sarah

When there is no starting or ending to love how could it be "one"

I believe love is in phases

And every phase is different

Sometimes love comes in the form of crushes, when someone makes you blush but that's it. You don't even want anything more cause you know this is it and you are OK with it.

Then there comes a phase when you care about him a bit more than needed and you think he is the one but you don't show him to your friends and fam cause deep down you know you don't deserve him and at the end you choose yourself instead of his love.

Then there's this phase when he is perfect and everyone thinks you both are made for each other and you are almost engaged but sometimes heart wants more than just "made for each other".

And sometimes we are in a "love is not made for me" kinda phase when suddenly someone starts keeping track of all the things you hate or like and reads all the books you love and tries to act like your favorite fictional character. And I'm not saying this is the final phase but

No one made sure they love themselves

No one explained them how to overcome their insecurities

So maybe you were born to them not as a kid but as a parent they never had

To show them they are enough

That their insecurities are only in their head

And that they matter, no matter what.

Maybe for a second, ask them to take a breath and exhale all the pent up emotions they never got to process,

cause their parents did not had the courage to go against the societal norm.