"Even in a non-patriarchal context, unless non-technological parthenogenesis has been achieved, creating a pregnancy would necessarily entail procuring sperm, and that normally means that a male somewhere has achieved orgasm which is usually considered pleasing to men. Human reproduction itself in every context may therefore be dependent on (or at least inexorably linked to) male-pleasing.
Mothers think they have a legitimate claim of authority over everyone, including their own children, other people’s children, and importantly over child-free women, who mothers regard as overgrown babies no matter how old or experienced we are. But this claim of authority is not based in anything legitimate, and maternal authority is therefore not a legitimate authority at all.
In reality, being male-pleasing is not a positive trait or a worthwhile activity and (therefore) actually imbues mothers with less legitimate authority than women who are not (or who are less) male pleasing."
This is a great take on matriarchy. Matriarchy is patriarchy 2.0. You cannot have a society that is supposedly liberated of patriarchy, while women are having sex with men and are expected to have sex with men. As long as sex with men and reproduction exist, there is no liberation. Such a society as matriarchy would be hell for childfree women and women who don't want to be around men/don't want to have sex with men.
The majority of women don't want to be liberated. They want to get fucked by men and they will gladly accept the subjugation of the women who don't want to have sex with men. As long as women fuck men, rape and male violence will exist, because these women will want to keep men around.
We will always live in a patriarchy, because women choose it.
"“I feel like motherhood is one of the few ways women are shown they can control someone the same way they’ve been controlled all their lives (hi, cycle of abuse). ”
I also wanted to say I have for a long time thought the same. Motherhood is essentially one of the only contexts in which a woman accesses almost total power over another human being, and so provides her with ample opportunity to vent her frustrations about being powerless in all other contexts. I think a lot of mothers abuse their daughters because they like the idea of another woman suffering the way that they have (in addition to their internalized and externalized misogyny – mothers hate their daughters because all male identified women hate other women, and they also see the daughters as themselves to a degree, which manifests the internalized misogyny).
Also I think boymoms enjoy being an honorary male through their sons; they get to vicariously abuse, humiliate, objectify, degrade, insult, etc other women through their sons, which is something they never get to do themselves. By having a son she feels she gets to partake in male ‘power.’ (Not really power, just abuse, but male identified women think males have genuine power, sadly.)"
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