pillow for either your head or front legs vastly improves the experience
Have you guys seen that clip
Go off Kermit
we're just normal men
Why the heck is this dude trying to confirm if the frog puppet is hetrosexual???
assessing the situation before he shoots his shot
Happy Pride to Kermit the Frog, questioning king
yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.
I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.
It very much does make sense.
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Shout out to trans women who aren’t computer scientists or musicians or avant-garde artists or whatever.
Shout-out to tgirls who work at Taco Bell. Thank u queen, society would collapse without you
Over twenty years ago my big brother got me a job at a Taco Bell in the St. Louis suburbs-West County. He warned me that it was the “gay Taco Bell”, but since I was coming from the “gay Howard Johnson’s” I wasn’t shocked. It turns out it was the black trans women Taco Bell complete with black trans women in management. And they’d worked out an arrangement with the local teen Narcotics Anonymous group so that twice a week we would shut down the drive thru and the dining room and exclusively serve 60+ teens in various stages of recovery. And many of the women I worked with were in various stages of being out or transitioning and they were from all generations from teens to over 50. One woman I worked with had a regular corporate job presenting as a man 9-5 Mon-Fri and then came to Taco Bell and worked 6pm -2am Friday and Saturday night so she could be herself surrounded by other black transwomen in those stolen weekends. And we had customers come from all over the metro area because they knew they could be themselves in the dining room. I only worked there from 1999-2001 but for young me, this was a vital, formative experience. Some of the girls came from north city all the way out to the “gay Taco Bell” on Manchester in west county because they heard it was safe to work there. Like- I know times have changed but they haven’t changed much in 20 years. I’m still convinced that for lgbt youth, finding a job at your city’s version of the “gay Taco Bell” is key to survival.
Thank u for sharing this with us
it never ceases to upset me when i follow a queer/trans content creator and then they randomly out that theyre transandrophobic. it just really fucking sucks
unfortunately when you are a trans man who follows trans/queer content creators, no matter how trans friendly they paint themselves to be, you just dont know how they feel about trans men before they explicitly talk about trans men. its not like how we as trans people dont know a content creators view on trans people until they say it because you can follow an account that has been openly pro trans for YEARS and then one day theyll just drop that theyre not transMASC friendly. and those two things are different. we as trans men will follow accounts that are trans friendly and often times also run by trans people, only to be slapped in the face with the fact that a lot of people exclude trans men in their trans activism, if they arent outright hateful to us. and i feel like those are just very different things
