IT'S CALLED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! COMPASSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT EMPATHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE WORD YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IS COMPASSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm gonna say it, I do think that even the laziest person imaginable should have a roof over their head, food in their stomach, and access to healthcare
I don't know why people are acting like Susie and Ralsei ruined Kris's "big chance" with Pink, because if you choose "Gotta win" after they tell Pink they were just flirting to win the battle they literally turn to the camera and peace sign
Happy disability pride monthg . i need to stop putting off buying a wheelchair and noise cancelling earmuffs and sunglasses and a corset and a shoulder harness and chew toys and
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1. there will always be someone more severely affected by their disability than you are, this does not mean you aren't disabled, or that your struggles aren't real. these disabled people are not your enemy.
2. visibly disabled people are not treated better than invisibly disabled people, there are different struggles to both.
3. visibly & severely disabled people are not lucky for being visibly disabled or severely disabled. this belief is ableist.
4. we all need to keep the more severely disabled people in mind, they are the most vulnerable & this is disability justice 101.
5. there will always be severely disabled people in public, you absolutely need to work on your discomforts about the conditions/aids/symptoms/behaviours they might have; drooling, incontinence, "odd" behaviours, visible differences, use of AAC etc. this is a you problem, not a them problem.
6. there will always be symptoms of disabilities that you don't approve of; zero social awareness, cognitive impairments, violent meltdowns, strong smells & loud noises, being nonverbal/semiverbal etc. no one can force you to like it, but you cannot be cruel to them regardless of your opinions, again, this is a you problem & not a them problem.
7. you can still be ableist even if you yourself are disabled, this isn't always internalised, it can also be outright ableism.
8. caregivers of severely disabled people often play an important role in disability spaces, try not to *immediately* discount their experiences, unless they're truly over stepping, are being factually incorrect/uneducated or ableist. (caregivers can come with unique problems in disability spaces, 100%, but they are not inherently bad)
9. severely disabled people will have experiences you do not have, it is not an attack on you when these experiences are talked about.
10. “people wouldn’t say [ableist thing] to a wheelchair user” yes they would and yes they do.
and yes, some of these things that i've mentioned still applies to less severely disabled people, but goes especially for severely disabled people who often experience these things the most. be kind, be compassionate.
When you tell someone about being mistreated because of your disability, there is a common response that goes something along the lines of, "But did you explain to them properly why you can't do x thing?" "Did you make sure they understood why you need x accomodation?" "Maybe they just didn't understand?"
For example: "Did you properly explain that the reason you don't do hugs is because of your autism?" or "Maybe they don't really understand how bad fibro fatigue is and that's why they got upset at you for concelling plans."
I hate these kind of responses. They give me the same vibe as being asked, "Yeah, but what were you wearing when you got catcalled?" They put the responsability for the problem onto the person who was discriminated against, instead of the one doing the discriminating. Disabled people should not be expected to go through grueling explanations or justify their needs before those needs are respected.
I’d die on the hill that “stranger danger” is a deeply unhelpful mentality to have. “Ooooh everyone is out to get me they’re all gonna perpetrate harm that’s actually more likely to come from someone I already know. I better never talk to anyone in my community who I don’t already know, just to be safe. I’m sure there are no other biases interwoven with this mentality” like oh my god human traffickers do not just randomly spawn in every parking lot. You don’t have to go solo hitchhiking across the country but you also don’t have to live in fear that every guy on the street is the knife man who’s gonna get you. Like have situational awareness, yeah. But most of the time the guy on the street is not knife man he’s actually just a guy on the street and he’s probably pretty chill, and you’re driving yourself crazy by living in a constant state of unnecessary fear.
Is anyone else constantly bothered by the fact that all of a child's medical care is required to go through their parents? That they must rely on these people to decide when they do or don't need medical care?
No matter how injured. If a parent doesn't deem it necessary to see a doctor, it doesn't happen. Teachers can suggest a doctor visit, but unless it's a very acute injury (and even then), it's ultimately up to the parents.
