Positive in all the ways!

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.

Strong Winds Causing This Waterfall To

I had like one, maybe two friends who were all like FUCK YEAH YOU PAINT IT WHATEVER COLOR YOU WANT, PURPLE BEDROOMS ARE AWESOME.

But when they actualy saw the finished bedroom, every single one of them was like, “Oh yeah, that’s really pretty.” (Well, the ones who supported me from the beginning were more like WOOHOO.)

My mom: What are you going to do when you need to grow it out?

Me: I dunno.

My mom: But what if you need to grow it out?

Me: ::shrugs; makes an ‘i don’t know’ noise that isn’t words but gets the feeling across::

What happened was I got my hair down to my ass, then cut it to my shoulders to start growing out the undercut. 

But that felt weird, so I ended up going full pompadour with nothing on the backs or sides.

And then I saw the first trailer for Endgame, spotted Hawkeye’s Mohawk, and went, “YES.”

So that happened for awhile. 

Then Corona. And my hair got so shaggy I shaved it down to nothing. 

It all grew back. It’d been five years since I’d had a full head of hair, and you know what I’d learned? A full head of hair is GROSS. 

So I shaved off my sides again and await the long version of my hair with an undercut. 

It’s gonna rock just as much as it did the first time. 

Other things I have done as a “full adult” that have been questioned:

Gotten MORE TATTOOS

Dyed my hair the really bright colors

Bought ever-more ridiculous shoes.

Started wearing a mask to protect myself from allergens.

Cosplayed.

Learned how to apply the most dramatic make-up.

Bought makeup palettes because 10-year-old me fucking needed a Lisa Frank palette, and now it exists.

And the list goes on.