sapphic male moment

I was heartbroken and felt tossed aside. I didn't understand why our friendship wasn't worth anything to him if he couldn't have me romantically or sexually. I felt betrayed and dehumanised, like I didn't matter to him as a person but only as a romantic prospect.

When I told other friends about it, to my surprise they all sided with him. "He is heartbroken, it's hard to get rejected" even my THERAPIST said this. It's not like I didn't empathize with him, but wasn't I rejected too? No one else could see that but me, they placed me as some sort of villain that had power over him in that situation, when all I did was set a boundary between friendship and romance. All I did was not consent to the terms he wanted for our relationship, I rejected them, my terms were different and he rejected those.

I've had my heart broken by friends over and over and it hurt the same, if not more, than any romantic heartbreak. Why is friendship undervalued next to romantic feelings?

i desperately need people to stop avoiding what this post is actually about. stop derailing and trying to make it be about something else instead.

THIS POST IS ABOUT ROMANTIC CONSENT.

even if the person in question didn't want to fuck them, even if he just wanted a wholesome, purely romantic, nothing sexual at all relationship, it would STILL be fucked up to BLAME someone for rejecting that.

similarly, if someone really wanted to just fuck, but they were honest and clear about that, and handled rejection gracefully, there would be literally no issue with that.

you'll never believe. whose main blog that post was from. hi, it's me, tumblr user radioactive-yuri, formerly known as thermodynamic-comedian. this is my side blog. and a good few years ago, i made that very post on my main blog.

with all the bs discourse we have to deal with that often demonizes, erases, and belittles us, my hope is that everyone who belongs to these groups has at least one good experience this June.

[Image ID: A flag that is divided into six rectangles of equal size. On the left side from top to bottom they are: black, brown, then tan. On the right side from top to bottom they are: white, pink, then coral. A second image contains the same flag, but with text over each rectangle. From left to right, top to bottom, the text reads, “Personhood, peace, community, healing, individuality, resistance.” End image ID.]

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⚠️ TW: This term is a reclamation of objectification, dehumanization, and sex- and gender-related bigotry. This includes transphobic, intersexist, ableist and racist bigotry. 

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Term coining! (Not a xenogender)

Gendermutt: A term for those oppressed or otherwise marginalized on the basis of their gender and/or sex. This term is a sort of reclamation for those who identify with, or feel their gender is affected by several different bigotries one experiences; Being treated as subhuman or nonhuman, being reduced to only one’s body, being treated as a mistake or mess, and so on.

This is not exclusive to any one people or experience. It is open to all peoples who experience bigotry on the basis of their gender and/or sex. Some examples include:

Cisgender perisex women

Two spirit people

Intersex, altersex, and varsex people of any kind

Cisgender perisex people of color whom differentiate their own gender (or gendered experience) from that of white people (for any reason)

Transgender people

Gender non-conforming people

Cisgender perisex disabled people whom differentiate their own gender (or gendered experience) from that of non-disabled people (for any reason)

And many more not covered here!

This term should never be used for another person without consent, especially considering the derogatory connotations. Even if someone technically fits under this label, it should be their choice to identify with it, not something assumed onto them.

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The colors were based off of common mammalian features. They reflect fur, hair, skin, bones, teeth, and so on. This is to highlight the dehumanization gendermutts experience, while also reminding others of our humanity.

The layout is meant to look patched together. This is to highlight how gendermutts are treated as mistakes, messes, or unnatural, while also honoring our chosen families, solidarity between separate peoples, and how we live our true selves intentionally.

Stripe meanings are as follows:

Black - Personhood

Brown - Community

Tan - Individuality

White - Completeness

Pink - Healing

they do not do anything to harm you. the trans man that lives in Yemen doesn't care you don't think lesbian trans men cannot be possible.

[PT: Bigender Wolf].

Bigender Wolf: a themed flag for when one is bigender and connects to wolves in any way.

Happy Gift Day to Ignis of @stars-of-the-universes from Mod Stardrop!