You can be 13. Twisted, maybe broken ankle. You teacher lets you sit out in PE. She's concerned, and tells you to rest when you go home, and see a doctor. You get home, ur parents fill a bath and add some Epsom salts, and then laugh at you for using it moms old colorguard stick as a cane. Take some ibuprofen they say. It's just a little sprain, ur a kid.
You go to school the next day, go to ur office assistant time. Office calls ur mom to come get you, because you're clearly in too much pain for school. Your mom laughs when she gets you, says you just were so determined not to miss school. Scolds you for making the office ladies worry.
You never see a doctor for the injury.
Your parents come into the exam room at every visit. This does not stop with age, except for gynecologist. But your parents are on the medical release forms. They fill them out for you, with you. You do not get to take them off.
You never get to tell s doctor about the ankle. Even though it never quote healed right, and it hurts every day.
Then your 18. In college. Still on your parents insurance, and have no car. The on campus clinic only does std testing. You fall down some stairs. Same injury. You call your parents, crying from the pain. You are using a mop as a cane. They console you and say to have a bath, take some meds, and let them know how it feels in a few days. You end up borrowing your roommates rolling chair to get around for the weekend.
By Monday, you can walk again. You walk miles to class every day. You ask to see a doctor, but your parents won't drive the hour to come take you, and you don't have the insurance card. You are still at their mercy for medical care. The ankle tries to heal again. This time worse than before. The tendons click with every step.
Now you're in your twenties. Finally have your own healthcare. You see a doctor. You get to mention the ankle! They say it's been too long to really even know what was damaged. That you have arthritis now. It healed wrong but it can no longer be fixed.
I'm 32 now. My ankle tells me the weather. I wear boots to keep it stable. What could have been a funny story about a fall and a cast has become a lifetime injury. Because children do not have access to medical care without a parents approval.
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The 4th of July brings sudden noises and flashing lights that can bring distress to people with disabilities and/or pets! These are my tips to you as someone with PTSD/autism and anxious pets.
The end part is seizure first aid and how to handle someone else having a seizure if you are nearby!
♿️ People with Disabilities ! (e.g; PTSD, anxiety, epilepsy)
- Try to pinpoint exactly when and where fireworks will occur in your area, this is to eliminate a "startle" factor. If your neighbors set off fireworks, prepare at least an hour before 8pm. People start setting fireworks off at around 9pm to 10pm ; probably longer because they don't necessarily consider us or pets nearby until an officer stops them.
- Sensory blocking is KEY!!!! Headphones, TV, shutting the blinds, or hiding out in the bathroom works too.
- Keep any medications nearby! Melatonin, panic attack medications, and so forth. They may be needed.
- Try to have doctors or trusted people on speed dial if possible. Seizures, panic attacks, and other conditions may require medical attention.
- Grounding techniques are your best friend. Try to engage your senses in the moment, whether it be taste, smell, touch, and so forth.
- Hydration and nutrition helps!!!! Even if you feel that sinking feeling or you're going out to a firework show; drink plenty of water and keep snacks on you!
If you're like me and have a particular dislike towards the taste of water, I suggest flavored electrolyte water like Propel or Powerade! This will combat the summer heat and lower seizure/panic attack thresholds.
💚 For Friends, Family, or Neighbors of Disabled folks.
- Ask in advance about what triggers them, what the coping plan is, and how to help if they get overwhelmed. Most people with disabilities know their disability best!
- If you choose to light fireworks near their home, do try to keep them away from their area. Warn them via text, call, or quickly checking on them in person before starting so they aren't too startled by the sudden noise or flash.
- If you attend a public show, try to park your car in an easy-to-reach place and stay nearby. Make sure you're both on the same page around leaving if things get stressful.
🤍 Strangers
- If you see someone who appears distressed or overstimulated, ask calmly if there is anything you can do to help them in the moment! Respect their answer if they say no.
