the reflection family

(will keep adding to this as I create more) :

DID blog @reflectionfamily

Witchy blog @themoonwitches

Jewish conversion journey @the-jewess-in-progress

Lyric paraphrasing & poetry blog @lyrics-are-poetry

You said, "What is there to talk about?", like we were a cancelled show and not two people who bled into each other for years.

Like the only thing I ever gave you was romance. Like my voice was only valuable when it was begging.

I didn’t stop loving you. I stopped volunteering to be reduced. I stopped performing devotion for someone who treated my own needs like betrayal.

And when I offered friendship. I wasn’t offering scraps. I was offering proof that what we had was more than chemistry and control.

But you couldn’t take it, because friendship doesn’t let you win. Friendship doesn’t let you punish. Friendship doesn’t let you keep me on a leash with the word love.

So you rejected it with a line. "What is there to talk about?". Cold, clean, smug.

Translation:

“If I can’t have you the way I want, I don’t want you at all.”

And honestly? That told me everything.

You didn’t want me. You wanted the version of me that stayed. The one who swallowed discomfort to keep the peace. The one who apologized for having needs. The one who kept trying even when trying was humiliating.

You called it love.

But love doesn’t vanish the moment it loses access.

Love doesn’t turn into silence as punishment.

Love doesn’t ask for romance or nothing.

Watching the Ballerina and we did this side by side video against my picture.

this laws are usually pushed under transmisic agenda, and it's fair that trans rights advocacy addresses transmisia in these campains and laws. but these laws also affect intersex people.

some intersex people look visibly sex variant. and they are also seen as a threat to the sex and gender essentionalism. transmisia and intersexism are intertwined and may become inseparable in some parts.

intersex people are also at risk in gendered spaces. we can also be harassed, banned, charged for "violation," face various violence.

I had a psych evaluation recently, and she said at the end of it that I checked every single box for DID, but because I was schizophrenic, it was better explained by delusion, so I didn't get professionally diagnosed with it. That pissed me the fuck off given I went through months of testing just to be told that, by a different person, I would most likely be diagnosed with DID. That was the final push I needed to be pro-self diagnosis.

You know yourself best, and as long as you do your research and examine your motives behind wanting a label like dissociative identity disorder, or any other disorder/mental illness label for that matter, fucking go for it.

I am anti-psych for the most part, and the only reason I use diagnostic labels is so I can easily give someone a word that captivates all my symptoms rather than explaining the many that I exhibit.

I think that applies to language too. Not just the word system or DID but the vocabulary systems use to express themselves is yours if you find them genuinely making things easier for you. Spaces for systems to share experiences within are yours if they make you feel heard. An on-paper diagnosis of a specific CDD from a medical professional is irrelevant if using resources for systems is alleviating you of barriers you would otherwise be struggling with. Denying self-diagnosers those resources doesn't protect the hyped-up hypothetical Real System on their golden pedestal, but it does strip real people with real issues of accommodation and understanding. And everybody—EVERYBODY—deserves to be understood at the very least.

They aren't faking by default

Also, "plural" was coined to include medians - it's for anyone who's more than one, including more than one but less than two.

It was also coined to be inclusive of any type of system whether disordered or not, but the primary use of it originally was to be inclusive of non-multiples —ie, median systems.