depressed soul

Make sure you don't accidentally punish people for communicating their needs and boundaries. When someone cares enough to have the uncomfortable conversation, that's a compliment and a clear sign that they are invested in the relationship. Yes of course it's uncomfortable to hear that something you've been doing has been upsetting someone you care about when that was never your intention, but people generally only bother to have these conversations with the people they want to keep around - the people they trust to care. If they just didn't like you, they'd probably just try to avoid you. So make sure you don't make it into a more punishing experience than it has to be. Try to see the care and the trust behind the criticism, even when it triggers uncomfortable emotions. It's a good sign that they're there telling you.

it’s crazy to me how people play the victim in a situation they created ..

I need you people to realize that you can be friends with people older than you. like, much older than you. like, decades older than you. you can be friends with these people. regular friends, just like anyone your age. it is possible.

learning lately that a lot of confidence is about owning up. like "yeah i'm a little addicted to my phone right now" or "yeah i'm not really over this person yet" or "yeah i still get pretty anxious in crowds" just saying anything at all but then following it up w "but i'm trying to get better" and being super nonchalant and unaffected. so powerful. you would literally be undefeatable in the face of even the most judgmental person. no one can judge you for things you already know about yourself and are trying to improve on. the trick is to know yourself from the inside out, to hold yourself accountable, and to actively improve every day. like that is literally the secret to never feeling like you're at the mercy of somebody else's judgment

your failures do not mean you have permanently failed. just means one thing didn’t work out or go as planned, and you can still keep trying other things.

the more we close off from our emotions, the more we avoid listening to them, the stronger and out of control they will (seem to) become, and we will misunderstand them more easily.

when you keep putting effort and work in the wrong direction, giving too much to people who cannot give you back as you need (or that you don't allow giving you back because of some fear eg. of not being enough or being betrayed/used), it really makes you more stressed, tired and resentful too. the moment you realize things are out of balance, take a break. the answers are within you, and in your communication so listen to yourself, don't cage yourself more into such situations.

I will forever love simple, domestic things let’s bake together, go grocery shopping, drive around, just spend time together

i think people should talk more about the unique sense of hopelessness which stems from the realization that “help” in the form myth promised you does not exist; there is no help coming and you must create from scratch the tools that will dismantle (or at least diminish) your own suffering, and do this not once but every day for the rest of your life

I hope you still think of me.

Part of me still wants you, but the rest of me knows we were never meant to fit.