- If someone is experiencing a panic attack, sensory meltdown, or a seizure, keep crowds back! Give the person physical space and privacy from onlookers.
🐾 Pets with Disabilities
- Ensure you secure your environment. Try to keep them indoors, in cages, and/or in a space where they can't escape.
- Drown out the noise for them! Playing the TV, turning on a fan, or any other white noise to muddle the sounds of fireworks.
- It's common for pets run away on the 4th of July. Please make sure your pet has identification tags or a microchip, even if they don't normally wear a collar or get out.
- Pets cannot have medication meant for humans. Please speak to a vet about anxiety medications or calming pheromone diffusers. Some pet stores carry calming treats. Administer such medications at least an hour or 30 minutes before fireworks! Some anxious pets won't take the medication or treat if they're already going off!
🍖 Loose or Panicked Pets
- Keep a spare leash on you or a treat pouch in your car! This may help to secure loose pets without cornering them.
- Please be careful and approach lose pets with caution. Frightened animals may bite or scratch out of fear. Crouch, avoid eye contact, and speak softly. Do not offer hands or fingers for them to smell, but I suggest throwing treats in their direction to secure them.
- Check for identification. Collars or taking them to a local vet/shelter to scan for microchips.
- Post them on local boards! Taking a clear picture of pets and sharing them to community boards to find the owner (whether public or shelters).
SEIZURE FIRST AID.
The most critical rule of seizure first aid is to keep the person safe until the seizure stops naturally. Most seizures end on their own within a few minutes.
Stay with the person until the seizure ends and they are fully awake.
Move away sharp objects, hard furniture, or tight hazards.
If they are unconscious, roll them onto their side to keep their airway clear.
Note the exact start and end time of the active shaking.
Place something soft like a jacket or cushion under their head.
Undo buttons or ties around the neck to aid breathing.
Never hold the person down or try to stop their movements.
Never put anything in their mouth; it is anatomically impossible for the person to "swallow their tongue".
Speak softly and reassuringly to them as they regain consciousness.
"When should I call 911???"
The active seizure lasts longer than 5 minutes.
A second seizure begins right after the first one ends.
The person is injured, pregnant, or has an underlying health condition like diabetes.
The person struggles to breathe or does not wake up after shaking stops.
If the seizure happens in water or another dangerous environment.
The person has never had a known seizure before.
"Isn't She Lovely" is very explicitly a song about Black joy, specifically the joy of Black parenthood. Stevie Wonder's first daughter, whose birth the song is about, is named Aisha, which means "life" and "prosperity". If you need the evidence any clearer, the opening of the song features a newborn's cries, and in the extended version there's a long instrumental section over audio of Stevie giving Aisha a bath.
It doesn't surprise me that "Isn't She Lovely" was used as a coming-out allegory— transitioning can definitely feel like a sort of rebirth— but it saddens me that it was at the expense of the song's Black core. Considering Goose and her track record, this was likely a fully conscious decision and not simply an ignorant misstep.
Tbh if you want to claim to be supportive of pw mental illness you NEED to learn to be more normal and kind to schizo-spec people!!! Stop calling people delusional/crazy when they’re being ignorant or just flat out bigoted. Stop trying to “reality check” random people you don’t even know. Stop making fun of people with disorganized speech. Stop knowingly posting false information (example: posting a picture saying “goodbye 2016, hello 2017”) without tagging it as unreality. Stop using terms like “schizo posting” or “delulu”. Just be more kind and considerate overall as well
B-but people with micropenises are my emotional support minority to bully!! 🥺🥺 B-but it's funny that their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 B-but I only make fun of BAD people by calling their penises small!! 🥺🥺 I have good reason to make fun of people with micropenises!! 🥺🥺 It's not intersexism if it's funny!! 🥺🥺 It's sooo funny because their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 Guys it's sooo funny come on!! 🥺🥺
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