HOW MUCH LONGER CAN SHE GO ON?

Deep sigh. You want me to ~be compassionate~ here's the compassionate answer: your trauma will tell you you're a helpless child forever and you need to Not Think This Way for yourself (living under the assumption you're still in danger whether you actually are or not) and everyone else who has to tiptoe around your Sensitivity. That's how you break the cycle and you can only do this by accepting responsibility for your actions. And it seems like a small semantic thing but imo step one is calling yourself a survivor instead of a victim. Self identifying with your victimhood helps No One. You lived, now get up

I think the biphobic misconception that bisexual women only date men and bisexual men only date men may have a correlation to the fact that there is always a man freaky and horny in your DMs no matter what. It isn’t that bisexual women are secretly straight or that bisexual men are secretly gay, it’s that men are out there behaving like starving dogs and you feel so bad you end up feeding one, you know? Anyway, this coffee is a medium and I ordered a large. It’s okay, it’s busy in here, I get it.

Its so funny being a person who loves to chat but never knows what to talk about. I feel like Hi Can we play staring and breathing together.

Having someone secretly analyze your behavior and without your knowledge use those things they've studied to manipulate you is weird even if the outcome was ultimately for the better. I would rather someone want to talk to me about the anxiety they are perceiving than some weird "dog training" bs and no matter how many people want to misintpret me im not taking back my opinion. And at the end of the day my beef is with something EVERYONE has beef with not being aware to make decision for yourself

Not “Only my reading of canon is correct” or “Interpretations are subjective and all valid” but a secret third thing, “More than one interpretation can be valid but there’s a reason your English teacher had you cite quotes and examples in your papers, you have to have a strong argument that your interpretation is actually supported by the text or it is just wrong and I’m fine with telling you it’s wrong, actually.”

If the text says the curtains are blue you can argue about what that means; but if you’re going to claim they’re actually yellow you’d better have a really good argument.

i know the curtains better than the author. thank you for coming to my ted talk

Fandom has such unresolved mommy/daddy issues about authors. If you apply a little reading comprehension skills to my original post you’ll see I didn’t say anything at all about the author. You guys always make “interpretation” about your beef with the author. You’re all obsessed with the author. This post is just about deciphering what is there in canon. Figuring out what is being communicated by the canon itself with all the words and images and basic formal elements that are there in canon. That’s all it’s about. It really doesn’t matter if the author intentionally put all those things there in a pattern that might support the idea that this one character’s queer. That’s not what this is about. What matters is if you can compellingly argue there’s a pattern of evidence there. Or not. Everyone is conspiring together to make me go insane still adding shit about authorial intent on my post.

“Shane wouldn’t be comfortable around visibly queer people” you guys… I mean yea we can say this as a like jokey headcanon or whatever or we could look at the text and see that when Shane does in fact meet a visibly queer person, he notes this man is explicitly visibly queer in his presentation, notes that he used to think he couldn’t be gay because he wasn’t anything like that — and feels immediately ashamed of himself for his initial reaction of discomfort and wariness, and then proceeds to be dazzled by this man for the rest of the night, noting over and over how confident and elegant and stunning he is as a visibly queer man. Like joke all you want but I think Shane realizing being visibly gay is not a bad thing is like actually beautiful and a worthwhile part of his development

and i Do think a lot of flanderization/woobification of both shane and ilya comes from people having a limited understanding of what professional athletes are Like and what goes into pursuing and maintaining a career. this goes doubly for shane and ilya, who are the elite of the elite. that does not happen without immense amounts of intentionality, dedication, discipline, and love for the sport

Please keep interacting with this post because when I come to tumblr to procrastinate, this shows up again in my notifications and guilts me into writing again

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.