sapphic male moment

Hot take but rigid divisions between queer identities and heavily-policed labels that are treated like diagnoses are really, really bad.

lot of terfs have been reblogging this so I may as well publicly state that the woman on the right is modeled with permission after my transfemme friend. if you relate to it as strongly as many of you claim in the tags I urge you to reflect upon that with empathy and compassion about the depth of experiences you truly do share with trans women.

not sure what to put as the caption but. yeah!!!!

Here’s my take on this.

If a trans woman tells you she’s straight and your response is to say “I’m sorry”, I want you to know that you’re gross. You’re putting down the sexualities of queer people when we tell you who we are.

Happy pride to everyone, but I want to do a special shout out to intersex people, transhets, enbyhets, hetaces, arohets, and aroace hets. Wether you consider yourself a part of the community or not, you are always welcome, even if others act like you aren't. Our voices matter. We are here and we queer.

Happy pride to the 'cringe' and 'weird' queer/trans people. The people who collect microlabels like pokemon cards. The people who use only neopronouns. The people who dress in bright colours and have fun names. The people who use a variety of nounself pronouns, or no pronouns at all. The people who use labels that 'conflict' with each other. You are so very important and you enrich our community more than you will ever know.

Happy Pride Month to all the weird lesbians out there. It doesn’t matter if other people think you’re valid, you are.

no more "just give them a chance, maybe you'll end up liking them!", no more "if you're going to reject someone, at least apologize to them!", no more shaming people for breaking up/divorcing, no more demonizing people for rejecting other peoples' romantic advances, no more shoving romance in romance repulsed peoples' face on purpose to provoke us, no more "i know we agreed to just be friends with benefits, but i thought you were going to fall in love with me eventually!", no more "i can fix them" when the only thing "wrong" with them is that they want to fuck without dating.

A friend I used to hang out with every week once confessed his feelings for me, which I didn't reciprocate. I wanted to stay friends, didn't see why we couldn't, we had been friends the whole time without any romance, why did that have to change? but he decided to stop hanging out with me.

#people think that relationships are made of two parts#one part being ~Love~ (when it is Real it is perfect and pure and incapable of harm)#and Lust (dangerous and only ever potentially safe when tamed by a high amount of Real Love)#and thus they can only imagine that harm done in or relating to a relationship#is because of a lack of Real (romantic) Love + the presence of Lust#also i say relationship instead of just romantic relationship#because i dont think allo society is actually that good at distinguishing between types of relationships#they don't really see friendships between people who could potentially date as its own form of relationship#as much as a liminal space waiting room between being strangers and being romantic#anyways it's so fucking annoying how insistently people think that romance is only harmful because either#the person doesn't Really Love You or they ONLY want to fuck you (inherently a shallow thing to want as well!)#amatonormativity has such a grip people genuinely struggle to imagine that genuine feelings of romantic love#can be anything other than inherently good and beneficial#op you are NOT overreacting people just don't fucking understand what it's like being aroallo#and they don't give us nearly as much grace as we deserve when we get frustrated with this shit