Gray

Before age 11: [deadname], never heard of lgbtq, not thinking abt pronouns or labels but ig cishet, she/her ig??

Age 11: [deadname]/[nickname], heard of gay and lesbian, still not rly thinking abt labels, cishet still ig, she/they

Age 12: [deadname]/[nickname], learns more abt lgbtq, asexual, idkromantic, cis girl ig, she/they

Nearly 13: [nickname], starts questioning nonbinary/agender, questioning sexuality, they/them

Age 13: [old preferred name], questioning nonbinary, aroace cupioromantic, they/them

Later age 13: [old preferred name], settles on agender, aroace cupioromantic, they/xe (later goes back to they/them for afew mths)

Current (14): Rowan, agender, aroace, omni-alterous, aegosexual, they/he/any neos

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Before age 11: homophobic transphobic so cis and ‘heterosexual’ i had a fat crush on aleah if yall know who she is lmfao

age 11: oh look i kinda fw gay and trans people. me and aleah had this one conversation “yAHHH i say im bisexual but ill prolly marry a man cuz my mum” “yAHHH saymeee”

age 12: idk vro.

age 13: maybe im pan. oh wait nvm im a Muslim wife now WHAT GUYS LOOK MY KEYBOARD CAUGHT IN 4K

age 14: morosexual

@moro-thekebab-noodles you tag everyone :3

Before age 11: default settings (straight), she/her, heard about LGBTQ sometimes

age 11: default settings, ally, they/them, but got shamed by my cousin so she/them

age 12: bisxual, she/her, ally

age 13: Aroace? no, bisexual, she/them, ally

age 14: pansexual, she/they/him, demisexual, leahsexual

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[Small age]: There was the gay marriage referendum and my mum taught be about how i should accept people for loving who they wanted to be. Looking back its probably one of the most important experiences of my life.

[A little older in age, approx. 2/3 years later]: learn what sexual orientation is in school in SPHE class and proudly proclaim myself lesbian at lunch time to my friends. Oh small me, what you have to learn. I have the same thought around this time that if i were a teacher, i would want to be called sir instead of miss.

[13 y.o.]: i start secondary school and my friend comes out as nonbinary and i am realising that i don't think I fit into a box anymore causing me to spiral.

[14 y.o.]: officially Aroace! Still she/her i think. Maybe a they in there for good measure. I panic when people ask me for my pronouns.

[15 y.o.]: i realise that I'm starting to like people. And that i can identify my gender as asexual. I get terrified that i may be a trans man (even though i realise know i definitely should not have been scared lol. Oh poor small me, you have so much to learn.)

[Current]: genderfluid, pronouns are she/he/they (sometimes a xe for good meaure, they change). Still on the asexual spectrum and i like people and tend not to put a label on it. There's still a lot of self discovery to go, but I'm really happy where i am right now.

And to all my mutuals, you've helped me throughout the years and its been awesome to learn from you all. If i tag you there is no pressure to respond because i know this is rather personal for some people.

before i was born/a a baby (deadname): great aunt is a lesbian, and always knew about her and was raised around queer ppl, my mother is queer, and a chosen family member of mine who i've always known is sapphic and nonbinary

3(ish) (deadname): my uncle comes out as trans, explicitly introduced to the concept of not being cis

8 (deadname): vaugely realised i wasn't cis but didn't do anything about it

12 (chosen name:Gray): realised i was not cis, identified as nonbinary with they/them pronouns and pan

13 (Gray): still identified as pan, but thought i was a binary trans man, used he/him

14 (Gray): thought i was aroace, i also realised my gender wasn't binary but i wasn't sure what flavour, i still thought it was trans masc or something, used he/they

15 (Gray): realised i wasn't aroace, i thought i was a gay guy, realised my gender wasn't binary at all, didn't explore it though, used he/they/it

16 (Gray): got super confused with sexuality and gender again, went by unlabelled for both gender and sexuality, used any pronouns but she

17 (Gray): discovered the term epicene and it clicked, i started going by any and all pronouns, i realised i was lesbian too

now/18 (Gray): any and all, epicene, and a lesbian! i identify as queer too, but i use it in the political context